How big a strapon dildo should I choose?

[Anonymous]

So my friends with benefits wants to try pegging. He has totally left it up to me to surprise him and I am looking for advice on how big a dildo I should buy? Its his first time and mine. I want it to be impressive but obviously not hurt him and make sure he enjoys it.

[TonyV]

Well I know you should start small, of course him leaving it up to you almost sounds like he low key wants a big one.

Has he butt fucked you? Could be poetic justice to get something close to his dick size and see how he can take it lol.

But if you want him to injoy it and keep doing it youay want to start on the smaller end.

[AviatorTom]

For his first time, best would be a relatively small dildo, not much girth and not too long. If he finds it enjoyable, next time you can try a larger one.

If you can (or already have), see how well he takes a butt plug and pick a dildo that is about the same size.

[BrookeAZ90]

It needs to be fairly small to start. I've gotten bigger ones over the years for my boyfriend, but you have to start small. I'd probably get some butt plugs first, like a 2 inch diameter and use those to get him loosened up a bit first.

[Asker]

Yes i have read that... butt plug first. So you would say an average size first/... like 5 to 6 inches?

[BrookeAZ90]

The length's not so important, especially yet. It just can't be too thick for now until he's ready. 5-6 inches is good for starting, just see how the butt plug goes first and see how he takes it. I'd maybe hold off on the strapon purchase for a week or so and get him ready first and see how quickly it gets easier for him. Then maybe you can go a little thicker. I've never found the length to be too big of a difference for them. It's usually just all about getting a thicker one once they can take it too easily.

[Asker]

Thanks girl! What do you find is the best position... for you and for him to hit the gspot? I do think the size is kinda important just for the visual effect it will have. I think he would find that a turn on. Should i also be a bit more dom as well?

[BrookeAZ90]

I'd start basic. Just get him down on all fours. It's simple and he doesn't have to worry about balancing or anything. He can just get down and relax and spread. Then when he's more comfortable, you can get more creative, find something around the house that's the right height for him to stand and bend over. It was a few months before I had mine ride it. Mine doesn't like it on his back at all, not sure why. As for being more dominant, that's up to if you like it and think he will. I love the changeup of being in charge. I like to make mine be very submissive for it. Get him down on his knees and suck on it for about 5 minutes first. I spank him a lot while he's taking it. Up to you two how you feel about all that.

[Asker]

Thankyou. Yes one of the things that appeals to me is the chance to take more charge. Not something I do often but what to explore. I do kind of want to give him a bit of a shock from the usual me.

[Anonymous]

I've only used strap-ons on girls but for a guy I would start small.

[Asker]

Funny how the guys are saying go big and the ladies go small lol

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe the guy saying that have graduated to larger ones. Lol

[Asker]

That makes sense. Experienced.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes.

[BikerLawyer1]

My is 7 inches and it works great.

[insteadfew]

What colour?

[BikerLawyer1]

@insteadfew Black

[insteadfew]

Umhmm okk

[RobT312]

No super thick but 7” min. Long enough to hit his prostate

[Asker]

What does it feel like when you hit a guys prostate?

[RobT312]

I get a mindblowing orgasm. My girlfriend loves seeing that!

[Asker]

Oh I would live seeing that too! Thanks.

[RobT312]

And enjoy the cum. It makes me shoot long and hard

[BradBoy]

Yeah, what Brooke said. If he's never had anything in his ass, he's going to need some prep. Girth is all that matters in terms of size right now. Go easy on him at first. He might have no idea what's he asked for yet.

[OnlyMeee]

I reckon about 8 inches would be just the ticket

[Rizwan_khan]

Yeah you can start with smaller ones then going for larger and be more dominant that would be more sexy and hott for him. I also like to pegg but never done that.

[kellytheman]

Well he probably want to start of small and have some lube and fo. it a couple times then after that you can go bigger gradually.

[AimeeKyle]

I wouldn’t get anything over 1-1/2 inch in diameter. If you want some stimulation at the same time, try something like this: Eve's Vibrating Strapless Strap-On - by Adam & Eve

Don’t forget to use a lot of lube…and insert slooowly.

[In_Trance]

ask him what he wants

[Asker]

He has left it up to me to surprise him.

[Surely]

Buy two. One really huge one to freak him out. Then get a more “Non GAG” normal one! Since the norm on GAG seems to be on the larger size.

[mariospapadopoulos12]

Feel free to dm me... i wanna tell y

[nudeNhorny]

You might want to start with an average one

[abc--123]

Go big or go home

[riverrat3]

Start with a small girth

[tallblondejohm]

7 to 10 inches

[Hotassguy85]

For a guy it depends what he likes and needs. Many guys like myself are going big, depends how horny they are

[Asker]

But what about if its your first time?

[goldenolboybrad]

Oh, boy !!!

[Anonymous]

Why don't you just give him a prostate massage wth your finger for the first time?

[Anonymous]

Around 7 inches is perfect size. And choose purple colour

[Anonymous]

Start with something small like 5-6 inches deep or something narrow without too much girth. When my wife first started pegging me, she got what looked like a small one but it’s close to 8 inches but it’s skinny so it’s very easy to take. If you get one of the more advanced ones like the ones that are squirting dildos, they can be a bit bigger and longer. Those are pretty impressive too. We’ve used the squirting dildos several times now and they’ve been a lot of fun.

[Asker]

So does this really feel good for a guy? Do you like your wife to take charge?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, I think it feels great. We do pegging maybe twice a month. I get a lot of pleasure from the prostate stimulation - I think I’m just wired for that. Her taking control just adds to the variety of our sex life.

[Asker]

What position works best for you?

[Opinion Owner]

We start out with me bent over on all fours and then switch to missionary. It’s more intense in missionary but doggy feels more submissive. If she’s using the squirting dildo, it’s more fun for her when I’m on my back for her to “finish” that way where she can see my reaction to it. It depends though on the guy. He may like something different.

[Asker]

Well he has left this up to me... a bit scary for me but at the same time exciting.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, get one that also gives you pleasure too. I think there’s one called a Feeldoe that gives the woman pleasure as well.

[Asker]

Oh I will make sure he pleasures me either before or after! he he he

[Opinion Owner]

Definitely. I wouldn’t be too nervous about it because he really wants it so he’ll like whatever you give him. It’s not like you have to be an expert. Just do what works. 😃

[Asker]

Do you do any prep before or could i literally surprise him?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe tell him the day of, hey, we’re gonna do that thing you’ve been asking for. That way he can be a little prepared. Definitely start slow but, once he gets used to it, you can go faster. Just kinda take your time to find out what he likes. It is easier to start out in doggy but if missionary is easier access, definitely start with that.

[Asker]

Thats good advice... maybe even build up the suspense e a bit too. Does your wife get you to suck her dildo?

[Opinion Owner]

She didn’t. I know some people do that but it doesn’t really do anything for me. I’m usually pretty warmed up already once we get in the bedroom.

[Asker]

OK one last question... what does your wife wear?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, don’t worry, feel free to ask anything else. She wears some black lingerie or some red lingerie. Or sometimes she will wear nothing at all. I think the first time she was wearing the black lingerie though.

[Asker]

Yes i was thinking i would wear something to start. I was thinking a corset and maybe black eggings and boots... thoughts?

[Opinion Owner]

Ohh. Definitely the corset with the boots. That would be hot.

[Asker]

Kind of a bit of a dom vibe but not too over the top.

[Opinion Owner]

True. I think that’s probably what he’s going for anyway. I just like the feeling of it so the outfit isn’t as important to me but he is probably really into it.

[Asker]

Well I am not 100 percent sure... but I want to explore being more dom anyway.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, it’s definitely hot. But it’s usually over too soon for me if my wife is dressed that hot 🤣

[Asker]

Ha ha ha ha.

[Opinion Owner]

Are you gonna try it with him soon?

[Asker]

I am hoping within the next few weeks. I want to be well prepared.

[Opinion Owner]

Aww. I thought you were gonna say this weekend. 😃 You don’t have to put too much thought into it. Just kinda see where it goes. Sometimes the spontaneity is the best part.

[Asker]

Not my way... for something like this i want to feel as ready as i can be. I think too much lol

[Opinion Owner]

Ahh. I get it. Best of luck to you. I’m looking forward to an update. Will you give an update? 😃

[Asker]

I probably will. Why not!

[Opinion Owner]

Any update?

[Anonymous]

Get the biggest one you can find !! Baseball bat size or bigger