How an Abstinent Girl Can Date a Non-Virgin Guy and Still Remain Abstinent

[asdsfgag]

The title of this take should have been “How can an abstinent girl make her sexually active boyfriend become abstinent with her and still be happy in dating”. As you see 👀 this title is too long and very long titles are boring😪 to read and hard to figure out exactly what they are all about.

If you know me from GAG, you most definitely know that I am abstinent and single and want my future boyfriend to have had many hookups. A lot of times I have been asked how I am planning to make such relationship work as many guys (especially sexually active ones) demand sex from their girlfriends. People who I have met on social media told me that most dates without sex end either with him breaking up with her or cheating on her. I guess they say so because in their culture many girls offer sex to their boyfriends (ugh… those sluts. lol). This is why dating an abstinent girl IN THEIR CULTURE is no longer an option for guys unless the guy is religious or abstinent himself. I am not intimidated by women who offer sex before or after the first date nor by women who have sex while dating. However I have never met a guy who would be turned off by my chastity. In fact only on GAG I have come across guys to whom not having sex is a dealbreaker.😛

I myself understand that it is harder for guys to sexually repress themselves. 😫 At least I don’t get blue balls or something, right?
Here are the tips of how I am going to make our date fun and interesting without him even realizing that sex is being missed.😎

1. My friendliness and charisma.

In all seriousness I am very extroverted, chatty, funny and energetic. I can make friends with anyone even with anti social people. I know how to make them open up to me and show their extroverted side. I believe everyone is extroverted. Some people just don’t feel like showing that side of them until they find someone to be comfortable with.

As long as he enjoys my company he will still be content with hanging with me. I am sure if your crush refuses to take you to another level and as a person he/she is not fun to talk to you will not stay in touch with them. A while ago I asked a question here on GAG “Would you still be friends with your crush if they refuse to date you”. Most guys answered “no” because going out with her when she refuses to be more than just friends is painful and a waste of time. In real life I have never met a guy to whom abstinence would be a turn off despite them being non virgin guys.

By the way I don’t refuse to date my future boyfriend lol I refuse to have premarital sex with him. I am sure I can prove him that being with me with no sexual intimacy still feels good too.

2. My looks.

I love buying clothes, shows, bags jewelry, make up items, etc. I am obsessed with beauty and anything concerning looks except for working out not because I am lazy but because I am confident with my weight and muscles. I weight 105-108 pounds (in the mornings) and still have big, firm and round breast and butt. As you guess with this weight of mine I couldn’t have cellulite or belly fat.

This may sound rudely hypocritical but my boyfriend should be athletic and spend some hrs a day at the gym. A guy who doesn’t work out can’t be as hot as girl who doesn’t work out. Muscles and height make a man’s body attractive while slimness and curves makes a woman’s one attractive. Correct me if I am wrong!

If working out will make my body even sexier I will start hitting the gym but for now I don’t feel the need of looking more attractive.

No one can deny that looks are very significant to men and if he finds me the hottest chick that has ever lived on our planet then chances that he won’t leave this hottie is too high. As high as Mt. Everest. So he can easily deal with my abstinence for the sake of someday (on the wedding night) fulfilling his ultimate sexual desire he possesses for me. I asked a question which woman is more desirable for sex. And most guys chose a 9/10 looking girl with no experience over a 6/10 looking one with great bedroom skills. They said looks arouse them more easily than her sexual skills as sexual skills can be noticed after his dick is hard while looks are the ones that get the man hard.💪🍆

You can share your opinion on this too. But only guys lol as I know experienced, average, or low looking girl will definitely say a woman’s experience is more important than her looks. We all know why they would say this. 😲😂

3. The combination of my purity 🌹🍒🌸 and naughtiness 👅🍌🍼

Won’t my naughtiness and innocent transform me from a girl pure in the body and naughty in the mind into a lady in the street and a freak in the sheets when we get married? 👰
I know some guys are even turned off by virginity/abstinence/purity but they may like innocence if it is combined with naughtiness As I am going to stay abstinent it will be inevitable for me to hide my unfulfilled sexual urges and not to show my kinky/dirty side. It is also very necessary to talk about out sexual fantasies and preferences as communication is the best key to a successful sexual relationship. Don’t I sound like a FUTURE lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets? 😜

In spite of the fact that I am abstinent most guys who ask me for date know this very well (I tell them even if they don’t know this) and still my abstinence hasn’t been a problem for them to want to date me. They still chase me because I am seen as a wife material. I do reject them but inside I am very proud of being seen as a more than just a sex object. Them seeing me as a wife means I am more than just a hot body to bang. This certainly comes from my self respectable and classy attitude.

Then again if my saving myself for marriage is a turn off for a guy then I don’t see him as my potential boyfriend or husband because guys like him turn me off. To me a confident, dominant and possessive men value being their beloved woman’s first man therefore they value female virginity no matter if they themselves have slept around or not.

And if I am too good for him to leave me then he should “obey” me no matter what are my demands regarding dating.

Thanks for reading 💋

[Redstang88]

Good luck with that. You really think you can con some pathetic loser into giving up regular sex to wait for your delusional (ie - no guys gives a shit about virginity) ideals?

[dolemite68]

amen, why would a guy wanna put up with this

[asdsfgag]

No one forces anyone to be with me. If he doesn't agree with my abstinence then he can leave me immediately. No big deal.

[asdsfgag]

Pathetic loser giving up regular sex. Lol so sexually active guys are pathetic losers?

[Salohcin22]

no, he means that a guy would have to be a pathetic loser to give up what he wants in a relationship and be controlled by you. You do realize that there are guys that are sexually active that think the same way as you? "Oh, she's abstinate now, but I'll change her mind" or "Oh, he's sexually active now, but I'll change his mind" what I can't understand is why you want a sexually active guy. Don't you want someone with your same ideals? You say you want to stay abstinent so that sex means something more, and so that you can share it with your significant other/life partner, but sexually active guys think the opposite of you. They don't think sex is special and they don't want to share it for the first time with their life partner. A big section of those guys will not want marriage or will cheat before / after marriage. Guys that are extremely active don't care / think about what they might lose. Take Arnold Schwarzenegger for example. He still did that unattractive maid.

[asdsfgag]

@Salohcin22 what if what he wants is dating and marrying me?

[Salohcin22]

@asdsfgag then sure that's fine, but it's very rare for someones wants to completely change. Guys that do a ton of girls are not going to suddenly want no sex and to date and marry you. They will want sex and to date and marry you. You know that. I just don't think it's healthy for your dream guy to be someone that acts a certain way because you control them. You want a guy that has a ton of sex and wants a ton of sex, but then your dream guy would then let you control them or you would change who they are as a person to where they won't have sex till you're married. And if you can't control them and they won't bend to your will then you won't date them. That's not good for either of you, and at the end of each relationship there will be a lot of resentment on both ends.

[Unit1]

Whatever floats your boat.

But these tricks won't work on me. I need sex like I need food.
I'm horny (hungry) and I need a release (fill that emptiness in my stomach).

[WBOTB]

You need a real woman. Not a little wee wee girl like her.

[Unit1]

@WBOTB A real lady, yes :) ☺

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Why do you want a guy to have had many hookups when you aren't going to have sex with him?

Sounds to me like you wouldn't want him for HIM, rather for the bragging rights of being able to control a formerly promiscuous guy.

Good luck ending up happy with that mindset.

[asdsfgag]

I love when a guy can have hookups.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Obviously it's not directly because of the sex. I stand by what I said. You want to have the label of "I tamed the bad boy." It's also possible that you believe he will be a better boyfriend because of his experience. Either way, you'd be attracted to his image, not him.

[WBOTB]

So true. It's so superficial.

[asdsfgag]

I love when a guy can have hookups. That shows his confidence

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Mmm, yes. Veeeerry convincing.

[asdsfgag]

If he is able to want dating in spite of swx being so easy for him then he really loves me

[Kuraj]

So you managed to put these delusions of yours into test already and found some pathetic whipped loser yet who would accept them or are you still in the drafting phase?
Because I sure want to know how it will work out for you.

[asdsfgag]

I haven't met the guy whom I would see as my boyfriend. But whoever that guy will be is no way a loser. He is a lucky boy

[Pilulu]

What are you talking @b0μ+?

[Nuala]

But why would you not have sex with a guy if you've been together awhile?

[asdsfgag]

I think sex is for marriage

[COCOCHANEL]

i know a hell of a lot of men to whom a girl being abstinent is a turn off and 100% dealbreaker. maybe some unattractive (in my opinion) otakus would be ok with it.

[asdsfgag]

I wish I met such a guy who thinks of it as a deabnreaker lol. And most guys who approached me were average and good looking

[COCOCHANEL]

what country?

[asdsfgag]

Russia

[COCOCHANEL]

maybe japanese men are too spoiled?

[asdsfgag]

Japanese?

[COCOCHANEL]

yeah

[asdsfgag]

I don't care about Japanese or other men.

[COCOCHANEL]

i'm talking about my statement

[asdsfgag]

What does it have to do with my post?

[COCOCHANEL]

i mean, did you read my original comment?

[asdsfgag]

Again where i am from guys value girls who don't open their legs before marriage.

[COCOCHANEL]

and i don't live in russia so i'll just take your word for it

[mostwomenshouldstfu]

It's your choice, but realize you now have bargaining power for him. He has to now work that much harder for it because of his own choices. Notice all the backlash from males in this thread. They want it so bad. Really, you can tease the shit out of him and he'll put up with it if there is nowhere else to go.

[asdsfgag]

He can always masturbate

[mostwomenshouldstfu]

Amen. And ironically he'll be thinking of you and not the other easy chicks he bagged.

[asdsfgag]

He can think of whoevrr he wants while masturbating. That is not cheating

[mostwomenshouldstfu]

That's true, but his mind will drift to the chick that rejected him. All the hottest women in the world and he'll pick that one. Funny how it works.

[asdsfgag]

Who rejected him? Lol

[mostwomenshouldstfu]

I'd assume you. But generally speaking, whatever proximal girl who denied the access.

[mostwomenshouldstfu]

*whomever, pardon the objectification

[asdsfgag]

You make no sense. Why would he think of the girls who rejected him? And what makes you think he has been rejected?

[mostwomenshouldstfu]

It's human nature, wanting what you can't have. And because guys have a particularly high sex drive, that's a big god damn itch you have to engineer a way to scratch. By rejected I mean forced to work for sex. Although being rejected by a girl he's attracted to implies the same thing. But because he won't know what competition is waiting in the wings, he'll have to step up his game.

[asdsfgag]

Nope guys give up chasing when girls reject them if they don't love her

[mostwomenshouldstfu]

They give up if they know they can get it easily elsewhere. But they still have that one in their head like a splinter. That's why you need the easy game to distract you.

[asdsfgag]

They do know I am abstinent. I have said this for 1000 times but no one is able to understand.

[mostwomenshouldstfu]

Why would they understand when they're so spoiled with hearing "yes" all the time, "no" is a bit of a shock.

[asdsfgag]

But they still want me inspite of easy girls being everywhere

[Marinepilot]

He can, true enough. However, at some point his needs and urges are going to meet up with opportunity and then BOOM your a non-exstient thought. Your loss toots, is

[asdsfgag]

@Marinepilot lol that guy is sure not you. Why are you speaking for himself

[Marinepilot]

I'm not speaking for him. I'm stating how most men feel. And think.

[WBOTB]

@Marinepilot as you know, most men would run for the hills if they met up with a whack job like her. She'd definitely make a terrible wife.

[superdouch]

1. Let him fuck other girls (if he even wants that)

Or just watch him sacrifice that for you. It can and might take a heavy toll on the relationship though. When you love someone you want to be with them physically and not having it for very long, being refused over and over can really mess things up.

[asdsfgag]

I have thought about letting him fuck other girls before but I am not sure If I can tolerate that when it actually happens.

[MysteriousDarkness]

Why do you not want a virgin when you are virgin yourself?
Why do you want a guy who has had sex willing, still can have sex, wants to have sex or do sexual stuff to wait until marriage?

[asdsfgag]

What if I told you that most guys who alproached me were non virgins?

[MysteriousDarkness]

@asdsfag You did not answer my questions

[art84]

Date a virgin if you want to remain abstinent.

[Likes2drive]

An experienced guy is not likely to wait or he will be satisfisying himself in some way since it's not healthy for us to not release for so long and if you look that good he will be doing it a lot, lol and not every guy wants to get married but does want a girlfriend. Do you have something against sex? I often wonder what started all this in religion,, or just it's just preferred by you, it's instinct for our species to want to reproduce

[asdsfgag]

"and not every guy wants to get married but does want a girlfriend." Then he will never be my boyfriend

[Likes2drive]

You'll eliminate quite a bit of your dating pool unless you want to just keep a guy as friend since that's all he will be really with out intimacy in that situation from how it sounds, you basically want all of it but the sex until marriage from someone who has had it, maybe a guy virgin would be a better choice since they won't know what they are missing yet

[asdsfgag]

No to virgin guys. And my boyfriend is not missing. He is only gaining

[Likes2drive]

Only thing he is gaining is a virgin , what if he wants to get married in a month because he can't wait no more 😊

[asdsfgag]

Lol I would like to date more. But if he wants me that BADLY then I will agree to marry him

[StacyBoohoo]

If that's what you want go for it.

[BeHappy1985]

I'm just here to leave the song of my people

https://youtu.be/lQlIhraqL7o

[Marinepilot]

No sexually active man is going to be abstinent for you or anyone. Nor should they. If you suggested this, I would get up, say goodbye, walk away and never
have anything to do with you. You aren't worthy of anything in my book.

[WBOTB]

I think her post reeks of insecurity and attention seeking.

[mostwomenshouldstfu]

Psshhh... you won't have the option of being sexually active if you have nowhere to walk but into the clutches of your left hand. Plus, how's that attitude any different than from what a lot of women get acting skanky.

[asdsfgag]

Explain to me why so many guys are after me when even when I reject them

[Marinepilot]

@WBOTB It does. I call bullshit on this.

[WBOTB]

@Marinepilot me too. She claims she has all these guys after her. Lies LMAO! She's not special lol.

[JayLiche]

Get a bible
read it to him before you sleep

[asdsfgag]

We can't sleep together

[JayLiche]

then why are you worried about this lol

[Anonymous]

what about handjobs and anal intercourse. Doesn't she care about him

[Anonymous]

Being a woman in your situation exactly this can be the case. My partner explains it as, he's had causal/meaningless sex but it's not a lot in comparison to being in love. It's almost been 2 years now and he is wondering when it'll happen. At the same time I told him from the start who I was and what he would/wouldn't get out of this relationship. I'm not going to lie and say it's not hard for both of us because it is, but not as difficult as some of you on here might think.
I'm not saying I'm that much better than any other person here, but I do notice a lot of baggage that comes from causal/past sexual relationships and I'm happy that I don't have any of that.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you're just the inverse of guys who want to deflower virgin girls. You're looking for a guy to conquer. You think you'll be the one. That's all this is.

Hey if you make it work you'll make it work. But I can promise you the hottest most elegant woman alive could not accomplish this.

[asdsfgag]

Explain to me why so many guys are after me then even when I reject them

[Opinion Owner]

They think you'll have sex with them. Trust me if you gave them a chance and they began to realize they were not going to get sex in the foreseeable future they would leave. You're just ditching them before they get the chance to ditch you.

[asdsfgag]

Lol I told them for 1.000.000 times that I don't like them even in a very rude way

[Opinion Owner]

Okay so lets pretend you meet a guy you like who meets your specifications. How do you think it's going to go down in the months following when you are dating?

[asdsfgag]

Lol ifnhe meets my expectations then we will eventually get married

[Opinion Owner]

How do you know he won't just leave?

[asdsfgag]

You said he meets my expectations. Abstinence is one of them.

[Opinion Owner]

I thought you wanted a guy who has had plenty of partners in the past but is abstinent with you? I'm saying what if you're now dating a month in and he begins to realize that you won't have sex till marriage. Then he leaves. Not at the beginning but when he learns you truly won't have sex until he marries you.

[asdsfgag]

I meant my abstinence. If he meets my expectations then he is ok with it

[Anonymous]

Hi 😀😀😀

[asdsfgag]

Hi lol. How are you? How are your studies?

[Opinion Owner]

Good lol u?

[Anonymous]

What you mean they give sex? Lol

[asdsfgag]

Give? Lol or have

[Opinion Owner]

I guess they say so because in their culture many girls offer sex to their boyfriends (ugh… those sluts. lol). This is why dating an abstinent girl IN THEIR CULTURE is no longer an option for guys unless the guy is religious or abstinent himself. I am not intimidated by women who offer sex before or after the first date nor by women who have sex while dating. *sorry I ment what you mean they offer sex?

[asdsfgag]

I mean if a guy expect sex from his girlfriend then in his culture having premarital sex is a norm

[Opinion Owner]

Aren't be saying that saying that only guys and tell when to have sex and when not too as if the girl herself can't decide if she wants too

[asdsfgag]

Lol it is their women who made me believe in premarital sex

[Opinion Owner]

What do you mean it's their woman?