How can we bring back slut "shaming," so that there will be women of quality again instead of all these used up emotionally broken whores?

[Anonymous]

[jennifer_bloom]

My friend said something very smart - she told me if she ever has a daughter - she will ask about their homework every time the girl mentions how pretty she is - cause she doesn't want the child to base her self-image on her sex appeal or ability to charm men. We disagree a lot but my friend is very good at dealing with people.

[Asker]

That's actually a really good idea!

[DanOh2018]

So you want to leave her feeling the need to seek validation that she's pretty elsewhere. Than just a nice comment from her mom. I think this would probably result in a girl being more permiscuous, and just make her hate her Mom. There are no easy shortcuts in parenting.

[Anonymous]

I don't think travelling back to the 1940s is productive for anyone. I'm assuming that men who have a lot of sex get to get designated as male hoes too? Seriously why not just find the women who are more conservative. Like people usually find each other.

[Asker]

Of course I'm against manwhores who enable these STD carrying petri dishes as well as the female ones.

[Asker]

"Why not just find a girl who isn't a whore?" I'm pretty sure the majority of women are open to having sex outside of a relationship or within the first few dates. In other words, these women are extremely rare.

[Opinion Owner]

There are more women out there looking for relationship instead of casual relationships. I know because many young women have told me that. They complain about the same thing that the men they come across aren't looking for anything serious. Or they get cheated on. They are tired.

[Asker]

The way women talk about sex on here, seeing all the dating profiles I've seen on various apps, it makes it all very hard to believe women want a good man. And if they do, why do they act and dress like whores anyway? Low self esteem? Is the only way to find a woman who isn't like this straight up asking them how many sexual partners they've had on your first date, how they feel about sex with strangers? I feel it'd be almost wrong to ask but nowadays it seems necessary.

[Opinion Owner]

The thing is that some people might have a lot of sexual partners in their past and then grow up and realize they want to slow down. I don't know if you can necessarily judge a person with too many partners. I have female friends who only have been with their husbands and then other friends who had many more partners. It is more about personality than necessarily their morality. Extroverts have more partners than introverts things like that.

[Asker]

The more sexual partners a person has the less successful their relationships tend to be. Google it if you think I'm talking out of my butt. Not only that but it's disgusting and trashy when I speak to a man or woman with a high body count. Women who hop from dick to dick in their youth and then decide to "settle down," for some poor dude who doesn't know any better, they're not relationship material. Neither are fuckboys/manwhores. Both are more likely to cheat, both are not well adjusted, and both clearly lack morality. I can't have kids or anything of the sort with a woman who sees sex as a handshake or just something to do for fun.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not a person who can do casual sex but I do think people can change and become healthier people through self reflection, therapy, faith, meditation whatever it takes. it requires them trying to heal themselves. Just because someone has a low body count it doesn't necessarily mean they are healthy. I will say having a low body count has left me with very few regrets.

[Asker]

Self reflection, therapy, faith and meditation, yes. This does make a person better. But it does not and can never wipe their slates clean. You're right, a woman isn't good relationship material just because she's a virgin. But the opposite *is* true, a woman whose had lots of sex with many people is most certainly not good relationship material. "Having a low body count has left me with very few regrets." Just as it should, and always does. A woman loses her ability to pair bond and damages herself emotionally when she sluts it up, same for a man, though I believe it's slightly less harmful on a guy's psyche. A smart woman does not sleep around and is not easy.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think some people bond through sex or should I say they can separate sex from like or love. Again that is a wiring thing. If it is a wiring thing it might not necessarily damage them emotionally like it would others. I still think people can be good parents and partners if their body counts are high if they decide to be faithful in monogamous relationships. I can't believe I'm supporting people with high body counts when mine is really low but I know with age that sexuality and faithfulness is much more complicated then just how many and who you sleep with.

[Asker]

"I don't think some people bond through sex." If they don't, it is because they are broken. Emotionally damaged, physically abused, maybe even flat out sociopaths. (Sociopaths can form real bonds with people unlike psychopaths, so it's possible for a sociopathic instant gratification seeking woman to marry a man and stay loyal to him.) Anyways... Sex is the ultimate form of showing your love for someone. The words "I love you," they are special. But they are meaningless if not backed by action at some point. How do you do this? Besides marriage, sex. If you've had sex with dozens of people; people who don't care about you, and you don't care about them, sex is nothing special at all, no. You're quite literally used goods and have nothing to offer besides words and actions you've given to many people beforehand as if it didn't matter. As a man or woman ages, and they "settle down," well, why do you think women do this? To have kids, primarily. Their biological clock is ticking and they need to have children soon, it's now or never once they hit 30ish. Do you think a man of quality will settle for a used up whore? I don't, and I wouldn't. Keep in mind, I'm only 22. I'm 22 and I'm already disgusted with these kinds of people. As for why a man stops hooking up with who knows who or what or where, I'd probably say it's also to start a family as well. But a man who seeks instant gratification through anonymous or meaningless sex is a weak man and should not raise kids as they will most likely grow as bastard children with a spineless father.

[Ogopogo]

The incel thing is real, the spike on the graph is truly a problem and truly frightening, and it's almost impossible to talk about the flip side of this story without being called names; but fact is the women who ordinarily would have paired off with our 30% incel population are instead being vigorously passed around by high value men and eventually discarded. These men move on to younger women, leaving their former "plates" (that's really the term; one balances several at a time, like the Cat in the Hat) to spend their late 20s scrounging for what they consider a suitable mate. By this time they've caught on to the fact that they've been used as sex toys and they're justifiably pissed off, but they cannot shake the feeling that they themselves are high value females and ought not settle for a commonplace male; yet that is all they can now attain. Meanwhile the men now available to these discarded women are messed up in the head from spending 10 or 15 years of their adult lives struggling, alone, and then criticized for being lonely and ignored. It doesn't help that tens of millions of people think this is all hilarious and justified; and usually they think one side or the other of this sad equation is sexist or a myth. No coincidence then that tens of millions of people are taking medication for depression and anxiety. This is societal collapse in full motion - not a dark vision of the future or an unpleasant thought experiment but the state of our civilization right now.

[nerms123]

Let’s invent slut shaming shaming instead ! Shame on you for shaming them! 👹👹👹

[canadiancoloursky]

Society should be pimp shaming guys for going around misleading women into bed with them when the women are expecting more, or men that are emotionally abusive... Balance the balance so to speak

[Asker]

I'm okay with that too. If men didn't allow it in the first place it wouldn't happen tbh.

[BestUserName100]

From what you described they are worse then guys. Not good people at all or dating material.

[Asker]

Manwhores are only enabling them and are nearly as bad tbh.

[BestUserName100]

Yep same goes both ways. Too many slutty women/guys willing to give it up to multiple people multiple times a day. Maybe you have to catch them when they are younger before the player types ruin/destroy their lives and no guys gonna want them. By then they will probably be way to far gone to change.

[fuxkthisshxit]

First, stop calling them whores, they just need selfsteem. If we could show the self-confidence everything would be all right. And second, girls are not just the looks, let a bit for the imagination, you don't have to show it all lol

[tara987]

Bring it back? It never left.

[Anonymous]

Only undesirable losers benefit from the oppression of women. Instead of blaming others for your inability to attract and keep a woman why don't you work bettering yourself?

[Asker]

Care to explain to me how not wanting your daughter or wife to be a whore is oppressing them?

[Opinion Owner]

Because marriage contracts and sexual oppression robs women of sexual choice.

[Asker]

Are you a porn addict/user by any chance? Just curious. Only guys I meet that would use a reason like that tend to be coomers (if you dont get the meme it's another name for people who jerk off all day erryday) lol

[Opinion Owner]

Yea I stared in a porno with your mom, I hope you liked it LoL

[Anonymous]

Well... be picky about whom you have a relationship with and the problem will solve itself.
When you choose women based on looks instead of character, you reap what you sow.

[Asker]

That's very true. But some sluts look pretty innocent and like they might actually be decent women. You can't always distinguish between dating material and garbage... some even lie about their promiscuity, of course because they know very few men will want them and their baggage.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, however, you’re job as a man is to learn how to distinguish between the two. It takes practice but one day you’ll know

[Anonymous]

Good question