How am I still so tight and how does sex hurt? Even tho sometimes me and my fiancé have sex and I’ve been having sex for 3 years?

[Paulalove98]

I still feel tight and even teasing my fiancé with videos using toys it’s hard to put in the dildo. When we have sex it doesn’t hurt maybe if he thrusts really deep, but when we met I wasn’t a virgin, he’s the 4th guy I’ve slept with. This is nothing new for my body. Am I just naturally tight?

[bluecotton]

Look up "vaginismus." This condition exists on a spectrum. For some, penetration is terribly painful. For others, it is mildly uncomfortable. Severity can change over time as well. The vagina is naturally very elastic (think about what it has to accomodate during childbirth), but everyone is built a little different. Lubrication and foreplay can also factor in here. I hope this info helps. Happy humping!

[Jerre]

Nothing better than a tight vagina. With the right amount of foreplay you shud be wet enough so his cock will go in smoothly. Nothing feels better than a tight pussy being tight around a man’s cock. Makes me cum a lot harder.

[Jerre]

@paulalove98 Thank you for the Like

[RoseySarah]

Sorry just retyped this again

Big one... lube and maybe your body is still needing a little time for sex...

Foreplay for me involves teasing for hours before sex!

Nothing big just letting me know he wants me when getting home a spank...

Just loving teases so my body gets excited and stays excited and wants him so much!

[provokeesmokee]

Go see a doctor. Some people have very tight vaginal cavities.

Every body is different and ideally sex shouldn't hurt.

Also make sure you use a lot of lube. And foreplay is necessary to relax and ready your muscles.

[Paulalove98]

Thanks I definitely will. We are loyal and were very honest about sexual history in the beginning of our relationship as well but I think I’m just naturally tight.. it just is pressuring a bit when he goes super deep thrusting more in me but yeah other than it’s amazing lol

[Thirsty4more23]

I don’t think it’s a problem being tight, it’s just he needs to learn how to handle u and not try to force things. Lol.

[MasterKS]

There is nothing called too tight, if guys told you they just saying for impression, pussy is always flexible as per the need!

[Paulalove98]

Hmm that could be right yes the muscle is flexible ofc I literally was just struggling to get the dildo through my hole even after I was fingering and feeling wet. I was like wtfff

[Celticwolf78]

If you don't have sex enough and your not relaxed ur body will tense up

[SlayingBoooty69]

are you still struggling with feeling tight?

[Paulalove98]

I am still tight however the pain is lessening with him making me feel more comfortable and wetter before we have sex:)

[SlayingBoooty69]

Thats good! so the sex is better? I am having struggles of my own though right now, though I am sure they are different HAHA.. do you mind chatting about them?

[Paulalove98]

He tells me he likes that I’m tight. The thing I’m confused about is if it feels good or not for a guy? Or for most guys? He tells me it feels good that I’m tight when I asked.

[SlayingBoooty69]

Haha, no doubt that is true! Do you mind sending me a message?

[SlayingBoooty69]

Hopefully its okay to ask for a DM? I am just trying to find someone to talk to about my sex issues... I suppose they are similar to yours haha

[Anonymous]

The girl I’ve been seeing for 16 months off and on is 26, she is 5”11 and 250lbs therefore a bit bigger size. She been with 1 guy previously, her fiancé that she been with since 15 and sexual since 17. she didn’t do it very often closer to 3-5 times per year due to long distance, her sex sessions we’re always shorter duration.

We had our first sex on 7th date. She was very nervous, nervous on being with a new man, nervous and worried the new man has a longer and very much thicker one and on top of that she felt guilty as it was 2 months to her wedding, having some troubles with her fiancé and she felt very guilty her body thoroughly enjoyed the foreplay it had been subjected.

Her feeling pain? I started penetrating by teasing an insert, moved in and out an inch around 15 times, all slowly and some went less than an inch and some went more than an inch, she said those that went a bit deeper did hurt a bit.
The next stroke I pushed 6” into her. She said it was very painful and was a bit more painful as I pushed mine fully into her. Then I pulled out to cuddle her for a bit. When I put it into her again she said it hurt again and continued to hurt as I thrusted.

2nd sex, happened a week later, it was doggy style. She said it didn’t hurt.

3-6th time , all were doggy and it didn’t hurt her. All were 2-3 days apart.

7th : It was 3 weeks later, in between she was with her fiancé 2 days before. Did her missionary and it hurt when I inserted. She did say it didn’t hurt and she didn’t feel sore after sex with her fiancé.

8-10th : Happened few days apart. Missionary, it didn’t hurt when I inserted but she felt sore after it was over from the thrusting.

11th : It was a month later, she said it hurt when I inserted in her.

12th : 2 months later, doggy, she said it hurt quite bad when I pushed it in her and she did bleed a bit.

These days if we had done it and continue doing it with 3 or less days between then she doesn’t feel pain when I put it in her even if I push harder into her. More than that then she will even if I do it slowly.

Somehow, if she sees her ex fiancé like she did 2 days ago, when I do her again then it’s very painful for her when I insert. Oh well she isn’t a girlfriend so I can’t tell her to only do it with me.

[Anonymous]

I would say you are not wet enough or horny enough for penetration... when your horny/wet your vagina relaxes and opens up for the penis

[MasterKS]

well done!

[Anonymous]

Maybe your mind is saying you are ready for sex but your body isn't. Women tend go need their mind and bodies to work together. It could also be he is on the bigger side.

[Paulalove98]

Yes maybe I’m trying too hard and not having fun with it. I guess I’m too eager and anxious to please him and just shove it inside me…we don’t have sex regularly since we don’t live together , I don't know if that would interfere with my vagina muscle either.

[Opinion Owner]

Next time, take things slow and don't rush it. Rushing definitely will make it hurt and uncomfortable for you and he will definitely have trouble getting it in. And you being anxious and only thinking of pleasing him, won't help to make you wet and less tight for him to enter. Spend an hour or more on foreplay, like kissing and him rubbing your clit and fingering you. Sex has to be about you being pleasured, not just about him.

[Jerre]

@paulalove98. I can show you how to have fun and experience mind blowing orgasms

[Jerre]

You are so right about foreplay. I usually spend a good hour on foreplay, making sure she is good and wet for my cock. Usually a girl will cum at least once when I play with her clit.