Guys, HOW CAN HE WANT ME AND STILL NEED PORN?

[Anonymous]

I don't umderstand how a guy can honestly say he loves a girl and is sexually satisfied with her yet still has the need to look at other women to get him off, especially much hotter or better looking ones. Would men feel good about themselves if their woman had sex with them amd then later u caught her in basement masturbating to guys with 10+ inch cocks that made their own look considerably smaller or below average? I don't care how secure a dude says he is, he wouldn't appreciate having to compete with these young, hard bodied young studs, especially if that stud was a boa compared to ur worm

[ak666]

Male sex drive (and female too probably to some extent) isn't monogamous in nature. There is no mechanism that shuts off when you're with a girlfriend for a long period (past the honeymoon phase) that no longer finds another girl attractive.

Whether it's pornography or a sexy girl in a mini-skirt walking past the guy, he's going to be aroused to some degree. It'll wet the appetite in the same way that looking at yummy food will do it.

The difference between a faithful guy and one that isn't is that the faithful one resists the yummy food and goes back to the one he married.

>> Would men feel good about themselves if their woman had sex with them amd then later u caught her in basement masturbating to guys with 10+ inch cocks that made their own look considerably smaller or below average?

For me it'd be fine since I'm pretty sure my wife would at least be somewhat excited if a young and dashing man walks into the room, or even a celebrity like Orlando Bloom (my wife really likes him). I can't compete with Orlando Bloom.

Like me, I trust her to ultimately give her heart to me, as I do to her. That doesn't mean our eyes won't wander here and there.

As to reducing the amount her masturbates (with or without porn -- same difference whether he's using his imagination or not) and increasing the amount of sex with you, it's often an issue with timing and finding what stimulates each other.

Porno is instant stimulation for pretty much any guy with a functioning libido -- it's a very easy and quick way to get turned on and get that sexual release required (it is required for men after a while or they'll got nuts as sperm fills the sack).

However, also knowing what triggers each other's sexual moods can work as well. Lingerie can help, lying naked next to each other can help (there feeling your body against his might trigger a sexual mood), taking time away from each other can help (absence makes the heart grow fonder), communicating more can help, Brazilian wax can help a whole lot (more efficient foreplay), etc.

Don't look at it so much as a competition between other, meaningless women to him and you. See it more as a competition between you and his hand.

[ak666]

As to reducing the amount her [/he] masturbates [...] [...] sexual release required (it is required for men after a while or they'll got [/go] nuts as sperm fills the sack).

[ak666]

This book might be of interest on the subject in developing an understanding for each other: www.amazon.com/.../0190275502

It focuses on human sexuality (with a biological focus) and monogamy in terms of evolutionary behavior, history, etc.

It'll describe how monogamy is not "natural" but something to strive towards.

I suggest this not to excuse pornography, but to instead help understand how each other's sex drives work and utilize that knowledge to build a healthier sex life in your marriage.

[Anonymous]

I have a girlfriend and we have a great sex life and I'm very satisfied with her but I still watch porn and masturbate and she knows that. I never hide it from her and she has no problem with it. It's not a bad thing and doesn't mean I don't find her attractive or want her any less. It's actually a pretty good thing if you think about it because I'm the kind of person that needs sex every day and she isn't so I masturbate when she's not in the mood on my own time and she doesn't feel guilty if she's not up for it because she knows I don't mind and I'm still satisfied also when we do have sex I last longer because I've masturbated... To be honest the porn isn't even what I use to jerk off I watch a bit and get in the mood and go do my thing. She watches porn with me all the time and we have amazing sex afterwards. And trust me there are guys with dicks 3 times the size of mine and girls with big perfect breasts that are 3 times the size of hers but who cares? When she wants to masturbate she watches porn on her own too and I have absolutely no problem with that... Also think about this... Would u rather he jerked off on his own to porn or that you take his porn watching privelages and he chases you more and when you don't give in he might consider chasing someone else that will give in? Everyone has fantasies and all that crap regardless of whether they watch porn or not but if u have a good guy that watches a bit of porn I think you should let it slide... Also on a side note... If a guy doesn't have porn to watch he has an imagination and could bring back times he's already experienced... So he could be jerking off thinking about an ex or jerking off watching a stranger that he'll never meet or speak to... Which do you prefer?

[AustinMan]

Hopefully this will help:

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a5423-why-men-watch-porn

[elew4too]

Sex is considerate. Masturbation is selfish. When you have sex with your girl, you have to be considerate of her pleasure, her fetishes, her will to or not to watch porn., etc. When you masturbate, you don't have to consider anyone else's needs. Satisfying your girl is pleasing in and of itself, but sometimes a guy just wants to be selfish with his own sexual satisfaction.

[Belgie]

How about you don't try to understand it and just accept it?

[Darkone1]

How about it,
we have no firewall to control erection. Whenever we see something hot it is going arouse us to some extant.

[ThisDudeHere]

Males need a variety in visual stimulation. We can love women all we want, the fact that we will naturally want to at the very least look at others will never change.

[Cosytoasty]

Thing is, we know we're not competeing against those guys 😂 they're on the other side of the planet and unlikely to be showing up on our doorstep. I suggest you adopt that mentality too and dont think too much about it.

Just because we find something attractive doesn't mean we are not happy with you.

[vampireelf]

you can't really relate porn to real sex. Guys have a very strong self sexuality, that usually starts pretty early, maybe with 11 or 12 years. That doesn't suddenly stop when you are in a relationship.
I mean, you are in a relationship, you are happy and in love, but still watch love movies? Its not because you are still seeking the true partner or the love of your live. You just enjoy the subject of love and you like the emotions. Its the same for guys just on a sexually level. Its not like guys want to really have sex with the women in porn.
When you are in a relationship, you often watch movies together. but that doesn't mean that you dont watch some movies alone without your partner ;)

Male self sexuality can't be compared to sex in a relationship. It is something independend, that is always present. There are even girls who are like that with a high sex drive. My girlfriend likes to masturbate to porn, too. And I love that :) It is making her sexually much more relaxed. It is causing a lot of stress if you are sexually totally dependend on one person. Two people are never horny at the same time all the time. Its like you would only eat if your boyfriend eats.

so dont compare yourself to the women. It isn't about the women in that porn at all. It is just about his personal sexuality and relaxion, something he is used to do for about 20 years maybe.

[countrydude]

Personally I say porn is an addiction. Same as excessive masturbation. He may still love you, though he still direspects you. And my self if I caught my women watching porn getting herself off I would find it hot.

[Jamesmark9]

Ask him. Then listen to his response carefully.

[LifeChoices]

I see your point. But honestly would you rather him stop his behavior then act out by cheating or just dumping you for another woman whom accept him as he is? Perhaps tell him to do it without you knowingly would help