How can I convince my friend with benefits to have a serious relationship with me (details below)?

He is very much atttacted to me and likes my personality. We talk about anything and spends a lot of time together. He says I mean a lot to him and he cares about me. I already confessed my feelings for him but he still continues our friends with benefits arrangement. We have never had actual sex, we just do sexting and sexy time via video calls. Any suggestions on how I can make him take it to the next level?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • take him to a romantic restaurant or cafe and talk to him when you felt the mood is perfect ask him what you should do about this relation.
    I say the chances of him saying yes are pretty high since he likes you too

  • You need to just ask him if he is ready to take things to the next level. If you are sexting then getting naked with him is the next logical thing to consider.

Most Helpful Girls

  • You should encourage him to go out together and have fun time together. If he doesn't want to bother cut it off.
    If you're going out you can ask him after a while that you would like to know where this is going.

  • You can’t make him do anything. But definitely get together in person and be straight forward with him about what you want.

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  • Start talking to someone else.

  • I don't think you can actually be friends with benefits without having sex

    • Well that's how we call it because we do sexting and he gets off every time when we video call (we're long distance)

  • You can't.
    Think of how difficult is for you to change yourself and you'll realize you have no chance of changing others.
    I really don't understand the female logic of (women) thinking they can change men.

    • I didn't say anything about changing him. If you read my question, I am hoping to encourage him to take what we have to the next level because we both like each other. Maybe you can try changing your attitude of judging others without trying to understand

    • Who are you to say that it won't happen? You don't know us. If you don't care about other people, don't answer questions

    • I didn't ask you to answer. You didn't have to. All the other respondents are very decent and respectful while getting their message across. You are just full of hate and negativity. Again, stop answering questions if you don't care about other people.

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