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  • I have, and regretted it. Badly. In fact, I once went to the bathroom during a ONS where I wasn't attracted to her, and couldn't even recognise myself in the mirror. I've never been more afraid - it was a properly dissociative experience, I thought I was going to lose my mind. Going against my body had not done me any good.

    Same in a longer term relationship, prior to this. I got with her because it felt low-risk, i. e. it wouldn't hurt so much if we broke up, because I wasn't attracted to her. Also I thought I was only properly attracted to damaged people anyway, so thought maybe that was why I wasn't attracted to her, and thought attraction might come with time.

    Needless to say, it didn't - and after nine months, the whole of which I never failed to get hard, I felt like I was tearing myself apart at the seams. I couldn't, couldn't continue, it was going to drive me properly insane (like a longer build-up version of that ONS). I listened to the song 'Currents' by Tame Impala, and finally left, thank fuck I did. Forcing myself in that way did not do me any good, either time, and to this day I wonder whether I have some history in my childhood of abuse, because I really shouldn't have gotten hard in that way. I wasn't attracted to them at all, and as a friend told me before I left the 9-month, "it sounds like you're raping yourself".

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  • Because... I'm a man, and because for men, sex for the simple sake of pleasure is a perfectly good goal. We don't NEED there to be anything more than that to enjoy sex - as long as we find her reasonably physically attractive and she's willing (and she's not crazy/psycho), that's all we need.

    This is something so many women don't understand about men: we're DIFFERENT from women and one of those differences is that we don't need an emotional connection with a sex partner to enjoy having sex with them. Too many women project their own desires onto men, and thus assume that men want relationships when they don't, or think they SHOULD want relationships when they don't, and they get all confused. But men are perfectly capable of enjoying sex without an emotional connection. Sex for sex's sake.

    • Why does it matter if she's psycho? Like you said, it's just sex.

    • @Jamie05rhs Yes, but psychos like to key people's cars, show up at people's jobs, file fake police reports, and all kinds of other things. Unless you are away from home and leaving that city the next day, and you give her a fake name, it's usually not worth the drama.

    • @MrOracle Well, then make sure you're having consensual sex. Make sure she actually wants what you want and she's not being tricked into anything.

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  • I’d love to know this also.. Even as a highly sexual female, I can’t just hookup if I’m not actually feeling a guy. I know a lot of girls who will use the fact that they can have sex with whomever to their advantage, but I’m just not setup like that. More power to the ones who are!

  • Is this something you plan to do or do you think that of your partner? I don't know actually, not something I could do.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Why do you want to?

  • i have given blowjobs to men i'm not into... which isn't bad as it seems

  • I have to love them and be in love with them

  • Pretend!

  • I don’t think I have. Even on a drunk night hookup in college, there was an attraction either physically or from conversation/personality

  • I can't and don't. Gotta have some kind of feelings there.

  • I can't.

  • You can sleep with anyone! Period.

    Its just a matter of do or not do.

    Simple example:

    I dont like Sprite or 7up. I dont drink either of those. Can I drink them? Sure I can.

  • Go for the fun (sex), but I would do my best to stop that connection before it gets out of hand.

  • I can't, I have to have some kind of connection with them even if it's just a ONS there has to he something there.

  • as friends

    • @l-rke_k isn't friend sex just the best no hassle no issues just pure fun and enjoyment :D love it

  • because your young and you chase what you think you deserve.. instead of what you want.. which is what you really ought to do.. you chase what you want and you are always better off for it.. because if they want you back.. the relationship goes from an earned ownership , to a complimentary love making romance.. with some ups and downs and you do things even if it sucks for someone you want.. because you want them to love it..

  • Usually she'll bring over a bottle of wine and pin me down or choke me.

    • good luck with that buddy.. its tough being a sub man.. i prefer to be dom.

  • You just shut out the lights, crawl into bed and go to sleep!!

  • I could probably suck it up and do it.

  • You mean FUCK? Or sleep?
    Why are you wasting time with someone you're not into? We're just not getting that.

  • It's easier to do the more control you have over your emotions. I do it like every weekend at my local sex club.

  • I have had angry sex and done this. They were ok with it.

  • Cause I’m a slut

  • Lots of guys don’t need that emotion connection to sleep with someone. If they look good it can happen

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