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How can I teach my husband to cum more and last longer?

Hi beautiful people,

So my husband has been really disappointed in his ability to have a longer orgasm by cumming more (he has a fantasy of cumming all over me having it shoot out and it being a large load) and lasting longer during sex. It has made him self conscience about sex. He is questioning if he could please me, he told me having sex with me he has a hard time resisting and controlling himself. He is so turned on that he cums to fast and other times certain positions doesn't make him feel much so he doesn't reach an orgasm the way he would like to. I told him to communicate more with me and not to be shy about changing it up during sex and taking a break to pee if he needs too.

We are each others only sex partners so he has never really tried to understand how to make sex more orgasmic or longer lasting during sex. When we were younger we were animals with sex and he would last longer. He never really communicated he was having issues and feeling unsatisfied after sex until now, it was brought up because he was shying away from sex. I don't mind if its quick, long or whatever I just want to be with him and let him lead since he is super focused on his pleasure and reaching it and my body jitters at just his touch its all natural for me. I enjoy all kinds of sensual things but he is more vanilla so he does not express much about trying stuff.

He does not have a lot of time since he works most of the week, so I wondering if anyone can give me tips that I could forward to my husband on how to last longer to reach a more satisfying orgasm and how to create a bigger load.

If there is anything I can do to help to please share I am really interested in making this more satisfying for my husband. THANK YOU!
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So I just wanted to thank all of you guys for commenting and giving us your advice. y'all are awesome!!! Wanted to update: I showed my husband the comment feed and have been practicing, I have not seen him this excited in a while and it warms my heart. He is more determined and confident during sex and right now we are having sex without finishing to tease him like crazy. He is showing improvement and is exploring more. I am super excited for him and loving this. Thank you all again! Muah! :)
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  • Stop putting pressure on him to be better at sex. Accept him for what he is, and how he performs. There's really not much you can do to make him cum more. You seem to have a good marriage, celebrate that by enjoying the intimacy you two have together, and don't try to measure how much semen he has, or how wet you get, or any other measurement that, in the long run, is totally unimportant.

  • As far as the bigger load there is not much he can do except except not have sex or jerk off for a few days. Exercise and eating well also helps a lot. He will last longer if you go for round 2 or 3 (do you?) How old is he? How often are you having sex currently?

    You sound like a caring and wonderful wife and he is lucky to have you

    • Thank you, your really kind. :) When we get time we have sex once or twice a day if he feels good or has the energy. We do not usually go for round two since he gets self conscience but lately he has been trying to. Presently its been once or twice a week, he hasn't been feeling so great being that he wants a better job and a lot of past childhood stuff has been making him feel lost in himself, so he is on and off. He is 29, he tells me a lot that he feels out of shape and wants to exercise but his body starts to cramp up on him. This also makes him feel insecure about himself, I try to tell him I still find him sexy and hot but he doesn't like what he see's, which I can understand he wants to feel good for himself. He works delivery and has had a few accidents in his past jobs, he is unsure if it caused any injuries or minor damage that the hospital might not have caught, it is making it harder for him to push to stay in shape. He also has not been eating well. He is average weight overall with a little tummy.

    • You are a kind caring wife. He is sooo lucky. Even getting him to go outside for a walk and get some fresh air and a little exercise will help his mental health and his sexual stammina.

    • It sounds nice I think I will try that, he loves to hike maybe I will even plan a hike this week, he has been really wanting some us time outdoors. <3 Thank you!!!

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  • Ask him to control his breathing while sex. And take little break when he things he about to cum. And start thinking something else to that the Cummings feeling goes down. Then start the sex. Do until you feeling like you can't control.

  • Fink out what positions give him the most stimulation and if there is anything else you could do to make it better for him. This will involve experimentation but you will figure it out.

  • I don't think it's anything you can teach or be taught. I've heard there ARE ways to increase his output but, not having a girlfriend, I've not bothered to look into how it's done. I doubt I'm ever gonna have anyone to fuck ever again so, what's the point of doing that?

  • Edging helps too

  • Try edging him over and over again, and make sure he's drinking lots of water, cause that's what makes up those big loads!

  • Edge him. Tie him up and keep bringing him to the brink then stopping. Then do this with sex. Tie him up and ride him so you can control it.
    Also, sex doesn't have to involve the penis. Teach him to make you cum with his tongue.

  • Have him go about 2 weeks without cumming and tease him during that time. Make sure he’s athletic. Eats well and exercises.

  • Hmmm did you try to improve the foods he eat?

  • The amount of semen produced is pretty much purely genetics. There might be something you can take to assist it but you're stuck with what you have in that department.

  • Honestly just waiting for about 2 weeks should allow him to cum more, as for resisting uh i guess you just gonna have to find a way to tolarate it

  • I don't think he can cum more but practicing kegels enough can make him orgasm without cumming as many times as he wants. They're easy to practice and can be done almost at any given time.

  • have him try using a cock ring...

  • Deny him sex and tell him he'll only get to have sex with you once he lasts longer. Then train him, edge him and punish him if he comes too early. Set a time each session that you want him to last to and reward him if he manage it.

    Sounds fun actually.

  • Try these ideas for a bigger load.
    Be sure he is not dehydrated and hasn't cum for several days. Also try getting him very close to climaxing and then stop a few hours before you want him to cum. Repeat this a few times over several hours.
    Let gravity help the ejaculation. When he's ready to cum, have him stand over you positioned directly above where you want his cum to land. For example, be on your back on the floor and have him stand over your face and ejaculate. Open your mouth with your tongue out and encourage him to get as much cum into it as possible so you can swallow it. That alone may make him cum harder.

    • Let us know what works the best for him.

  • Not all guys can shoot a large load , and he has to practice not cumming when having sex to last longer or have him think of something else during sex.

    • How can he practice this? He has tried thinking of something else but he says it just makes him instantly soft since he is trying to focus the whole time on his rhythm, his pleasure, and mine.

    • Tell him try Kegal exercises.

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