How do I ask my boyfriend to be in an open relationship?

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years and I love him very much, but something is missing from our sex life. I’m really into domination and pegging but he is not into it at all. I want to ask him if he would be okay with me finding another guy to peg and dominate but I don’t want to offend him.
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  • I like open relationships!

    To be fair, it took me awhile in my dating life to really understand how it can be beneficial to the relationship, if one or both want it. I prefer if it's mutual. I met someone who kind of eased me into it.

    You can bring up the subject in a way that says he's always your boyfriend no matter what happens, and define to him what you mean by open. Is it just for non-mono sex, or a poly relationship. That helps and to make it more agreeable like setting boundaries and how you plan to make it work such as planning out dates so he doesn't get blindsided kind of things. I know it works for me.

  • I think you need to break up with your boyfriend. At your ages, i don't think he is mature enough to handle you being out with other guys doing what you want to do. Your man will resent that and things will go South from there.
    So, break up and find a guy that would love to have a woman like you enjoying the kinks that you enjoy. Myself, i would love a woman like you.

    • Thanks for the MHO :)

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  • I would just honestly bring up you're dissatisfied with the fact you don't have a guy to peg and dominate, and then kinda lead into the discussion from there.

  • Go slow. Don't break up just do to sexual differences maybe at two weeks old of a relationship but not two years.

    • Why? If two years wasn't enough to settle the sexual differences then 15 years aren't enough either 🤷‍♂️🤔

    • They may never settle emotions are different than physical

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  • I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news but I would be prepared for him not agreeing. A new, submissive boyfriend is where this is going, IMHO.

  • Maybe start off with having a threesome with him and another girl... then after he is open minded more about sexual stuff you spring it on him.

    • @ashleytaylordanny r u in open relationship?

  • And then what? Marry him with a third dude in the party? If he isn't going to do what you like in bed ever, then why waste each others time?

  • You would be better off just ending the relationship.

  • Do him the favor of his life and...

    How do I ask my boyfriend to be in an open relationship?
  • Seriously get a bew man who wants to do that.
    I dont see it going where you want it to.

  • Are you fine with him finding another girl or multiple other girls, it goes both ways.

  • Be honest about it and promise there will be no actual sex.

  • Just sounds like you want to cheat on him because he's not enough for you but you want his permission to do so, so it won't seem like you're the bad guy for wanting more than he can offer.

    • I guess if you consider an open relationship cheating but I don’t consider it to be cheating

    • I'm saying your want for an open relationship is stemming from your want to cheat because your boyfriend isn't enough for you, but by presenting the idea of an open relationship to him and him accepting would make it seem as if you weren't having thoughts of cheating just you need more dick. Anyone who wants an open relationship is basically say their partner isn't enough but I don't want the side sex to be considered cheating.

  • Good luck with that. If something's missing then you fix it between the two of you you don't add a third person to the mix. If this is what you wanted it should have been that way from the beginning.

  • Smell like a Troll in here.

  • just be frank with him

  • ask a hypothetical question, for example... "What do you think of couples, that have different sexual fantasies, that encourage their Lover to fulfill a crazy fantasy?" or something along those lines... also you could mention that you would support it if the man had a desire that was unappealing to you.

  • By asking, he'd be very offended if you open the relationship without him knowing it.

  • We have speech for a reason, right? It would probably be best to have a conversation about sexual fantasies and what not. People don't have to like everything, but being open about preferences and needs is healthy and productive.

  • I have a few questions about this one...

    • DM me please

  • Start by asking him if he ever sees a girl he would like to have sex with but stops himself because he does not want to cheat

  • Whoa girl i always want a girl like you dominant , and a girl who wants to pegg me and pound her loads in my ass , whoa i acn frel my dick got ajrd after just writing , if you got breakup by any chance i am reasy to take up your loads in my ass , i am natural sub you can mail me at nonamefff6169@gmail. com

  • Well I don't know what your boyfriends into ok with or not ok with but you might try including him on the domination aspect of things and try finding other people who could sub for you both... because it sounds like he isn't having fun being your submissive and so he really might prefer helping you dominate someone else maybe a bi male like myself who would be willing to spend hours serving you both orally and receiving you both anagly or perhaps a bi female that would be happy to let you peg her ass and service his desires as well

  • I wouldn't even ask most of us men are always in open relationships. We just don't tell the girl.

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