Hooked up with a girl who was in a relationship but she became very distant, need help why?

[Anonymous]

There’s a girl I’ve been in love with for about a year, but she has a boyfriend. Last month we hanged out at a party, started talking and ended up kissing and she gave me a handjob. Then about a week later, we did the same thing.

Now here is the insane part, after the second time we hooked up, I said I thought she was always the most beautiful girl, and I like her. She said “I always knew you liked me” and then she said I like you too and kissed me.

But the next week, we saw each other, she walked right past me, didn’t say a word, and looked very upset at me. Not a word, and spent the entire time avoiding me. I tried to say hi, but she looked very upset and walked away, crazy right? Why would a girl act like this?

[Paul_in_Indy]

She’s in a relationship. You knew that. This was just hooking up. She’s not in love with you. It was/is a fling. If you want it to keep going, you have to accept that she is “cold and distant”…because she is in a relationship and you are a side piece she can hook up with.

[Rixon]

Don't you think girls are the best actors in the world? They act like they love you, use you and finally throw you and still you would believe ultimately that they loved you truly. There's nothing called true love buddy.. everything is just an act of convenience

[Asker]

Damn :/ Even though I hope you’re wrong, I think you’re right. What confuses me is why? What did she get from kissing me, jerking me off, and telling me she liked me. We didn’t even have sex, so what could she gain from this?

[Rixon]

She just want you to be crazy for her thats all.. we men are like dogs; some moment of sexual bliss, little attention and that's it now she knows you will be behind her and now she can boast to her friends that you are really behind her even though he knows am engaged or i have a boyfriend

[Rixon]

I can very well understand what you are feeling ; let me know if you need any help speaking the pain out of your heart out so that it helps you to move on.

[Asker]

That’s a lot to take in, but I’ll try to learn.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I will let a guy who I know likes me do things to me but then not want to go further, especially if I have a boyfriend. A lot of girls probably do things like this. There are a lot of grey areas.

[Asker]

But why would she get so distant? Like it’s kind of hurtful and confusing since it was like the perfect day for me. She was so happy too, and I thought it was real.

[KrakenAttackin]

She probably skipped a day of her meds.

[Opinion Owner]

She did it and then she was done and went back to her boyfriend.

[Asker]

Ah, I see, guess it only meant something for me, damn. What could a girl get from kissing a guy and giving a handjob? It wasn’t even sex, what could she have gotten from this?

[Opinion Owner]

She wanted to make you happy because she knew you liked her. I've done this for guys.

[Asker]

Oh ok, I see

[Fanfare690]

1. You did something to fuck it up
2. she's a cheater. Maybe ashamed by her actions.
Imma go with 1 &2 lol

[Asker]

I don’t think I did anything to fuck it up, cause it was few days later, we didn’t text or talk until that weird day. Her being ashamed would make her distant? Why if she was happy when we kissed and whatever we did after. It was a nice kiss too, so I’m so confused.

[KrakenAttackin]

Women don't feel guilt but they do feel shame.

[Fanfare690]

@KrakenAttackin I've felt guilty before. OP she's a cheater... who is happy when they cheat? That's why they cheat cause they not happy. Only for the time being darlin

[Asker]

Never thought of that, guess she was just unhappy. Had nothing to do with me, just right place right time.

[Fanfare690]

I'm sorry dear. Feel better

[boggboss]

Sorry are u stupid she has a boyfriend what did u think was going on here u are a fuck on the side she pretty much told you she always knew how u felt u have been used

[Asker]

Damn lol… guess you might be right. Didn’t know women used men for sex too, guess I got a lot to learn. I never cheated on a girl, so I thought if she kissed and jerked me off and whatever that I must of meant something cause why do that to your boyfriend. Damn…

[boggboss]

Lol cos u think she dont kiss and fuck him

[Asker]

Yeah, guess I should have known better. Turns out my nice day meant shit, thought it was special, but I think you’re right. It wasn’t, and I got used for whatever reason.

[Asker]

And on top of that, she is a 10, and her boyfriend is a model. But I would say I’m a 6 out of 10 at best. So guess Im gonna hit the whiskey and drink whatever is left of my brain away lol.

[boggboss]

Need to learn respect for yourself mate

[Asker]

Yeah true words

[KrakenAttackin]

Because most women are not right in the head. She was cheating on her boyfriend with you and you can be sure you aren't the only other guy she is fucking around with.

[Asker]

Oh damn… thought I had some value in her eyes, especially to cheat of her boyfriend. Guess I was wrong, since I never cheated and would probably not cheat unless it was someone I must love or whatever. Fuck, guess I got played.

[KrakenAttackin]

At least you got a couple of hand jobs. Just seen this chick as a plaything and be glad you are NOT her boyfriend as she cheats on boyfriend's. Just play it casual and see if you can get to tap her ass... but don't get emotional about her, just have fun. The more casual you are the more she will be drawn to you.

[Asker]

Yeah makes sense, makes a lot of sense. It was hard for me not to get emotionally attached cause I really liked her, but I still don’t get why she got so distant. But you’re probably right, and she don’t even care about me.

[KrakenAttackin]

The little bit of sex and "mood swings" are an effort to draw you firmly into her "Simp zone". You can pretend to be her simp as long as the sex keeps coming but don't EVER tolerate a "no sex simp zone".

[Asker]

Are the mood swings real or an act to get me simping over her? And if she keeps being distant what should I do then?