How do I accept no orgasm?

I am 27 and I never experienced any orgasms, cum, squirting, or anything. I have been around other woman who say they cum and squirt all over the place during sex. There were only two men that realized my issue one cared and one talked down on me. Whenever I do have sex it’s only for the other person’s gain not mine. I also have a child so people assume i’ve experienced one because i experienced birth but no. I feel broken about the issue. I have been to therapy for my trauma, tried spiritually, yoga, losing weight, etc. and nothing works. How can I accept that I am that percentage that can't release during sex?
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  • If you tried masturbation yet can't get an orgasm even after you're sore, then add these suggestions:

    1) aphrodisiac. I like raw oyster, blue cheese, raw salmon, raw onion with BBQ meat, etc.

    Eating is safe and effective way to raise your libido.

    2) scent. Burn some essential oil. I like Jasmine, ylang-ylang, lemon grass and lavender.

    When you go shower, burn it to scent up the room. Then when you're clean, rest and indulge in the aroma.

    3) learn to relax with yoga or mediation.

    Don't be too hurry to masturbate. Rest and relax and get into the mood.

    Then don't rush. And don't think too much. Learn to feel the intricacies of "getting high".

    Don't over perform.

    Perhaps watch a few guide may help.

    Well wishes. Be persistent. It's worth it to orgasm.

Most Helpful Guy

  • You are absolutely correct by about deserving better. I wish I could recommend a solution, but I experienced orgasm before puberty, so your situation is a real head scratcher. Have you told your doctor about this and if so what recommendations were forthcoming? You don't have to just take life without orgasm, you have options, and sexual release should be a mutual experience between you and your partner. Good luck and don't give up on your own pleasure. ☺️

    • Thanks for MHG

Most Helpful Girl

  • It really is a mental thing. Relaxing is hard especially of you have been trying for so long. You might just have to reach a point of acceptance that it won’t happen to reach a level of relaxation when it does actually happen.

    • i think it is mental with me because of how i view myself

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  • We all are different. It sounds like you are doing everything you can do. Have you tried a sex toy like a vibrator? Maybe also see an OBGYN doc and see if you have any physical issues.

    • yes i tried that i may need to go to a doctor

  • Looks like you don't have much choice.

  • I suggest speaking to your doctor about this issue.

  • You first discuss with your partner about your issue. Do a lot of foreplay before going to act. Have some intimate communication. It will works for you. Don't worry

    • i do discuss but it still doesn't work and i keep running into people who dont care if i do or dont cum

  • You should talk to a doctor. But im curious, can you make yourself cum? Or is it just not from someone else?

    • i told a doctor but they were dismissive and no i can't make myself cum when i try i just get numb and sore

    • You should see another doctor. Maybe one that specializes in sex because if you can't even make yourself cum then i dont know. I made my ex girlfriend cum for the first time in her life so I am in the camp that all girls can, it just takes that extra push you know? If you want more help but dont wanna put it out here you can dm me if you want.

  • Do not accept it, find a way

  • i need you

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  • Do you ever have an orgasm when you masturbate?

  • Stimulating the mind is at least as important as stimulating the body.

    You didn't mention masturbation, have you never tried on your own?

    • i tried masturbating but i just get sore and numb to touch

    • Ordinarily you would get wet yourself when you were aroused, but failing this you could use a lubricating product. I think the problem is in your mind. Do you have desire? Drive? Do you explore your thoughts and fantasy when you masturbate? You need to be relaxed and allow yourself to lose yourself in fantasy, you can't be thinking about people walking in or if someone can hear you or whatever.

    • thank you ill try that