How common is it for a guy to develop feelings for a girl he’s sleeping with?

Been sleeping with this guy for 2 months about 3-4 times a week, also staying over every time with him cooking breakfast and messaging 24/7 the rest of the time. To me it feels so much more than “just sleeping together” but I’m not sure? Is he just going through the motions to get to sleep with me or would a guy only interested in sex PURELY just be interested in anything remotely sexual?
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  • Everyone is different. And let me say that again, everyone is different.

    I was in a similar situation, almost the exact same only we never had sleep overs (but talked about it a few times) but all of those other things like you. I developed feelings because like you said, it certainly seems like more than just friends with benefits right? We would also have very intimate sex. Lots of making out, cuddling etc. How can someone be like that and NOT feel something right? Like, how is it possible NOT to? Well... she didn't. It was just sex for her. As soon as I confessed my feelings she ended it and was gone. Ghosted me and everything.

    My advice from my own personal experience, don't try to analyze him. First, look at how YOU feel. Are you developing feelings and protect yourself. If you think you are, then find out how he feels and see if you're still on the same page. Because like in my case, you never really know how the other person feels and some people are great actors and actresses.

    • And mine also went on for 8 months! All that time and she never felt anything at all? Really? Apparently.

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  • Nature's "go to" neuropharmacology released in physical sexual arousal are Dopamine (pleasure) Serotonin (a mental bonding possessiveness) and Oxytocin (heightened feelings)
    because we cannot determine HOW MUCH of EACH of these your Paramour is feeling...
    we can only surmise in generalities.

    Hopefully you do more than JUST jump each other's bones.
    If in public, does he at least hold your hand?
    (marking HIS territory)

    When overheard when he speaks candidly with HIS friends, what terms does he use to refer to you?

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  • Sounds to me like he has feelings for you and is showing it through his actions if not his words.

  • It can happen but for the most part don't use sex as a indercator for if he wants more as more times then not guys are amazing because they are getting sex if that was not there the girl they talk to are nothing special

  • Sounds like you're really like each other to me. I don't think you have anything to worry about

  • I think its fairly common, and your relationship with him has become more than something casual.

  • Some people can separate themselves from emotions and have that kind of relationship yes.

    Have you asked him about how he sees this?

  • It’s only normal to get feelings after awhile