How can I make sure that he appreciates being my first man?

Anonymous

We're not dating yet.
To me cuckolding is the biggest turn off. It makes my stomach sick.
A man who is like a cuckold is still a huge turn on.
I mean if he doesn't care that I'm a virgin then he will never be my first man. First, because thar behavior reminds me of cuckolding, second, because I save my virginity for the special man. If he thinks of himself as no one special to be my first then he truly is no one special. Can't respect such a man who has such a low opinion of himself.

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Anonymous
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What? I don't get it but I'm sure most men like being the first and feel special being the first to pop a girls cherry.

I know I did and I have done it 3 times and remember them all with a special feeling of love for them still.
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AustinMan Influencer
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I don't get this at all. Sorry. Care to try again?
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- Asker
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  I want my man to care about being the first man to take my virginity
- AustinMan
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  How would you have him express it that's a possibility?
- Asker
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  To hear that he is happy that I saved myself
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- AustinMan
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  What if he honestly doesn't care. It's not his first time, I take it? I'm not being mean, just blunt.
- Asker
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  Why would a man not be happy for being the chosen one?
- AustinMan
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  Because generally men do the choosing. He asked you out, right?
- Asker
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  But I am the one to reject or agree. This us a choice.
- AustinMan
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  Agreed. Fundamental mammalian biology: males compete, females choose.

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WhiteShoulder Guru
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I guess I don't understand
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- Asker
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  Which part don't you understand?
- WhiteShoulder
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  Your boyfriend wants you to get with someone else?
- Asker
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  Lol no. He is not my boyfriend Whoever will be my husband should appreciate being my first man.
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- WhiteShoulder
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  If he loves you he totally will
- Asker
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  I agree with you. But I heard that many men don't care about being a woman's first.
- WhiteShoulder
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  A lot don't. But if he loves you he'll care.
- Asker
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  Maybe because most men know it is a little unrealistic to date a virgin?
- Kaazsz
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  The guys who do tend to care, are the type that hate women. They want women to stay virgins because of x y and z religious reason. Most normal people don’t see sex and this huge thing that needs to be celebrated and shit. Only virgins and irritating religious people really make a big deal out of sex. If you want a guy to care, than find a Christian and marry him or something I don’t know. Personally, if it was me and you? Depends. Do I love you? Than I would make it special for you. If I didn’t love you, I’d say you should probably find someone else for your first time if it’s so important for you. I wouldn’t mind being a girls first time. Especially if I love her I’d do my best to make her feel special. But I dunno. If I’m not in love with her I’d personally tell her. But not all guys are that honest. We’ll do anything to get laid lol. So be careful.
- WhiteShoulder
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  It's rare to find a virgin at 30-35. Most guys probably won't care that much either way. But If they love you and they know your virginity is important to you, they'll care too. Have you done other stuff or are you a total virgin?
- Asker
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  No sexual thing
- WhiteShoulder
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  A guy who loves you will respect that
- Asker
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  I don't know why he would disrespect my choice of rejecting other guys lol
- WhiteShoulder
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  How did he do that?
sherlocked2 Xper 3
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did you do :))
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