How common is it to be sexually attracted to masculine guys but romantically attracted to guys who are more feminine?

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Honesttguy · Accepted Answer

Heart wants love that romantic guys can give but pussy wants to be dominated by masculine power. I think is is the challange women face, its hard to find both and they end up marring nice guy and fuking bad guy on side, in that way the got borh desires fullfilled until, it all crashes.
Option 3 get romantic guy who is willing to grow and change, go to gym, learn about masculine power to be dominant in bed now u have both with one guy.
However going for bad boy, masculine he will not change, he will not care. Many women fall for that trap.
Best option is guy who already have understanding of emotion but then just eillingness to become masculine as fuk. Nice guy with MMA training for example.

DonkeyDan · Accepted Answer

Well I guess it makes sense, sex wise you want someone who is manly and dominating, maybe a but risky, who will satisfy you, but you don't necessarily want that person in a long term relationship. You'd rather have someone who is compassionate, understanding, dependable, and supportive, with more feminine qualities. Sometimes you night find that all wrapped up in one person but its rare, and I think this is where relationships fall down these days. It works the same with men too. We don't necessarily want a relationship with a girly, clingy, needy, woman, but want those qualities in the bedroom.

KarinMcDonald · Accepted Answer

That is how it works for me basically. With the exception that my husband is quite masculine.

Effably · Answer

Common enough probably. As a guy many of us will like attitudes and looks in the bedroom that we wouldn't want to date. Really, having something that turns you on that isn't romantically interesting to you is normal.

Since it is listed as romantically appealing I assume there is still desire involved with the more feminine guy too.
I would always listen to my friends' opinion on someone I date but in the end I don't care at all about if they agree with someone being attractive or not. They are there to let me know that maybe decorative very realistic collection of heads in her freezer that matched her last few dates is a red flag. Not to tell me if she's hot.

What would the ideal guy be? Is there a way to have it all?

Кураж · Answer

What she describes is not "romantic attraction", it's platonic interest that clearly doesn't have anything to do with attraction.
Wanting to converse with someone doesn't mean you are attracted to them.

If you wanna fuck someone after a conversation with them, that's attraction.
The men in that description are just being friendzoned.

MCheetah · Answer

Not at all common. That person is on the alphabet.

boggboss · Answer

She is not attracted to feminin guy just enjoys their company

jshm2 · Answer

That's called "psychosis" deary, and they lock you up for that.

skytatoe · Answer

Sounds like you need a well rounded guy. A guy who's both strong and masculine but can also show some emotion / have some self awareness.

Nagatoro · Answer

What

Juxtapose · Answer

On the internet that is called: "alpha fucks and beta bucks".

Shamalien · Answer

Its common, so at some point you gotta choose between your loins or your heart, and the longer you take to choose, the more romantic dudes get snatched up