How can me and my boyfriend have sex if I’m too tight & im virgin? Help?

[Sugar100]

We had trouble as I’m virgin & im super tight like we managed to have his penis on me half way but not all the way. It feels like fire and worse. I was in cowgirl postion and I cudnt push it in but managed half way get in. boyfriend tried putting it in me in doggie postion & it hurt like flames inside me I was crying. And we tried many times and cudnt push it all the way in. I was wet but than after right away felt dry. So next time I need have a penis already in me or else we won’t be able to have sex. Lol boyfriend tried many times it was 2 hour he spend trying putting it inside & he got tired. It feels like something blocking then I feel blood pouring out but I check and no blood is coming out, it’s like inside my vagina blood is gushing. So imagine half way inside feels like fire, how it’ll feel all the way in? boyfriend don’t want me use lube. I can’t practice at home I live with mom in same room. Then boyfriend had to stop before he Almsot put it all the way inside as I was screaming. Well yes fire going inside u will make u scream n cry lol. Then he ran out of the box of condoms. Any help?

[Love2Jackit]

Yes don't worry about having sex. Tell him if u can't use lube. Then ask him 2 let u fuck his virgin ass with a dildo. By the way make sure he knows u can't use any lube. Then see his reply. If he says it's not the same. Tell him if it's not. Then why want he let u try it. I will tell u why cause he's a self centered asshole. He will keep saying it's not the same. In reality it really is the same. U know why cause ur vagina is a virgin. Along with his ass being a virgin. Next point he keeps not wanting 2 let u use lube. Well when I say self centered asshole. That's mean he wants 2 see u bleed like hell. Worse tear u up and u will never be the same. He can actually scar or damage u for life. Best thing u can do is go see ur doctor. Tell him the situation and see if wants 2 run any test. By chance u might have something wrong. But by all means don't let him keep trying 2 have sex with u. Especially cause it sounds like it's all about him. Meaning nothing about u him just wanting 2 say I took ur virgin hood. By the way if the only place u can have sex is at ur mom's place. Then tell him u want 2 try it but at his parents place. That's when u will see how he really cares or feels about u. Reason I say that I would be willing 2 bet. His reply will be no way. I can't have sex at thier house. If u love me u wouldn't be ask me 2 choose. Where u want 2 have sex. By him telling u no. That's direct proof he's a classic self centered asshole. Best advice u are 2 young dump him. U have got all ur life in front of u. That means u have plenty of time 2 find another boyfriend. Along with plenty of time 2 wait 2 have sex. Life is 2 short 2 ruin over an issue of having sex.

[Sugar100]

I don’t want sex at our parents home we can’t have sex with parents at home? Wth

[Sugar100]

Relax after I tell him again he’ll accept

[Sugar100]

Accept the lube

[Ogrey95]

There is plenty of time for you to practice find some sensitive Dove soap or anyting like feminine wash and practice with your fingers in the shower. key is not to stress out and be afraid because that tightens the muscle relax and play on the outside before insertion. You could even get a toy from a friend clean it and walk somewhere you have privacy and practice giving yourself the work up until it fully inserts. as far as not using lube he might have to change his mind if he wants a satisfying sexual relationship with you until you have become ready for full insertion without it.

[Ogrey95]

There is also the option of oral play beforehand the longer the better it helps loosen up. If he can get you to orgasm more than once before insertion it should be a little easier. You and him can also practice stretching you out a little with fingers

[Ogrey95]

And if it doesn't stop hurting after a week of trying then I would suggest a doctor before any damage happens

[Sugar100]

No we don’t meet daily we both live with parents. But I didn’t orgasm at all n not enough foreplay not really kissing no fingering I just feel blood pouring out but I check and no blood is coming out only lightly wen I pee.

[Ogrey95]

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[Sugar100]

Ok so i peed and got no blood at all in napkin nor in the toilet only yellow pee as I don’t drink water.

[wingattebaby16]

go see your obgyn.. a girlfriend of mine had to have hymenectomy to finally be able to have sex... sometimes there is a physical problem.. Go see your obgyn for an exam to find out... if there is nothing wrong, then do the following:

also, for a V Card holder, you need like 30 mins of foreplay to get you wet, and he needs to finger/oral you so you get 1-3 orgasms to help you loosen up.

you are putting too much pressure on yourself and him... forcing the issue only makes you tense up...

[Sugar100]

Oh he didn’t finger me we kiss little bit and foreplay little bit

[Sugar100]

I didn’t orgasm at all just in pain

[Sugar100]

Still he had trouble put it all the way in as I kept moving wen I felt pain I twitched n made it hard for him

[wingattebaby16]

foreplay for 20-30 mins is a must even for me! and I get wet easy.. He needs to finger you, give you oral, and basically make sure you are ready. in fact, you 2 should do this 3-5 times w/o any attempts to have intercourse. It will relax you and if he really needs to orgasm, you can give him a hj or oral. Girl, take the pressure off yourself.. There is no hurry... AND using lots of Lube will help a lot.. if he doesn't want it, too bad. If he wants sex, he needs to use it and a lot the first few times. PM if you need more help... i am worried several GAG guys are gonna read this and then have a Stroke coz of blood loss to their brains!!!

[Sugar100]

We managed get half way in me but it’s fire of flames it feels and to push it all the way in it’s hard like blockage I feel tight and Triple the fire I think I can’t breathe I was screaming wen he barely put tip

[wingattebaby16]

you need to see your obgyn to prevent any permanent harm to your lady parts! if you are on fire, that is a VERY VERY bad sign.

[Sugar100]

I thought all girls felt fire

[Sugar100]

I’m virgin too tight we didn’t do much foreplay i wasn’t that wet

[Sugar100]

I got blood on his condom and I feel blood pouring out of my vagina but nothing is coming out it’s like stuck inside only little bit comes out wen I pee why?

[Ogrey95]

If there is blood inside and only a little bit comes out when you pee try a water douche to flush out the rest you can't let the blood sit inside. The little bit that comes out when you pee is the little bit stuck between your labia majora below the clit your pee hole is not inside of your sex hole

[Ogrey95]

You're not ovulating so your vaginal cavity is not prepared to release the blood stored

[Ogrey95]

@Sugar100

[Sugar100]

@Ogrey95 where I buy the water douche?

[Sugar100]

Is it good I’m Not ovulating so the blood stores won’t be released?

[Ogrey95]

It's a generic douche bottle found in most stores

[Sugar100]

@Ogrey95 I’ll buy it at rite aid? How I use the water douche?

[Ogrey95]

You are bleeding into your vaginal cavity that could cause chemical imbalances and other serious issues such as infection

[Ogrey95]

And since you are not on your period your body is not letting out the blood

[Sugar100]

@Ogrey95 but how is water douche used is it easy?

[Ogrey95]

Put water in the bottle insert as far back as possible and gently squeeze the water it will leak out like you are peeing

[Ogrey95]

And yes you can buy it at rite aid

[Sugar100]

@Ogrey95 put it far back where? In vagina lips?

[Ogrey95]

Into your vaginal cavity

[Ogrey95]

Where his penis was going

[Sugar100]

@Ogrey95 where is the vabgina cavity? What the heck is that? I’m guna walk to the store to buy that I’m so sleepy n body hurts

[Ogrey95]

The whole his penis went in is the vaginal cavity

[Ogrey95]

It's called a cavity because it's the same hole the baby comes out

[Sugar100]

@Ogrey95 ugh how I’m suposed to reach down that hole? If I can’t see it? I peed and blood is coming out lifhtly on napkin like orange as its faint but feel blood coming out. Ugh

[Ogrey95]

The same way you use a tampon you stick it in you don't have to see it. it's perfectly fine and it's very easy you got this I believe in you

[Sugar100]

@Ogrey95 I never used a tampon

[Sugar100]

Why I’m getting faint blood like orange? Is blood stuck or what? My body hurts my stomach is sore makes me feel kinda sick. But is it good u said I’m not ovulating? So I won’t get pregnant? I’m on depo shot too

[Ogrey95]

Drink a lot of water and your pee will clear up it's recovering from the painful sessions don't worry about whether or not you are on your period rn it is of no concern anymore just get that water douche

[Ogrey95]

Fill it with filtered water and put the nozzle in your vagina as deep as you can and lightly squeeze the water out it is recommended you do this in the shower because it is messy

[Ogrey95]

If you wish to continue this conversation with me please do it in my inbox I do not wish to blow up this other ladies notifications up anymore

[Sugar100]

@Ogrey95 the water douche I bought is already filled with water, I put it inside vagina lips? Or hole I can’t see? Lol

[Ogrey95]

In the hole as deep as comfortable and squeeze the bottle slowly and everything will leak out I recommend doing this in the shower it gets messy

[Ogrey95]

When you do it right it will be the same place your boyfriend's penis went

[Sugar100]

@Ogrey95 I did that only some moments felt the water inside the vagina but no blood gushed down I did only once inch inside as it hurt too much to go deeper

[Ogrey95]

Has any of the water started to leak out of your vagina yet

[Ogrey95]

If it has let it leak until it's done

[Sugar100]

@Ogrey95 I don't know I’m eating not paying attention but like half got inside that’s it as I told u I didn’t do it perfectly I only fit an inch inside me some just flushed down the toilet and I felt some did go inside as it felt cold

[Ogrey95]

And rinse your lips really well with warm water when you're done

[Sugar100]

@Ogrey95 okay I’ll do that after I’m done eating so I’m okay now? Even tho I didn’t do it that super correctly?

[Ogrey95]

It's okay as it sits now but expect there to be wet spots in your panties until your body expels the water you didn't get it all in so it's not going to rinse out as fast

[Ogrey95]

The point of the douche was to rinse out all of the bad stuff and you only got some of the water in. you will be fine just expect water to leak out when you are relaxed

[Sugar100]

@Ogrey95 I still have 3 more of the douche got a 4 pack for $3, has vinagear

[broken_heart_at_48]

You might have a urinary tract infection you need to see a doctor as soon as possible you can get very sick especially if you're feeling faint and your stomach hurts

[Sugar100]

@broken_heart_at_48 wen did I say I’m Feeling faint? My stomach don’t hurt anymore due to my medicine. However a month ago the doctor said I might that urinary tract infection forgot if I needed medicine or not. Will call early tomorrow

[Sugar100]

@broken_heart_at_48 I’m not feeling faint lol I meant to say I have light faint color blood, faint as in little bit lol but almost no blood is really coming out just faintly

[Sugar100]

@broken_heart_at_48 but what happens if u get that tract infection? I had it before long time ago I know I need drink more water

[broken_heart_at_48]

I'm sorry you said you were sleepy but still you should see your doctor better safe than sorry

[devilish-cutie]

make him finger you and come more times via oral. then you can try with smaller dildos and such or he can just try a bit stretch you with his fingers. you should also relax, sometimes if you are too tense muscles get tighter, also dont do it if you are not wet!

[Sugar100]

He didn’t finger me foreplay wasn’t much kissing it takes long for me get horny n he gets Horny easy then wen we were leaving he was still horny

[devilish-cutie]

you should do a lot of foreplay, he should be more patient, if he can't he can jack off or you can do it for him then onto the next hard on

[Sugar100]

Yea I wanted kiss a lot but are kisses don’t match up anymore we kiss in opposite ways. 😅 before our kisses would be fine now using who’s doing it wrong. I have birth control shot but we Didn’t do much foreplay just dry humping

[Sugar100]

boyfriend did say I need buy toy to stretch it but I live with mom we r renting a room. So I can’t practice buy toy

[ZackBan]

A question better addressed to a doctor honestly because I'm tempted to say suck it up and push through the pain but if you actually have a condition that might be bad advice just get it looked at. Better be safe than sorry.

[allysun]

Go to the doctor sweetie. The obgyn because U may have a condition that makes sense painful!! They can help. Otherwise I would recommend lube :( and going slow

[Swimmerdude2013]

Get yourself a vibrator. Lelo gigi 2

[Jamie05rhs]

Why is he against using lube?

[Sugar100]

I don't know lol

[Jamie05rhs]

Well, that's a dumb thing to be against.

[Sugar100]

Lol it’s just like a lotion no big deal

[Gedaria]

I think it more a examination do there you. I would make a appointment to see your doctor...

[Sugar100]

I thought it felt like fire for all girls? lol on their first time?

[navyP]

Buy a dialater set it's basically a set of toys made to help stretch the vagina they start out small and each one increases in size

[Sugar100]

Okay. Issue is I live in a room with mom we r renting room in a house that isn’t ours. So with mom there I can’t use my toys lol it’s rare that I’m alone in the room finally

[navyP]

Oh well that sux

[Sugar100]

Yes I got blood drawn test and doctor said a month ago maybe I have it but I’ll call tomrow if I need medicine for it. I want know what happens if u have that? Is that reason y I cudnt have his penis all the way?

[TienShenhan]

It's possible that you are male

[Buffboy2000]

I laughed way too hard at this!

[FrenchyRomain]

he needs to push harder

[Sugar100]

He did but I kept moving arching my back from the pain n it lead him not able to continue to push harder

[Sugar100]

I felt I cudnt breathe if it goes all the way in it’s fire times a million

[FrenchyRomain]

then pop your own cherry ^^

[Sugar100]

How? I don't know how deep to go I’m clueless

[FrenchyRomain]

A banana or a cucumber is about the same size as an average dick. You take those, put a condom on it, and shove it all in

[Sugar100]

It makes. Me not able to breathe it’s teaming terror pain. I can’t do that as I live in a room with mom we rent a room

[lofii]

Put a grapefruit in there

[Khanzeb77]

Use Vaseline

[Anonymous]

First of all, you aren't married so you need to wait... have respect for yourself

[Anonymous]

Well he is an idiot you need to use as much lube as you need to until you get broken in.

[Anonymous]

The question is why you're trying to smash when you clearly don't enjoy it?
It's called peer pressure and it's a fucking menace, you don't owe it to anyone to fulfill their fantasies because you have a life of your own and if they can't seem to understand that then you need to find someone better that does.

[Opinion Owner]

Sex isn't everything in a relationship if you wanted to wait until marriage or even later, it's your life you're entitled to do so. If this is rebel mentality or you're lying about your age then you need to shift your focus on what really matters.

[Anonymous]

If it's to tight, then you aren't aroused enough.
You simply just have to (or he has to) get you more relaxed and aroused.