How different does casual sex feel for guys vs sex with a girlfriend or someone they have more of an emotional connection with?

[nocturnalbaby]

why are so many guys so interested in casual sex? are there even enough girls that are willing to engage in casual sex? because I'm sure way more guys than girls want casual sex, so are all these men that are looking for casual sex actually successful in finding a girl to have regular casual sex with? what do they do when they can't find a girl that's willing to have casual sex with them? is it even pleasurable for a guy to have sex with a girl that they don't respect or have feelings for? isn't it better to have sex with a girl that they actually like & would like to spend time with outside of the sex?

[DonkeyDan]

Just because you're having casual sex, doesn't mean you don't respect the girl of have some feelings towards them, it's just that you're not looking for a commitment. Yes there are plenty of girls who want casual sex too, everyone has needs. I have to have at least a connection with a girl to have sex with her, connections can ve easily made though. As long as both are in the loop as to what eachothers intentions are it can be a great experience. No it's not the same as having sex with someone you are in love with, but that doesn't make it not fun and exciting.

[HighlyVolatile]

Emotional connection is vital for me to enjoy sex but I didn't need to know a girl for very long at all to have a very strong emotional connection in the bedroom.

I would relate it to a great conversation where you feel emotionally connected. You don't necessarily need to know someone for a very long time to feel that. Sometimes you can have that with someone we just talked to for the very first time while having a far less connected conversation with someone we've known for years.

Sex is like a very deep and intimate conversation to me that way. It's like a compatibility thing as I see it in the way we express ourselves verbally and physically.

I was never into casual relationships putting only sex at the forefront but if I was, I don't think it would affect the emotional connection or lack thereof in the bedroom in ways I find relevant.

[RobT312]

I don’t have casual sex anymore, but when I did, it was thrilling to have sex with someone new, but not as passionate as sex with someone you hav3ca connection with. that was my experience.

[20yearsolder]

No, wanting and getting are two different things. There are definitely more guys looking for casual sex then women wanting casual sex. I'm not sure, maybe they want casual sex because they love the person that they are with but sex isn't great and they don't want to end the relationship? The excitement of having sex with someone else while you're in a committed relationship? I'm just throwing ideas out there

[Dragonstarterplus]

Well guys don't really connect emotional attachment with sex like women do. So it feels the same really

[DGravez6]

Casual sex tends to raise my anxiety. I prefer having sex with someone that I've gotten to know and especially someone who shares my fetishes.

[Caliguy88]

I like to be with girls I know and are comfortable with….

[Shamalien]

Casual sex is like masturbation with someone else’s body. I think it’s for people in a phase of their life where they aren’t looking to jump into something serious, like after a relationship ends and you just wanna nut

[Twalli]

So here's the thing about looking for casual sex, expect a lot of rejection. Even if you get several girls a week, you probably hit on >10 times that many and got shot down. This one guy interviewed his friend who engaged in casual sex and his friend said a successful night is when he can find a willing partner in the first 25 girls he hits on.

[Jerre]

All my friends with benefits include casual sex. It is not difficult when a man has the tools of the trade. You would be surprised how many girls out there just want to fuck. Even though it is casual, we all enjoy fucking and cumming. I also take them out for dinner or lunch, dancing, etc. we love it!

[bananathunder]

it's always the most fun that first time in my opinion

[Anonymous]

I prefer casual sex because it's not contrived.
Being in a relationship means having certain obligations towards your partner and observing certain boundaries.
Having an emotional connection with a person gets in the way of sex for me, it does not benefit my experience.

This isn't to say that I don't "respect" my hookups, I actually feel more comfortable sleeping with them than with someone I may be dating, because I can be more honest with them than my partner.

Assuming they are into it, of course.
There are women who want casual sex, and then there are women who will always want more.
It doesn't work for everyone.

[Anonymous]

These days there are more girls that just love casual sex. I don't have casual sex, only with some girl I really care about and feelings for, and I'm monogamous, unlike a lot of girls these days.