How can I be a dominant woman in bed?

So I've been pretty submissive for as long as I can remember. I thought that I enjoyed being told what to do but lately I've been having fantasies of doing really nasty things to my partner and it really turns me on. I believe it's something he would enjoy as well but I'm a little shy about it. Also it's something I'd like to surprise him with, for example I start with pushing him down on the bed or something to start. I appreciate any advice!
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  • I think it would be kind of hard to give you advice because I don't know how you are in bed

    All guys are different all guys like different things I could give you advice if we were doing it

    Now for me one of the biggest turn offs is a really aggressive woman and for me it's because if I'm in control I know for a fact I can give her two to three orgasms and I can last a long time and that's my goal is to make her have the best time to make her feel something that she's never felt before
    If you want to take control you don't have to take. CONTROL CONTROL
    If you want to do something for him start making out start doing for a play pin him down on the bed have you closed off sit on his lap on his cock and in the slowest of motion slide forward and slide back I mean slow slow slow keep doing that lean forward so you can drag your clit on the top of his cock away from his balls to the end of it slow slow motion kissing him kissing his neck sit back straight up maybe move your feet out in front of you so you can slide up his cock but now it's cock is sticking straight up and just move your pussy all the way up it and all the way back down and act as if you're going to try to put it in but don't it's seduction sit back down on your knees start grinding it in every position like you're riding a pillow keep doing that in every position if you have to slide off of the in between his legs but his legs up over yours be ass cheek to ask cheek tell him 2 stroke his cock for you or you start and then start rubbing it all over your pussy telling him a naughty story on how you want in the fuck you and use his cock as a dildo when sliding up and down it when sliding on top of him if you can come come all over his cock that will turn him on so much when you're sliding on top of him tell him a naughty story and how when you are a girl you would always dreamed about him fucking you I mean there's all kinds of good things you could do to make him super hot and make him come in a heartbeat turn around backwards so your back is against him so he can watch you move your hips forward and back Atkins if you're really fucking him make him really want you make him just want to grab a hold of you and just fuck you hard and deep but it has to be your rules

    • Oh my goodness... I will definitely try this in combination with some other things I have in mind.

    • And don't worry! I have a plan and I know I can make it enjoyable for both of us.

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  • You both need to talk about it like adults.

    this type of stuff can really mess up a previously good relationship.

    for example how do you really know he would like it, exactly what would he like, the being told what to do, being tied up, being spanked.

    if it’s something he does not like but you do, then it can drive a wedge between you both.

    • How should I bring it up? I was thinking the element of surprise would be fun, and he's pretty freaky too 😂😅

    • It can dramatically backfire, if he is not sub and you misread it, then it’s really shit. You then have something you like but he does not. This is where kinks always need discussed, not just for consent but also to see if the other person even likes the idea.

    • I asked him. He's down for it 😋

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Take what you want. If you want him, take him. Straddle and make out. Take him by his tie and pull him towards the bedroom. Push him down and ravish him. Devour him. Do what you want to do. Take. What. You. Want. Do not ask if he likes it or not. If he doesn't like it, he'll let you know. Take what you want.

    • Wow 🤩

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  • With practice.

  • Do exactly what you just said, take control. Pushing down on the bed, tell him to suck your nipples, eat my pussy etc I guarantee you he will be turned on

  • Wear black lingerie (stockings, garter, bodice, etc. and I find that eye shadow and tight straight ponytail is a very dominant look.

  • Buy a whip and a leather or PVC costume.

  • Just do what you plan on it

  • You already said it instead of letting me take control of him try to convince him to switch it up so you can take control sometimes.

    • Him!

  • Sit on his face xD...

  • Just do it. Think he is a piece of meat, your piece of meat. Dont treat him like a piece of meat but im just trying to simplify it. Instead of waiting for him to take control. Take the control yourself, it is easier then you think

  • Start researching online, go to a local munch, and talk about it with your partner. Try a BDSM test to see where your tendencies lie and have your partner do it as well. Be willing to change things up. Relax, you'll have fun. Here's a link to one of the tests:

  • I don't know it’s something u just naturally have to know how to do and no one can really tell u how to do it. It depends on the person ur with and a lot of things.

  • Unless you're a switch, a sub doesn't just change its spots and become a domme. Dominance is NOT an act, but a state of mind that comes from within!

    There's LOTS to read about BDSM and explore.

  • It requires confidence and trust.

  • Sit on his face

  • Most guy's love being told what to do, just tell him what you want him to do

  • cuff him to the bed and bring out the strap-on

  • start with a stern voice, tie him up and have fun

  • It depends on the level of what your thinking about. What did you have in mind?

  • Grab his balls

  • Initiate by leading him into the bedroom and then give him orders. Tell him to undress while you watch, make him give you a massage, and then order him to give you oral.

  • I noticed shy girls don’t have enough confidence unless they drink a little. Wearing sexy underwear and some makeup helps. You can just do whatever you want. He will let you. Even just pull out his dick and start sucking. I don't know if it’s the best though.

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