How can I stop feeling insecure about my virginity?

Question

I am 20 and I am still a virgin. It makes me feel insecure. I want to have sex, but at the same time I am still quite afraid.  by the way, I am not single.

Mystic_Nova · Accepted Answer

I'm a 22 year old vorgin by choice. And gun, sex is not the end of the world. There is so much good things that come with waiting.
- No pregnancy scares
- Less chances of catching a std
- Less drama
Etc etc

There is nothing wrong with waiting, but you shouldn't be scared about having sex either you just need to be aware and careful.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

At least you have a relation. I have too much insecurities and commitment issues that i can't keep a relationship.

Mark-IV · Accepted Answer

Cute reserved girls who are virgins are rapidly becoming a rarity nowadays, you don’t have to bow to pressure from a shallow and sex obsessed society, you live and meet guys as you please and one day you’ll have sex with someone you love and it will be amazing, sex is so much better when it’s meaningful and with a loved one.

Berethor · Accepted Answer

You wait until marriage? and how long are you in relationship, anyway it's not a bad thing.

Hawner · Answer

Just don't. You will lose your V-card whenever you feel prepared to it. Ignore social pressure and other shit, just go at the rhythm you want to go.

Marcuslrh · Answer

No need to feel insecure about it just relax and be confident and if your gonna have sex make sure you tell your partner your a virgin and if you have the right person they will look after you 🙂

jshm2 · Answer

By remembering that it doesn't define you. You'd rather have a quality relationship, than mere animal sex.

Massageman · Answer

If you aren't marrieds , that usually means that you would be married.  And you haven't consummated yet?

RosePrincess · Answer

Don’t over think it and you will have sex when the right time come

rgw235 · Answer

The best thing is to stick with your morals, if you feel like you would prefer to be a virgin than stick with it

TallAnon · Answer

I lost my virginity at 20 and I still feel like it was too early. It's not about whether you have had sex or not, it's about who you had it with.

Valnac · Answer

Do you have foreplay?  Do you get sexually aroused? Try to relax. Do whatever feels good!

MrEscanor · Answer

Why do you feel insecure about it? İt is a course of nature. You are virgin until you have your first.

Tuner9069 · Answer

Wait till you feel you're with the right person. I believe that more marriages and long term relationships could or would last longer if either partner didn't have expectations of getting sex or of experience from past experiences.

Anonymous · Answer

I've never understood why people place such a huge importance on virginity. I say don't think about it. It's a non factor. You have sex (first time or not) and with someone when you are comfortable and ready. Plain and simple.