How can I tell my boyfriend that I don’t want to have a threesome with him even though I did them in the past with other guys?

Okay I was my boyfriends first and I had a lot of casual sex before him which included threesomes. My boyfriend knows about my sexual history even the threesomes and he won’t stop asking me for a threesome, I told him no because I love you and I am not watching you fuck another woman. I didn’t love the guy I had thressomes with I love you though. I will let him do whatever he wants besides threesomes he can cum on my face, fuck me in my ass. I will literally do anything but a threesome, I also have sex with him everyday but I am not doing a threesome.
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  • I think you already told him. People change; just because you did something in the past doesn't mean you'll continue to do it in the future. Tell him you are not ok with it anymore and you want a monogamous relationship. If he's not ok with it then maybe he's not the right man.

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  • You probably need to move on, as I suspect he is hung up on having threesomes because he knows you did it in the past with various other guys.

    Regardless of his motivation, its not good, as he will either resent you for not giving him a threesome when you did it for other men or simply resent the fact you did so in the past at all and eventuallydump you.

Most Helpful Girls

  • He might get resentful of you because you let some other guy get to do you and an other girl.. but this is why the past will always bite you in the ass..
    I don't think he should be bothered about it but just say if you want to do it then let's breakup.. that should get your point across...

    • He shouldn’t be resentful, he can do whatever he wants with me but a threesome, I have had sex with him 18 times in one day once. I just wish he would understand that I love him and also why would he want anyone but me. I gave him great pussy, why would want anyone else but me.

    • See that is why virginity is weird.. when they didn't get to explore sexually with others but the other person has it often feels it isn't fair.. they want to do their thing too.. I could be wrong.. but that is how I used to feel.. but that was honestly because I wasn't ready to be settled down when I did.

    • @anemone978 This is actually great advice but also proves that women play so many games in relationships.

  • Lol, the guys you don't care about get the threesome. The good guy who loves you doesn't. That is so backwards

    • I didn't love that guy and I have sex with my boyfriend every single day.

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  • I guess no means no. If you dont want one just say no and make it final

  • You already told him and that should be good enough. Next is explaining to him to let it go and quit harrassing you about it before it ruins the relationship for you.

  • Just tell him how u feel about it. Along with it being best if he stop talking about it.

  • The past matters. Any person that has had casual sex should not expect anyone to be faithful/exclusive to them long term. They gave up their value as an exclusive partner for any future relationship they will EVER have by doing that in their past.

    You aren't compatible. Your moral decisions in life DO affect how people will see and treat you.

  • Best you can do is say it's your own boundary. Letting the cat out of the bag was bound to open the conversation.

  • He thinks you see him as a BETA and he's tryin to assert himself as an ALPHA

    Only the alpha dudes who you were more attracted to were able to get the threesomes. In his mind, he thinks you don't see him as hot as the guys you had threesomes with.

  • Reality is there is no way to tell him. Even if you have the threesome it will bother him because he had to beg u to do something another guy easily got out of you.

  • Isn't that a little selfish of you

  • He's weak. Just tell him whatever.

  • Maybe tell him that your threesomes were just for sexual release and there was no love involved. Now that you found love you find full satisfaction with just the guy you love.

  • Well, it was pretty slutty of you to have threesomes before, it's very bitchy to not let him have the same gord you gave your past guys.

  • You never should have said that you had threesomes before, now it'll be on your boyfriend's expectation. Change your boyfriend and start fresh!