How did you and your special other find a 3rd for MFM or fmf?

[arfreaks48]

Wanting to know how you guys make posts online or what do you do to find a 3rd. What makes you want to have threesome.

[Effably]

I have honestly only ever been approached or asked about it. Regardless of the constellation.

The few times an SO has brought it up I tend to shoot it down unless it is really a priority for them. I think between people you know, dating services and just the ability to walk up to people and ask it isn't hard to find someone. If approaching I think the same-sex person doing it with the other one nearby enough to get a look at is the go-to.

I feel a friend or an online thing is better as it can get awkward lining out the do's and don'ts at a packed nightclub.

Unless you are both really wanting it I would advice against it though. To most people, myself included, this stuff often gets messy in the wrong way.

[RobT312]

I Never went looking for it, didn’t even think I had an interest in it.
a friend of mine asked us. He doesn’t post or do it regularly, he said he just feels comfortable with my girlfriend and I, and asked if he could join us.
we said yes as we thought it could be fun, we are all friends

[LingyRolls]

You can find them anywhere. I'm the club, tinder, etc. We take them out to dinner and get to know them a bit. We don't just do hookups. If we do that, it's going to be longer term ongoing. It makes the sex better. Don't get me wrong, we have had a spontaneous sex partner before, but long term is ideal for us

[Aqueeld]

Its mostely done with close friends... Or previous hook up partners or OLD friends with benefits... U just have conversations with them and plan

[Dargil]

I have no interest in group sex and I would end my relationship if My SO asked.

[Socal99]

Went to a sex club and got to know someone and had them tested.

[Kabluie]

FFM she had a friend who wasn't seeing anyone, but was attracted to both of us.

[Iron_Man]

I’ve never done that

[Steve-ram]

It's very good question, i always think about it, first how to make my partner accept it, then how to find the 3rd! It's complicated

[2021biguy]

Are you looking for a third?

[arfreaks48]

Yes absolutely we are seeking 3rd but have had issues online so gonna hit up the club

[2021biguy]

Good luck :)

[arfreaks48]

Yeah it's a challenge online due to "Boys" wanting to collect pics and jack lmao

[QuietRunner]

it was a friend of ours

either i ask her or she asks for the 3 some

[Anonymous]

FMF. A bi friend joined. We did it for kicks.

[Anonymous]

All of our 3rds were my or her friends except one stranger from a night club.
You can find singles on swinger boards, but we decided against hooking up with a stranger on the grounds that friends are going to be more willing to communicate and cooperate which will make for better sex.

We confirmed that assumption the one time we tried the stranger from a night club.
It wasn't nearly as good as it was with friends.