How do a deal with all these guys trying to date me?

[Anonymous]

I recently moved to the country side to live and work on my grandparents farm.

There getting a little too old now to be running it by themselves so me and my family decided will help them out and eventually take it over when they past.

I thought I'd be really lonely at first as it just me and my little brother but I soon got making friends with the farm hands but unfortunately there's not many other girls around especially around my age.

I think my family noticed I was getting really lonely so they suggested I go to this Christmas party they have for in the village for all the young people.

What I didn't realise was it's just a way for young lonely farmers to find wife's and get drunk. So I went and I was really nervous luckily I quickly made friends with a really sweet girl who also by herself, she quickly introduced me to her older brother and he was a proper gentleman toward me and offered to buy me a drink. The entire night I had guys trying to chat me up some were really handsome and well educated it was very intimidating.

I asked the girl i made friends with why and she said it because there isn't many girls around who aren't related to them in some way.

Now I have guys sending me flowers and asking me on dates it's kinda embarrassing because everyone on the farm sees and makes fun. I've had some guys be very aggressive towards me when I've rejected them.

Some are really cute and nice guys but Im just not interested in anything serious but I also don't want to get a reputation for myself in a small town.

I will confess but that night at the Christmas party ended in me making out with that girls brother but he was starting to get a little carried away so I had to push me off me. These farm boys are mega horny

[SnowedIn]

My first impression from what you wrote is that you're doing GREAT and I wouldn't change a thing.

That said, if your concern is about the slut reputation part, then you can still date. Just be firm and consistent about what you will and won't do. Maybe you make out with guys you date but no one gets to touch you. Whatever. Your rules. And, yes, that comes with a reputation risk of its own: "frigid", "won't put out", etc. BUT... that's not necessarily a bad thing, right? And... it has the added benefit that the guys who are willing not get physical self identify as the ones worth your time. The other ones self identify as the ones who don't.

My point is this: don't not be in a relationship. Just because it's a small town and you're working doesn't mean you don't deserve relationships and companionship. Just be consistent.

[boggboss]

U don't want a reputation in the town but u made out with one of them already 😑

Going forward all u can do is state ti them what u want and dont want

[Asker]

Firstly I know it was the best life decision of mine but we're both a little drunk. He pretty much forced himself on me and I'd not been around a attractive young man in at least 6 months but yeah I don't have much to do with him now as he'd gone off back to uni and the forcefulness wasn't a good look on his part

[Asker]

Wasn't*

[boggboss]

But if hebwas able to kiss you then that might be playing a part in why others are pursuing u so hard because they want some action also

[Asker]

Trust me he hasn't told anyone else as it was very embarrassing on his part. He didn't really know what he was doing and I kicked him in the balls once he wouldn't get off me and I told him to multiple times

[boggboss]

So u think he wpuldnt tell them beforehand his side of the story to ensure if u said anything it could look like a lie meh

[Asker]

Well I assume he hasn't told anyone because literally no one has mentioned it

[boggboss]

Why would they come to you and say you give it up easy or we heard what u did with that guy lol

[Guy13]

Saying NO is still the best way unless you want to test some out here and there...

[Asker]

I do and don't. I kinda wanna test the water as there is a lot of really cute guys giving me attention something I never got back home and I don't want to live to one day think I wish I took advantage of that situation abit more one day. But on the other hand I have work to do and by time I'm finished I'm tired and need to relax not play kiss chase with boys. They don't see me mucking out the cow shed looking like crap they only see me when I'm looking my best. Plus I don't wanna get a reputation as a slut

[Guy13]

Live and let live. Don't sleep around but kick some tires on these different make and models. Make sense?

[OlderAndWiser]

So what is your goal concerning dating and a long term relationshp?

[CubaPirate]

Sounds like you can have a lot of fun with them if you ever feel the urge

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a completely phony story.