How can I make her feel more comfortable in anal sex?

We had anal sex two time the first I was really slow and she seemed to like it. The second time I took my time as well she was really into it but after 20 minutes she got more loose I guess and she farted.
Because of that she got really embarrassed and self-conscious. After 15 minutes more or less of foreplay, we started again really slow she enjoyed we came and that's it. But now she doesn't want to try it again sadly. What can I do to make her feel at ease?
She enjoys anal play, fingers, black kiss but doesn't want me to penetrate her.
By the way she told me she was an butt virgin before I don't know if it matters.
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  • I am a butt virgin myself the main fear is pain maybe he guy needs some lube or other toys to help stimulate her elsewhere while u kinda u know play w the back end. But best idea is to ask why?

    • Oh I used lube, plenty is never too much. Before and during the acct. I tried to be as cautious as possible. And I asked her why but she says "not now" it's been a few times. She told me she liked it the previous times though. What I'm starting to think is maybe she need to go to the bathroom and she's getting embarrassed/worried?

    • Ya could be. Maybe if u say hey can we do anal this weekend or something sounds kinda cheesy or ruins the spontaneity but if it is for that reason she can kinda eat right and be "empty" in preparation. Not that I have anal experience but when my guy is gonna lick back there if I haven't had a bm and freshly cleaned then I will tell him no go in that area. And I have been told by my gay friends that they prep that booty 4 anal, diet/intake few days b4, douche and all that.

Most Helpful Guys

  • You need to reassure her that what with you pumping all that air into her, sometimes it's gonna make some noise and that you love it because you so love putting it there.

  • Have you tried asking her why she doesn't want to do it again?

    • She just told me "not now" every time I tried to. I asked her if she enjoyed and she says she does. Why would she lie?

    • If you want my advice, I would say "I can't help but notice that you are suddenly opposed to it. If you feel uncomfortable with it, I want you to let me know." This way the statement ends on "What are you feeling" instead of a yes or no question. She might not want to admit to you that she doesn't want to do it anymore because she doesn't want to feel like she's letting you down by taking away anal.

    • Hmm I see, that sounds lighter. Thanks mate.

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