How can I stop thinking about sex so often?

I feel like I’m too perverted, I’m always thinking about sex. If I see someone I’m attracted to whether it’s a guy or a girl, I think of them sexually. When I masturbate I think about men I know doing the dirtiest things to me, and I’ll also think about women and their bodies and things I’d like to do to them.

I’m in a relationship and we have a healthy sex life, we have sex often and I’ve never cheated. But it’s like I have an itch and I’m always hungry for more, always finding myself attracted to others as well as my boyfriend. He has no interest in opening our relationship in any way, which I can live with as I don’t want to lose him. I just want to tame these feelings and desires.

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Superb Opinion

  • I have managed to keep my libido under control and even to totally suppress it. I don't have any sexual urges or needs because as soon as the first signs appear,
    I do meditation and some yoga exercises to keep my mind occupied with more sensible activities.

    A high sex drive is a total waste of energy and time to try to control it in any other way. Quite a number of people get busy with body manipulations that do not really
    help the cause but only give a temporary relief that is very unsatisfactory.

    Try to excerpt yourself and tire yourself out, think of other, nicer things than just of sex which is more of an annoyance than a satisfaction on the long run.

    That works perfectly for me as I don't have the slightest need to think of sex/pornography and furthermore, I never manipulate my body to induce those useless spams and muscular contractions.

    • Are you asexual, alibidoist?

    • @centeredness what is "aliidoist". I was unable to find a definition in my encyclopedia.

    • Those who have no sex drive. Asexual and alibido. No sex drive.

Most Helpful Girl

  • You are probably young. If so, it's normal. Hell it is normal for all, but it is more common in younger people. IF, you are in a committed relationship talk to your significant other. Do NOT hide it. It will be come a point of contention and cause a break. Honesty and communication are the keys to a good to great relationship.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Usually for cravings that seem to exceed what is availible the least bad solution is rationing. Come up with a schedule he can keep up with, for example, and stick to it. You can possibly even overlap some things, like if you know he likes to play video games after 9pm you can have that be blowjob time or something.

  • Congratulations -- you are a normal human. The only ready to stop thinking about sex is to be absorbed in something else. When I'm skiing downhill at 50 mph I'm not thinking about sex. When I get back in the lift line and I see a cute liftie, them I'm thinking about sex again.

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  • It happens! Here's the thing: everyone's different, but there are ways to redirect your thoughts. Try distracting yourself with hobbies, exercise, or hanging out with friends. If you're online too much, take a break! Sometimes reading a book or listening to music can be a good reset too. The key is to find healthy outlets for your energy.

  • Good luck. I'm the same way and we ended up partially opening our marriage to cope with my impulses. I've been like this since a teenager and monogamy has always been very difficult for me. I haven't found a way to tame those urges except by acting on them for temporary relief.

  • Why do you wanna do that. Sex is good and normal

  • You are normal. eveyone thinks about it. It is baked into your DNA. This is designed to make sure we propagate the species

  • I talked to my doctor about it and got prescribed something that lowers my libido. It's nice not having to think about sex ALL the time.

  • To be honest it's absolutely normal and healthy living, so get sex from boyfriend, if he is not available the use toys.

  • You ought to see what it is like being a teen guy like me. I have sex frequently and masturbate at least daily and I am still constantly horny

  • Go to therapy

  • I think you are just a bit hyper sexual. I simply let my ex to be other guys when i coudnt satisfy her because i cannot get hard

  • Get out there and get banged

  • sexual peak and bigger need, you need to fullfill it.

  • I assume your boyfriend was the one who asked you out and hit on you

  • It's a hard itch to scratch without actually scratching it. Having been able to experience it in a limited open relationship, not sure I'd be able to go back.

  • Think of a naked Donald Trump