How come anal sex doesn't hurt that much for me?

[Anonymous]

I always hear how women don't want anal sex because it hurts so much. For me, it never really hurt. Not even the first time. It doesn't feel as easy and comfortable as vaginal sex and it needs to stretch a little, but I never really feel pain. The day after however, when it got a little rough, I feel it when walking. But overall I really enjoy it, not as much as vaginal, but I'm willing to make the sacrifice as it takes men into heaven, apparently. Am I really the only woman who feels like this? ps: I haven't had a steady relationship in quite a while, so I've dated quite some men over the past years. I never ask for it my self but almost all of them hinted they wanted to try (trying to get a finger in for example) and they LOVED it. So why are so many women so careful with trying it. Does it really hurt that much for most of you?

[udolipixie]

Am I really the only woman who feels like this?
Could be that you're possibly 'loose' as just like vaginal size people differ in rectum opening, the guys who f*cked you are average or below average in penis size, and/or there was plenty of prep/lube.

But overall I really enjoy it, not as much as vaginal, but I'm willing to make the sacrifice as it takes men into heaven, apparently. Am I really the only woman who feels like this?
I doubt you're the only gal that is willing to sacrifice for her guy's pleasure as I find gals are far far far more accommodating and willing to please in regards to sex than most males. There's something to be suggested about how statistics show that in every age group guys generally get more oral than they give.

Does it really hurt that much for most of you?
I wouldn't personally know as I'm not interested in getting f*cked up the ass my attitude towards such is likely comparable to seemingly most heterosexual guys attitude toward getting f*cked up the ass- not willingly happening. In my opinion in regards for orgasm sex is sh*t enough for gals with the orgasm gap despite having a g-spot and pleasurable zones in their vagina I see no reason for me to further it by having a guy shove his d*ck in my ass.

I do know from hundreds of gals that it either hurt or was uncomfortable and none of them found anal pleasurable as the only pleasure gotten was from oral, fingering, or rubbing their cl*t (oddly enough to me something that they had to do themselves).

[samhradh_leannan]

Everyone is different. Maybe you have a higher pain tolerance, or who knows. But even though it doesn't hurt for you, you should still be careful, because it's still a very delicate area that can be easily damaged.

For me, it feels like being stabbed in the rear with a knife. I am not exaggerating. I tried it twice, and it just resulted in tears.

There are a million tips- be relaxed, practice with something smaller first, lots of lube, etc. Some people say that anyone can enjoy anal sex if they are relaxed enough and do the rights things. But I KNOW that's not true for me. I did everything I could, and prepared really well, but even a finger is seriously painful for me. I've always been ultra sensitive to pain in that area. It definitely does depend on the individual.

You're definitely not the only girl who enjoys it, but it's also normal not to.

[IHateMeganFox]

I love anal. Most girls cry and refuse to take it in the ass. But I ask for it in my ass. Anal feels amazingly good and it's a great alternative to vaginal when on your period or when you just want to change it up a bit. Out of the men I have had anal with they always preferred vaginal. Even my current BF prefers it vaginally. But I still want anal and have anal. I love trying new things in bed. There have been times I have asked for anal and the guy didn't want to! I think girls need to toughen up and TRY new things. It really does not hurt with the proper amount of lube, and if it happens to hurt a bit it's a GOOD hurt. I can take pain like a champ. But I would expect to after the procedures and some of the horrible (physical) pain I have endured.

[samhradh_leannan]

For some people it can be very painful even with plenty of lube etc. I don't know if it's pain tolerance, or anatomy differences, or what, but it does depend on the individual.

[IHateMeganFox]

Anatomy of course plays a role I'm sure. But I very much believe it's because most chicks are scared and... and also because a lot simply won't even try it because they already believe it will hurt too much. So they just write it off as painful without actually experiencing the pain. I have endured very painful procedures and anal doesn't even come close to how painful it was. I believe most people talking about anal have played it up in their mind too much or haven't done it.

[IHateMeganFox]

It really doesn't hurt that bad... on a scale from 1-10 for a minute while your asshole stretches I'd give it a 2/10. Reallly... I also believe these girls don't want to feel any bit of pain (like with vaginal, only pleasure... no pain except in certain circumstances) while having sex. Which is perfectly fine. I like rough sex and having a bit of pain heightens my arousal. This also differs from person to person as a lot of people aren't into that.

[neoagent1]

You sound like many guys' sexual dream

[IHateMeganFox]

I'm just speaking the truth here, if someone can't take a dick in the ass I wonder how they will ever go through child birth. Or even having a tooth pulled for that matter lol!

[samhradh_leannan]

I mean, let me point out that the vagina EXISTS solely for the ultimate purpose of childbirth, whereas the anus is not intended for sex. Is childbirth painful? Of course, but I'll get through it for the purpose of HAVING A CHILD. I can endure pain if there's a good reason to, or if it can't be helped. But there's no reason at all to put myself through having anal sex if it's painful for me. And anal sex is more than a little painful to me- people are different, so don't speak for others on this.

[IHateMeganFox]

Nah, I still believe a lot of chicks are wimps when it comes to pain. But you can be butthurt as much as you like (pun intended). ;)

[Prof_Don]

You're absolutely right... the key is plenty of lube and the guy being gentle (as in easing his penis in instead of ramming it in there!)

[IHateMeganFox]

No one should be forced to do anal if they do not wish to. That is a personal choice, and I could care less what your choice is. But the fact that so many equate anal with some horrid intolerable pain is rather humorous. Don't have anal if you don't want to, that's your right. But seriously everyone should grow some balls.. or in woman's case grow some titties and take pain like a wo (MAN)!

[IHateMeganFox]

@Prof_Don... yes. And any man who has pleased a woman anally knows that lube is essential.

[samhradh_leannan]

Okay well, you can call me a wimp as much as you like, but you have only experienced being yourself. Nobody else. You are being extremely presumptuous when you choose not to take others seriously about their experiences just because they differ from yours.

[IHateMeganFox]

Oh I completely 100% believe you think it hurts. The fact that it hurts proves you/he isn't doing it right or you just can't take small amounts of pain (constipation must be especially gruesome). All I'm saying, no need to get all heated. I have pushed out dookies bigger than my foot and sat on the shitter for over an hour having birth from my ass. If I can do that I can most definitely handle a dick in the ass. I have shit a good 12-14 or more inch shits for about 2 hours. TWICE as big as a dick. Fucking hell If I can shit that out I can take a cock!

[MrOracle]

One reason is because a lot of guys don't know what they're doing, and they look at p*rn, and think "yeah, I can just jam it right in there." What they don't see is all the prep the girl did before the scene, and/or the editing.

I've done anal with many women, and few have had any real pain, but I've always made sure to go slow, to prep them first (especially in the beginning, when it was new to them), and built a lot of trust with them so they could relax.

Many guys are selfish, or just ignorant of what they should do, and that makes for a bad experience for the girl, and I can't blame them for not wanting to try it again.

Obviously, if the guy is huge, then pain is more likely than with an average-sized guy. But, more than anything, the guy has to know what to do, to take the time to do it, and not be selfish about it.

[Tatiahna]

I couldn't have put it any better. A lot of guys think that anal (and first time vaginal) is fine without lube and that they can just shove it up in there.. no, you can't. I think that when anal is done right it can be a very pleasurable experience for both partners in the same way that when vaginal sex is done wrong women complain about it hurting even more than anal.

[AustinMan]

The other side of that coin are those kinksters among us. For some of us, anal sex is about dominance and submission. My women are almost all submissives even if they don't know it when we meet. With some direct, sexy conversation, they find the submissive role very attractive and find they really enjoy erotic pain. It's only "natural" that anal sex get in that mix. Some of us like it to hurt some but that only makes it more erotic. I'm really glad you enjoy it and hopefully you'll find Mr. Right who has at or near the same balance as you.

[HYPATIAofALEXANDRIA]

Never had anal sex, but I've had medical exams that could pass for it and i wouldn't even consider playing around with anything going up that way 'for fun'. no way.

It hurts most people. just ask guys how excited they are to get a prostate exam.

Even if it didn't hurt i wouldn't do it bc the idea of it hurting and that you're willing to do it anyways is what turns a lot of guys on. i find that repulsive. anyhow, my butt is a strictly one way street.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Because you are relaxed

[yaddayaddayadda02]

You're not the only woman who doesn't see anal as pure torture. Some actually love it. It all depends on how you approach the subject. Anal is definitely one of those things where you need a good mental frame of mind to enjoy.

I think the mental block towards butt play has 100% to do with your enjoyment of it.

[cavmanier]

I think that's just your anatomy. Not everyone likes the same feelings.

[samhradh_leannan]

Yes. Probably anatomy makes a difference.

[letmeaskthis]

correction... it takes gay men into heaven...
i'm glad you like it... maybe now you should return the favor and use a strap on on your boyfriend.

[skippertod1]

cos woman like to whinge, esp about child birth which is actually painless

[Tatiahna]

Okay cool, you go ahead and birth a baby out your ass and come back and tell me how "painless" that is

[samhradh_leannan]

Um... what are you basing this opinion on exactly?

[Anonymous]

I've only had bad experiences with anal. Every time I've tried it I nearly cried from the pain. I also find it to be so uncomfortable, the feeling is just so strange to me, not something I enjoyed at all.

[Anonymous]

You are not the only woman who enjoys it by far. I have been with women who asked for it on a regular basis and had what appeared to be mind blowing orgasms during anal with a little clitoral stimulation.

[Anonymous]

Women all experience it differently.

For me it doesn't really hurt necessarily, it just feels weird and uncomfortable and I simply don't prefer it. I can enjoy it occasionally but nine times out of ten I would much rather have vaginal sex.