How can I stop hating my tan skin?

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im half middle eastern half eastern european and i grew up in a very colorist environment. My sister is like my white mom's twin, she is paper pale, dark blonde and growing up everyone adored her complexion. Boys around us always asked her out. So im very insecure about my skin color. I still find it hard to believe that a guy will find me attractive me despite my tan skin. Every time i see my hyperpigmentations and dark circles i can't help but hate being born this way. How do i stop overthinking about this? Even pornography is full of women like my sister. Paper pale body pink nipples. Can a guy geniunely love my dark genitalias too?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Trust me you look gorgeous. But me telling you that isn’t going to cure your thoughts about yourself. You have to find a way to learn to love yourself. I’m not just saying you look gorgeous either to make you feel better. I think you truly are beautiful. Do you want to go on a date w me? Lol jk well no I’m not but yes I am considering I’m much older. You’re fine. Please maybe get some books, I prefer audio, on ways to help you learn to love yourself more. You can’t compare yourself to everyone else, you’ll only drive yourself insane. Everyone is different for a reason. When I go to the ice cream store, I like chocolate or strawberry, others like vanilla, etc, etc. You’ll meet someone who loves what flavor you’re serving. Hang in there kiddo, you’ll be fine. I mean you already are, but just hang in there w your beautiful smile.

BobSansMal · Accepted Answer

I'm "white" and my wife is east Indian, and I love her dark skin, all the dark hyperpigmented features of them. I love seeing the contrast between her skin tone and mine. Yeah, it's not the main thing I love about her, but it's an amazing bonus that I wouldn't trade for anything.

If you could see those features through my eyes, you'd never feel insecure about your skin tone. It's a wonderful thing you have, treasure it, value it.

Ms_Facesitter · Accepted Answer

Stop comparing yourself to others. I'm very happy with how I look, I also have a tan, but if I go comparing I'm sure I'll find someone better. But there's no point in doing that, because they will always be better at being themselves. But nobody can be better than you at being yourself. But as long as you keep looking at others, instead of yourself, nobody gets to see the best of you. And being comfortable with who you are is super sexy!

Guy13 · Answer

That’s silliness. You’re perfect with that neck, light tan, dark hair, and perfect nose. What are you upset about.  And you look nice too…. ”You’re an easy sale.”

summiter · Answer

We all have slightly different skin colors... it is no big deal. Enjoy you for who you are!

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

After looking at your photo, all I can think if I want to see more of your skin in order to judge the tone better. ;) You look amazing.

Dargil · Answer

It is what G0d gave you. Be at peace with it. There are things about me which, uhhh, fall short. But I have to accept them.

. Can a guy genuinely love my dark genitals' too?
My SO is East Asian. She is half as dark as an African and her nether region is as dark brown as can be. I think it looks exotic and mysterious. I give her oral sex almost every week.

ThinkerShell · Answer

The problem you suffer is the problem my wife being used to suffer with her sister
I can tell you things you'll probably find useful and will feel better afterward
But there are questions too and it'll go long finally
I'll do it for you anyways since I know the pain and am not like "noo love what you are", or "nooo you're beautiful" (indeed you are but I know such words don't work now)
So tell me would you like to read them or not? :)
My Respects

bowenw · Answer

Embrace your beauty and don't compare yourself to others. A guy that's into you will love you just the way you are.

Grond21 · Answer

Yes, he absolutely can!! Many men find you ideal

Iron_Man · Answer

You’re fine use suntan lotion

joeldalton · Answer

Put your genitals on my mouth and I'll love you long time.

Stevefiveo · Answer

I think your skin looks nice.

BJP21 · Answer

Really? Many girls here in SoCal spend hours in the sun at the beach to get the dark tan you have. I wouldn't be self conscious about it.

Twalli · Answer

I don't know about dark genitals, I haven't seen any. However, girls who are tan are generally considered attractive in my area of the US.

Passing_by · Answer

Beauty perceptions are heavily influenced by the society you live in. There was a period of time when in Persia, girls with unibrow were considered attractive! You're beautiful so is your skin tone. I can see the influence your environment has on you but you don't need to sweat about it. Yes, it's that easy. Don't dwell on it much, it's only a subjective perception and you're made to believe it like it's a universal truth. It's only tiring with no good.

Guardian45 · Answer

Where do you live?

Surely · Answer

Just think. You have a head start on everyone when summer rolls around and everyone wants a tan!   If a guy doesn’t like a little color variations. Then he is not the one for you.

sidhagain · Answer

You need to live yourself first and then people will follow Won't deny that looks are attractive, but looks comprises not just your complexion To add to it, it's overall personality that matters

curiousjohnnstamoez · Answer

Brown skin is sexy to me

Lookitsmadmax1994 · Answer

I'm very pale and have really dark skin on my genitals. I absolutely love your complexion by the way. Downside to being so pale is I get sunburnt so easily. 😭😭😭

MaSult · Answer

Actually i prefer that🙈😅

SamK20 · Answer

So many white girls wish they wish they could look like you naturally.

And I can guarantee you, that there are thousands of guys that would find you gorgeous without a second thought about your skin tones.

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