How are shy guys in bed? I am dating one?

I am 27 and he's 30 and I am his first girlfriend, and I've been dating this shy introvert guy since a year, So initially he was not able to look into my eyes while sex, now he does. He wants everything to be clean, so after he's done he goes to washroom to clean himself, which I don't like cause I'm not done and he runs off to remove condom and clean himself entirely. And after bjs, he cannot kiss me, I accept, this is his choice, cause many men don't like their own semen touching their mouth.

He has less sex drive than me. Mostly I initiate.. but i am not satisfied always... so it's a bit disappointing...

He tries to satisfy me.. but I guess he just doesn't know anything himself. One day he jerked off in washroom when I was out, but he hid that from me, so he could last longer in bed, but I could smell that in washroom lol. I tried to fake orgasm that day, it was crazy 🤣.

I don't understand what he likes or he wants.. I have tried having conversations with him.. about his fantasies, likes, dislikes n stuff.. but he never has much to say...

What to do with these introverts?

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  • I don't have a real answer for you. The one thing I suggest is do not fake an orgasm because if you do you just put it into his mind that that was enough to get you off. You definitely need to talk to him about running off to wash his weiner when you have an achieved an orgasm. You're going to kind of have to take control and tell him what you expect. Please remember that he has no idea what the hell he's doing. You are his first. Guide him, this is what I need from you. And be specific. Take his hand and guide it. If he's thrusting and it's too fast tell him to slow down. Step by step. I know it sounds silly but praise him when he's doing it right. I like it just like that. Now give it to me faster and harder. Whatever it is you need explain it to him.

    • If there's one thing that turns me on, it's a girl bossing me around and being a total bitch. In case you can't tell that was sarcasm.

    • Well there's a difference between you and him, he doesn't know what the fuck he's doing. You do. If she isn't getting what she needs out of the relationship then she has to speak her mind

    • Yea I guess you're right.. I'll talk to him about this. Thank you so much

Most Helpful Guy

  • I'm not sure.

    I lost my virginity to a hot, slutty woman at 21 and she gave me lots of practice. I wanted sex all the time and I couldn't keep my hands off of her. We weren't the cleanest like your boyfriend, and we would fuck until we were both too sore to continue.

    It isn't so much that your man is inexperienced, but he needs to want to have sex do you can teach him what you like.

    • Yeah wow! I feel I was being too dependent on him, cause he was older than me.. but I think that I'll have to be the one who leads..

    • Yeah, slide your butt down to the end of the bed, get him to kneel down on the floor and give you oral. Tell him how to lick your clit and get him to slide two fingers in simultaniously and thrust them in and out while licking. If he tries to stop grab his head by the hair and grind your pussy on his face. It's time to train him and make him into a sex machine, lol.

    • Oh my God 🤣🤣 I love you! Thanks !

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Now the phony "shy guy" is pretending to be a girl to ask his questions.

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  • A little hesitant. Just lead and initiate.

    • I don't know why he's so hesitant... I literally spoke about everything to him regarding sex.. still he doesn't open up.. shy guys are difficult but this guy is difficult to another level

    • Could be performance anxiety. Could be body consciousness,

  • He's about at the point at his age, where he's becoming fixed in his habits so anything you try and say to him will make it hard for him to change. You need to have a conversation with him but not in a confrontational manner, and ask him to be honest about all of this and what he wants, his needs and what he expects. Then you share the same. Ask him to at least meet you halfway on some things or you feel it could damage your relationship. Hopefully that might have an effect.

    • Ya I guess I need to discuss this cleanliness thing with him... its bothering me a lot

  • Watermelons are your friend. Try to induce them to him

  • What a boring guy lol

    • Ya he is lol. But he loves and cares for me a lot..

  • get him in one and you find out

    you may never get out

  • Don't forget about aphrodisiac food from time to time.

  • Try it out?

  • Sadly cases like him are more common than we think, and they will always be male dominated due to how men have to be the ones to do the pursuing

  • He will constantly be faithful to you. He will eventually warm up to you more. Hope your companionship lasts for a long time.

    • We're getting married soon. Thank you so much for your reply

  • so he was a virgin at 30 when you met him as well? i assume he was the one who asked you out, hit on you

  • Maybe your presence doesn't make him hard enough to fuck you...

    • Or you can say that for a guy who never wanted to have sex with any other girl fell for me. Like wow, can u imagine how sexy I must be ! Thanks for making me realize that.