How can we improve the Sex Lives of Young People?

[KingofCups]

Young people, are having Sex much less frequently than thier predecessors :(

Lack of sex negatively impacts our phyical/emotional health & sense well-being

Top Reasons Include:
1. Delayed Integration into Society and Adulthood
2. Excessive Consumption of Digital Media, Streaming Services, and Electronic Gaming

"Between 00-02 and 16-18, past-year sexual inactivity rose from almost 19 percent to almost 31 percent among men ages 18 to 24"

Fewer adults report having sex on a weekly basis.
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Delayed Adulthood

Young adults may be having less sex because they’re taking longer to progress to adulthood. “These trends have not occurred in isolation; they are part of a broader cultural trend toward delayed development."

"Adolescents in the 2010s were less likely to drive, drink alcohol, go without their parents, and work at paid jobs compared with adolescents in previous decades.”

"It's taking longer for young people to complete the process of "emerging adulthood” — the time from the end of adolescence to the beginning of young-adult responsibilities such as a stable job, marriage, and parenthood." ___________________________________________

Digital Distraction

"The overwhelming amount entertainment options offered by the internet and digital media as a whole may be distracting young people from developing real-life relationships."

"Although websites and social media should make it easier to find new sexual partners, time spent online has displaced time once spent on face-to-face social interaction"

“Between the 24-hour availability of entertainment and the temptation to use smartphones and social media, sexual activity may not be as attractive as it once was.

"There are now so many choices of things to do in the late evening than there once were and fewer opportunities to initiate sexual activity if both partners are engrossed in social media, electronic gaming, or binge-watching.”

[purplepoppy]

First you have to stop demonizing sex. Stop all the nonsense that sex out of marriage is wrong or that only a wedding ring can protect you from STDs. Social media is a problem, you can't as much as fart these days without it ending up on Facebook,. Let's start respecting privacy, if someone gives a BJ at a party it stays at the party.
Lets get rid of online hook up sites. Sure they're great if your a good looking guy but 9/10 of you aren't and will be dismissed in seconds before you've had. a chance to shine.
Finally we need to provide non judgmental spaces in our homes for people to have sex. Don't discourage that boyfriend from staying the night or your son from bringing that girl home from the nightclub.

[KingofCups]

@purplepoppy Excellent Answer, very well thought out. How do you believe we can make our culture more Sex Postive?

[purplepoppy]

Girls need to be more available to a wider range of guys. I'm not saying drop your panties for every guy just be more sexually friendly. Guys need to stop being creepy, banging on about your fetish doesn't get girls queuing up. Neither does whinging about cock size. I think part of the problem is porn had over emphasized fetishes so we need to get back to promoting normal sex.

[KingofCups]

@purplepoppy you're really a sharp little lady, "women need to be more available to a wider range of guys... more sexually friendly" I'd definitely agree, although a lot of social stigmas prevent this, especially when women are together in a group. How can we enable this in a way that feels safe to women? And I'd say guys mostly go on about fetishes because they're so sexually repressed that it tends to just boil over, or blast out like steam from a tea kettle.

[Anonymous]

Definitely the first one. I'm a dateless virgin at 22 and it's because I grew up shy, insecure and socially anxious. At this stage now that I'm done with college I have no clue where to meet people. I literally do not meet anyone new in my life at all and I feel like I'm helplessly stuck being single forever. I have no clue where to search for people and dating apps didn't work for me. They were awkward at best.

[charon142]

this is a weird thing to hear ? what kind of places do you usually go to? like you never went to a cafe? or a gym? or even a park?

[KingofCups]

I'm with you, you are not alone, many people are in a similar situation. How do would you imagine/design this place for singles to gather? For me, including physical practices and contact excercises such as dance are super important, I believe people connect more deeply over shared movement/experiences rather than shared conversations.

[TheBigGuy9]

Social Media is their sex life. A constant high. Who needs sex. I bet many prefer masturbating instead because somehow they have convinced themselves that cumming is cumming. What guy or woman is going to know how to get me off better than myself.
I could say more, but I’m getting a headache entertaining that perspective.

[EQisKEY]

Get the phuck off social media, and females should initiate conversation more often to let us know, and shrink the margin, removing as much guesswork as possible. Efficiency is the name of the game, and both parties have to compromise where the other could make up the difference.

[KingofCups]

How can we get the females to intiate more? What's preventing it from happening in your opinion?

[EQisKEY]

By them agreeing it's in their favor.

[DonkeyDan]

Take their damn phones and tech away from them so they go outside and socialize like people did for millennia before technology ruined people's personal skills.

[Celtero]

As a virgin, I can't say I care. Porn is great, young people are fat, ugly, and annoying.

[KingofCups]

It never really bothers you that deep down you know it's a simulation? That you are alone just waiting to come? That's really just one small part of your sexuality, when a women touches your body, moans in your ear, squeezes you tightly... these real experiences you literally just flush them down the toilet.

[Celtero]

Yeah, but how much bullshit do I have to go through to get with a woman I'm actually attracted to? I'm not all that into promiscuous women either... So some drunken hookup does not appeal to me despite how easy it may be. Girls my age are way too shy and always glued to their phones... not to mention hitting on a woman in any mild way counts as sexual assault these days. You sorely undercut the value of masturbation. There are plenty of instances where people become accustomed to the level of stimulation masturbation provides and they are unable to stay hard for sex. There's constant ads for boner pills and clinics for men... but if you ask me, it's just the women they're with. And sure, in optimal circumstances, I'd be with the 10/10 love of my life and we'd bang several times a day... but if things were optimal in general, I'd be a trillionaire and wipe my butt with silk after taking a dump in my castle built on a private island in the bahamas. In other words, I'm already living the best sexual scenario my life has to offer. Maybe I can work towards improving that... but I don't see a reason to worry about that too much.

[Gwenhwyfar]

A sounds good

[Neosporin]

Give me sex thank you.

[TheFlak38]

Step 1: take down dating apps
Step 2: Take down Instagram
Suddenly even below average will start getting sex.

[Anonymous]

I highly doubt this will happen more but it would be nice if women made the first move or asked guys out more often

[Anonymous]

You must be talking about the people on GAG.

[Anonymous]

I'd say treating porn like a drug, stay away from it it can ruin your sex life

[KingofCups]

I agree homie but tbh its not like people are socializing/dating less just bc of porn, that's just one small fraction of the enormous amount of digit content they consume on a daily basis.