How can I get my fuck buddy to stop asking for anal ( I’ve tried it I don’t like it it hurts )?

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  • If you've told him you are not into it, and he doesn't drop it, then he doesn't need to be having sex with you. Why are you putting up with a guy who's that pushy and selfish?

    You tried it. Not only are trying desperately to compromise for his sake, you actually did try it, and know don't like it, and so you don't need to waste any more emotional energy feeling guilty. This is a common experience for females, and maybe even more so nowadays, guys trying to push and convince girls that "everyone's doing it, it's normal now, ya know", which is a tactic as old as time. But more things have become more normalized and accepted now. People are more sexually open, and feel more free to express themselves. Still, girls can push back. You are not made for his sexual satisfaction alone. He's your fuck buddy. He wants the benefit of sexual pleasure, with none of the moral or ethical obligations of romantic relationships, friendships, etc. Is he there for you when you need someone to talk through, when you're having a hard day? Even without a major commitment, guys could treat girls a whole lot better. So what if he wants anal. So what.

  • In my experience guys who want anal are always going to want it and will never be satisfied without it. So you essentially have two choices: 1) dump him, or 2) learn to enjoy anal.

    I went with option 2.

Most Helpful Guys

  • part of why anal tends to hurt some people is due to lack of prep work. helps to use a verity of toys in different sizes to get used to the feeling. of having something enter a hole that is normally an exit only. also helps to use tons of lube and go slow at first.

    but if you don't enjoy it then tell them so and if they keep asking say fine but if your the one on the receiving end. helps to have a strap-on or dildo handy when you say this though.

  • I think friends with benefits needs to stop, in general. It is pathetic

    But if you need to stop anal then you need to tell him no. And if he doesn't respect it, then you need to get away from him, and find someone new. Soomeone who actually respects you, not like a "friend" who supposedly does

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  • Say "Sure, I'll put on my strap-on"?

    This is probably a situation where you need to make your objection clear.

  • Lay it straight: if he wants anal then he can go have sex with someone else.

  • You think he gives af what you want? He has no respect for you, so why would he listen?

  • take a 12 inch dildo and shove it up HIS butt and work it in and out really good and don't use lube.

  • There are lots of other guys who will have casual sex with you, wear a condom, and respect that boundary. Trust me, lots of us we jump on that opportunity. You’re not stuck with that guy.

  • Tell him no and to stop pressing you on it

  • Have you told him that it's not going to happen and he keeps asking? Then dump him or accept that he's going to keep asking.

    • He doesn’t really ask he just tries to stick it in during doggy style last night he shoved the tip of me not being gentle about it hurt like motherfucker and he still didn’t really care it hurt he was still trying after I said no so I left

    • He didn’t really care that it hurt

    • Why are you still seeing him? Are you the only two people on your planet?

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  • He's not a good fit for you. Find a new fuck buddy who will respect your wishes

  • Tell him it's for out-going mail, only.

  • If you don't want to do something then you shouldn't do it. No explanation needed or nothing otherwise that is rape.

  • Just be firm about your "no's" and tell him that if you don't have any interest in having sex with someone who can't respect the answer he's been given.

  • I hope you're not serious

    • Sadly I am I asked him to put on a condom he kinda threw a hissy fit and told me I was the only girl he’s been sleeping with then he tried to put in my bum I told him no that I didn’t want to and I was not that comfortable with him and then he threw a bigger fit and told me I make everything awkward

    • So not really too sure how to feel now

  • Tell him your butt is for exit only.

  • u can tell him if he keep wanting it anal then may be he looses it all

  • Well... you could try sucking his cock while he fucks you in the ass. It'll probably work out fine.

  • Use lube

  • If he’s just a fuck buddy I don’t see the issue of why you can’t lay down your rules and he respect those. It’s simple. Either he stops asking or you find a new fuck buddy.

  • Tell him no and if he keeps pressuring you just drop him cause he's not respecting you

  • Establish boundaries with him. Say you will not ever do anal because it hurts, and let him know if he keeps asking the whole fuck buddy thing will be over lol That's a quick way to get him in line!

  • Get a new buddy.

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