How can I orgasm (cum) faster when with a guy?

Every time I get together with my fab I get close and then lose it. I have no problem when I’m by myself. Though sometimes it takes longer. I think it’s affecting our relationship. He doesn’t contact me as much and I haven’t seen him in three weeks. He says he’s busy working but I think he found another girl to be his fab. I think it hurts his ego that I don’t finish. What can I do?
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  • I find once I cum I'm often drained physically and lose the drive. I understand many guys are the same. I suggest trying to find a way for you to cum first or simultaneously with him. You could try to lessen the friction so he lasts longer by opening your legs wider, use some lube, or try using some desensitizing cream/spray on him. Also try to avoid positions that make him cum quickly and focus on what works best for you. If you think he's getting close too soon, stop him and take a break during which he could eat you or use a vibrator on you. Also, challenge him to try to make you cum at the exact same time as him. Don't hesitate to finger yourself to help.

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  • My recommendation is more foreplay/oral/fingering/spanking. When you "pre-heat" a girl with some great foreplay, the entre cooks much more quickly (and sometimes multiple times in a row!).

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  • I have the same issue. Using a toy helps. And lube. Try buying the rose toy and use it during sex. It stimulates the clit. Maybe use it to stimulate on the verge of cumming and have him penetrate you.

  • Have u tried rubbing your clit or using a wand While he's inside of you? Playing with your nipples? Watching porn while he's pleasing you?

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  • Just relax and don't worry. If you can just go with it, it'll happen.

  • Try playing with your nipples and your clit. That should help. Also, does he finish before you? Because if that's the case, he should take care of you as well.

    • He tries really hard to make me cum before him but it doesn’t happen. I get close and then nothing. I always play with my clit

    • Try different way that satisfy you, wether that would be playing with your clit, nipples, ass act. If you keep getting close, you can always fake it.

  • You have no chemistry, or you just dont find him sexually attractive maybe.
    An emotional connection really helps if your personalities matched and you actually spent time learning about each other.

  • You chose poorly.

  • Try mimicking what you are doing when you masturbate. Try have him hit a spot you like

  • Move on from him for starters and find yourself a guy who can match your sex drive.

  • Rub your clit while he's penetrating

    • I do that. I get close then stays that way for a while. I lose it and have to build it up again

  • Well oral ie foreplay then sex or use toy on your clit as when he fucks you

    • Great minds think alike

    • Well I like to please so good to see a woman agree with me most be doing something right

  • What is fab? Let it go. Be relax. Most women may have problem letting go in bed. You may allow him to please you the way you please yourself. Say it to yourself couple if times. Louder softer doesn't matter. You get to decide. Mire you repeat it to your self with confidence it is likely to happen.

    • I meant to type friends with benefits

    • I thought about it after asking you. You might be trying to type friends with benefits

    • So no worry

  • How do you do it alone

    • I massage my clit and I do that when we are having sex but I still can’t get there

    • I dated a lady like you, very nice lady. Are you too tense with him

    • Maybe. Though I’m like that with every guy. Is there anything I can do?

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  • Try fantasizing. Whatever scenario gets you off the quickest when you masturbate, use when you are with him. It’s what us guys do when we’ve been with someone so long that the new has worn off.

  • Since I assume you are over 35, how high is your sex drive or libido at your age? Hopefully you still get just as horny as you did as a teenager or early 20s

    • I have a really high sex drive and want sex all the time. Though when we start having sex it feels great but I don’t get there. It’s like something is holding it back

    • Well that's awesome and inspiring

    • How long have you been with your current guy?

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