How can a girl do missionary position without "just lying there"?

I'm a virgin and probably going to lose it soon. I just want to know how I can be good in bed if we're doing missionary? I hear that guys don't like when the girl just lies there, so what else can I do?
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Most Helpful Girl

  • I don't think you should stress about being an 'active participant' for your first time. For me, I was so focused on all the novel sensations I wasn't really focusing on things like that.

    When you get more comfortable with whatever guy you're with, anything you do other than just laying there will be welcomed. He'll love anything from putting your arms around him, wrapping your legs around his torso. To change things up, you can thrust back, like when he is going a bit slow with the thrusting you can thrust back or sort of grind on him.

    Moan or make some sort of noise to give some feed back on top of kissing him and you're golden. :)

Most Helpful Guys

  • There are a lot of ways of being responsive. What you -should- do is whatever comes naturally. If nothing's coming naturally, perhaps choose option D, but don't feel obligated to do D, if you're too distracted to do D, you're responding just fine.

    - you can respond with moaning
    - you can respond by writhing around
    - you can wrap your legs and arms around and try to pull him in deeper
    - you can hold him in your arms and try to move your hips back (small moves, but in time with him) to meet each thrust
    - you can kiss and caress him
    - you can whisper in his ear how good/big/amazing he feels, etc.

    • THIS! All of this! Another thing if you two are risking him cumming in the condom while inside him; pull him as deep as you can like you REALLY want him. Doesn't stimulate him, but for some it's a huge mental turn on to know you really want him that bad. But i'd recomend you being on the pill, in case there's a hole in the condom or something.

  • Moan, kiss his ears (if he's flat on you), grab his neck (if y'all are kinky like that), play with your tits\nipples. I love it when she puts one hand on her lower stomach like she's feeling it that deep. :D I also love it when she scratches up my back form it feeling so good.

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  • grind on his dick. when he thrusts you thrust back

  • Use your hands to touch his body, lean up and kiss him, make some sort of sound. Really anything that reminds him you aren't unconscious or a dead body would help.

    • Sounds legit.

  • just be responsive. If you're a virgin chances are good that it will be impossible for you not to be.

    if you're looking for "tips" though, the ideal situation is that you maneuver and squirm as needed to get yourself off. Few things are more pleasurable than having sex with a girl while she is getting off.

  • Wrap your legs around the back of his waist and touch his back, ass and hips with your hands. If he puts his face near you you can kiss his lips, neck or ears.

  • Kissing, hugging, squeezing.

  • i think you don't have to do anything special. just be honest and say i'm virgin and i don't know what i can. be natural, you can seem nervous to your guy but no problem. this even can make you more attractive in your bf or husband's eyes. don't do anything special. just leave yourself to your guy's hands. he probably would pleasently lead you. guys don't have a problem with virgin and unexperienced girls.

    • Thanks for your answer. My boyfriend is also a virgin though, haha :)

    • he can be a virgin too but at least if you marry, he should ask for help from one of his experienced friends or relatives. if so he can lead you. this is his responsibility not yours, i don't believe gender equality, i completely believe gender roles.

  • Put your legs over ur head that will make it better for him if he knows what he is doing

  • Ask Siri or Google

  • Just lay there let him lead, if u r a virgin u will start doing things after first 2 seconds