How can I overcome my body insecurity of my vagina shape?

Basically sometimes I tend to feel somewhat self conscious of my body.. it’s been like this my whole life since I was in grade school. I’m 24 years old now and I am finally in a healthy relationship , my partner tells me I’m beautiful, sexy, and perfect the way I am. I’m not a bombshell girl you can find at a beach or being whistled at by men but I’m average, a bit curvy with some stomach. However, my vagina shape has somewhat bothered me at times. It’s not just small lips like girls have in porn.. it’s like an outie vagina. I feel like it doesn’t look good or sexy at times so I cry about it. My boyfriend insists he loves me and he enjoys it and gives me oral sex. I’m just scared I won’t be good enough. I’m definitely not transgender or ever think about that because I absolutely love being a woman and how I was born. How can I feel better about my body though?

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  • Trust me there’s nothing wrong w it. First of all I don’t believe there’s ever been a man in history who’s ever turned down a girl for sex because her box was oddly shaped or something. I k ow I haven’t. Most people don’t realize their worst enemy is their self, as you are yours. If a man really loves you, cares about you he’s going to see you as just more than what’s between your legs. It’s a combination of things. Sure sex may be on his mind in the beginning when he notices you for the first time, but as you get to know her more that isn’t the most important thing. Sure it’s important, but not as important as all the other things that make him feel the way he does about you. Regardless of how much he tells you you’re perfect, it really isn’t going to help u til you come to terms w it yourself that you’re perfect. If you went he wouldn’t be w you. That’s why a man can never make a female completely happy, she has to find that w in herself as to why she’s unhappy. I’m not sure if some sort of therapy is best. I say that because at your age you’re pretty much set in your ways as far as your thoughts, actions, morals, etc.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Many guys, including I, find an outie very erotic and the best playground for oral sex. When you get with a guy who gives you oral sex like he worships your vulva (as I do with my SO), your insecurity will fade away. It is critically important that you never give a guy fellatio until he has voluntarily and without condition, given cunnilingus to you.

    When you think it may happen, look after your vulva painstakingly. A warm water rinse inside and out after the last time you pee before the event. If you can do that in a bath, it will be even more thorough. And you need not shave or wax to the point of looking age 12. Just crop and edge as you would for a bikini.

    If he goes downtown with enthusiasm and stays that way, you have just been liberated from your insecurity. And with each successive session, it will get better until you almost plead for it.

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  • Aawwww we all have such a hard time with that!

    My hubby tells me I'm amazing but I never believe him! But I should all the older lady's say they feel so bad for ignoring compliments till latter on.

    Only after he told me how painful it is that I never believe him and show that I think he is lying did I understand that I'm hurting him by not accepting his praise.

    I'm not a perfect women but I make him so happy and he makes me happy. Even if my vag. Looks so ugly he loves it and kisses it every night.

    What does it matter what I think cause he loves it! Even my girlfriend who we had a 3some with adored it and nibbled on me all night!

    • That's awesome and I've been in the same boat as hubby. It's great to overcome the lies of the lies and know that we truly accept and love all of you. It does help knowing other people outside the relationship think the same thing. We've had similar experiences.

  • Any man that degrades a woman for her vagina shape definitely should not give him the time of day. Majority of women are not born with pretty cut up vagina shapes. I think a lot of pornstars get surgeries done so their vagina is cut into better shaping for videos. It’s all fake

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  • If HE likes it, Loves it, Adores it, i don't see an issue with it, i used to feel complexed of my penis, and ask women after sex if they felt good or not, and i learned that if i do a "good job" i can see and feel in a woman, if not same, i could see her disappointment and "make up" other ways... so as long as you BOTH feel good i don't see the issue. 🤷‍♂️

  • Please don't worry about having outie labia lips - many guys absolutely love that, I certainly do !

    And whilst girls where I currently live in Asia tend to have smaller 'butterfly' labia lips, which are lovely, there is something especially beautifully sexual about bigger labia lips !!

  • Therapy. Lots and lots of therapy.

  • Labia are like penises, they are all different... I had not much exposure to an 'outie' and I was really taken aback when I first saw one. My reaction ruined my friends with benefits relationship, sorry to say.

  • Let a bunch of guys look at it naked and you'll see how wonderful they think it is!

  • All vaginas are unique and beautiful. I'm sure yours is absolutely perfect.

  • You’ll get better over time. It’s just something about yourself you’re going to have to get used to. There’s nothing wrong or strange about it. Don’t let your insecurity about it come between you and your partner though. He’s made it clear he appreciates you the way you are.

  • I don't think you have anything to overcome. There are lots of vaginas like yours and tons of guys like them just the way they are 🙂

  • All woman and all womans Vaginas are wonderful and different so just trust in the person your with.. dont you want them to trust in you.. your beautiful and lovely im sure he tells you all the time. TIME TO TRUST AND BELIEVE.

  • How does this relate to being transgender? I’m concerned that someone has somehow discussed this as a option just because you mentioned it?
    Anyway I’m sure your Vigina is wonderful your just not spending enough quality time with her. I’ve had some girls admit to a lot of behaviors they have done to get more comfortable with there personal insecurities but it always seems to involve some form of one on one time with said insecurity. Draw it paint it get a mirror and look at it. It’s yours own it….

  • I would take your boyfriend's word. It seems like he's very attracted to you from what he says and does. I think lots of men would find it a turn on.

  • You have to understand that not all guys like the same features. Breast size, characteristics of the vagina, and every other detail of a woman's body is a matter of what their tastes are. Many men love an outie. It's not unusual at all... very common. Don't stress it because it isn't any more of an issue than whether guys prefer blondes or brunettes. The answer is YES they do!

  • I think an outie vagina is pretty sexy. For what it's worth, I've seen pictures of outie vaginas and I've gotten hard when I've seen them. Erections don't lie.

  • Your boyfriend wouldn't eat it if he didn't like it. Stop already

  • You should feel about your body and your boyfriend loves your body so you should not worry about it. Also you said you are average and believe it or not that’s what guys like you are good enough. You can always improve yourself by going to the gym more, eat better, maybe do some yoga. If you do those things not only you be above average but you will feel bettter physically and mentally.

  • find porn with outie vaginas to normalize it in your mind

  • It's perfectly fine. And it can be quite a bit of fun. It's sexy.

  • Slap yourself every time you think that. Because it doesn’t matter at all. And Pavlovian response will train you.

    Also it’s good to learn to take pain.

  • Innie, outie, leftie, rightie, it's all good.

  • sorry. but could i see ur camel toe? i, d rate it and give u an advice

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