How can a girl be more dominant?

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most guys aren’t into pegging or fingering so I need ideas on how to be dominate as the girl in a straight relationship

Platypuss · Accepted Answer

You are entering BDSM, and in BDSM the most important rule is trust and communication, just like anywhere else.
You have to respect other people's boundaries. It's not that being a dominant will enable you to go peg some guy or get/give fingering.
You need to explain your desires that will do, start in a calm manner. But first research about the topic. It's not same as vaginal penetration. Discuss how it's done, it's benefits and issues. Your partner might consider. What else you can do is make an offer, you will do something they want and they will try something you want. Discuss those somethings before hand.

That being said. Binge more dominant in life and being more dominant in bed are again different things. But both requires confidence, you need to know what you you want and what are you going to do.

Being dominant in bed requires you to know what they want aswell, if you can't keep them happy, they will leave. Taking charge is all it takes. You need to know when please them, when they should please you. In a way, they won't rebel against. And if you are going to deep in the BDSM, aftercare is a necessity.

You might wanna research on the whole topic, it can't be explained in one thread.

undefined-intentions · Accepted Answer

Use your words, and take charge. Show him through action that you're in control. Be commanding, tell him what to do. Command him to go down on you or undress or whatever you want him to do. Tease him, edge him, give him a taste of what he wants, but not too much, make it abundantly clear that you're in control of his pleasure. Make him literally beg for more, and even then fulfil his desires only if he's a good boy. Tell him he's not allowed to come until you say so. Make it clear to him that you set the rules and that that's something he must accept to have you.

AustinMan · Answer

What's your objective?

baconninjadc · Answer

It's a little about you and it's a little about your partner and what they want. your level of dominance does not necessarily translate to something that he will want or indulge or enjoy. as far as being more dominant I would just say be yourself be straightforward tell your partner what you want and it could lead to not only some interesting conversations but some fun times

Stellargasm · Answer

Push him onto a chair or couch and climb on top of him and be dominate and rough, hold him down or hold his arms back and aggressively kiss him. Take control and tell him what you want him to do and be explicit like I want your cum all over me right now!

chriscdi · Answer

ride him to mars

skittles2017 · Answer

Sorry for the language but in order to succeed that you'll have to be a whore in bed and take the lead

Twalli · Answer

Ride him.

whynut111 · Answer

Find the guy that is good with himself, most guys like to be dominated yet not all can be open to it. Just say what you want and need

wannabe_cuckold_23 · Answer

Maybe try a little bondage, spanking, make him pleasure you and deny him a little, make him worship your feet, be mean to him and tease him, make him know you are in control of him, that's what I'd want in a woman haha

Yellovv · Answer

Submissive girls are more hot..

Gaurav5566 · Answer

I luv femdom and I want..

Anonymous · Answer

Hand cuffs, leashes, riding crop

Anonymous · Answer

Wrestle him on the bed, pin him down and ride him roughly, that's what I always do to my boyfriend and he loves it.

Anonymous · Answer

While on top you could try pinning down his arms with your hands. You could also try sitting on a chair or bed, and locking your legs around him while receiving oral, if you're into that.

Anonymous · Answer

Fingering u?

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