Early on in our relationship, she let me cum in her mouth quite often, and would usually swallow it. But somehow she gradually stopped doing it, and now she always pulls away right before I cum, which basically ruins my orgasm. I am sexually frustrated because, to be completely honest, her oral loving - which included me finishing in her mouth from time to time - is part of the reason I fell in love with her and married her. I just can’t seem to figure out how to broach the subject with her without feeling like a selfish perv, or making her feel pressured. Any advice from women or guys would be appreciated. I desperately want to cum in her beautiful mouth again!
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Anonymous
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Obviously she pulls away because she doesn’t enjoy it. That will probably never change. However, that doesn’t mean she won’t be willing to do it for you occasionally. She did in the beginning right? Just ask her about it. She’s your wife. You don’t have to be pushy or resentful about it. Just talk like adults. Maybe she’s just gotten complacent or doesn’t realize how much you liked that. Has something changed with the relationship overall? She’s not a mind reader, so you have to communicate with her and you should be able to be open and honest with your spouse.
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Asker
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Thanks for your thoughtful response. Nothing has changed in our relationship except we are older! And you are correct, the fact that she pulls away when I am about to cum certainly means she doesn’t “enjoy” it. Even back when she used to let me cum in her mouth it wasn’t because it was her favorite thing, but she did it because it was some thing I wanted and found incredibly sexy. I guess my dilemma is that I can never seem to find the right time or the right words to bring it up with her. She still wants me sexually and tells me that she loves sucking my dick. So I just have to find a way to tell her I want her to let me finish in her mouth again. Not every time, (it wasn’t every time before) just now and then! Just more than never! Anyway, thanks again for your encouragement.
laraWMYoda
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Maybe she basically tried to pull you out once to see, and if you don't say anything about it, she might think you're ok with that You know when I was younger I never did blowjobs to my boyfriend because I though it was incredibly difficult to perform and didn't realize guys love it so much. But once out of nowhere during an argument he said that I didn't even suck him once like the worst insult. I was shocked because he didn't even tell me once before he would like I try it. So my advice is tell her how you feel about it
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SixFootSexyYoda
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Tell her, "A BJ a day keeps the side chick away."
Then start going to the gym. Every. Single. Day. Start being flirting more with her, maybe even a little with strangers. The dread will either make her want to start going to the gym with you and probably start doing kinkier things than you ever thought possible because she thinks she'll need that to keep you. Everybody wins.
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libsaretardsYoda
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Just be open with her. Tell her exactly how you feel and see what happens from there. Your wife is the one person you DO NOT keep secrets from. If you feel a certain way, say it so it does not build resentment inside.
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AlphaMale1Yoda
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Good Lord, don't ask. Create the environment where she will do it naturally and the next question is, "Will she swallow?" The answer is up to you and her. Given time, she will...
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Red-BlazeYoda
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Just ask Maybe put it as a half joke
Ask her if she be ok with it and see how she respond to it
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StevieNixXper 6
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You put a ring on her finger.
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CubaPirate
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Had the opposite effect for me lol
StevieNix
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@CubaPirate And that's the way it should be. It's just an old joke and I couldn't resist.
CubaPirate
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🤣🤗🤣
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Asker
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I know, right? lol Although, she continued to occasionally take my cum in her mouth for years after we were married.
StevieNix
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I've been to one comedy club in my life. There were about a half dozen comedians. One guy was funny as fuck. He explained why raw oysters worked as an aphrodisiac for women. Do you know why that is? lol
IJhonnyIXper 6
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Let's just say I didn't ask she kept sucking and sucking until eventually I let loose in her mouth 😏😌
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leighbeeXper 7
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Just ask her
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JoyGirlGuru
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“I am sexually frustrated because, to be completely honest, her oral loving - which included me finishing in her mouth from time to time - is part of the reason I fell in love with her and married her.”
Okay.. so I get why you are making the smh emoji. But come on now, I did say “PART” of the reason... And it’s true. It IS part of the reason. Of course, it’s not the ONLY reason. I love her and married her for many other fantastic qualities she possesses. But if any woman fools herself into thinking that part of the reason a man loves her and wants her isn’t related to sex, she is fooling herself. I was just being honest and you shamed me for it. You didn’t have to do that. 🤷🏽♂️
JoyGirl
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Ehhhh…you shouldn’t have added that. Even if that part of the reason, it doesn’t make you look good saying that, but that is just my thought. 🤷🏾♀️ Anyways, you should communicate with her about it. After all, communication is very important in every relationship.
Asker
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You are right, it may not make me ‘look good’ to say something like that out loud, but my guess is that most guys would privately agree that part of what they love about their SO is related to sexuality. But anyhoo... We are pretty great at communicating, I am just struggling with what the right time and what the right words would be. That’s all. Thanks for your reply Joy. ☺️
FuktigXper 1
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Ask her if you can do it? Tell her that you really like it a lot. It's not hard to communicate but you also have to realise that she might not like it anymore. I think it's best to talk about it while you don't have sex.
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TheSpaceGnomeGuru
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Drink more water.
The most common complaint I've heard is that if you aren't hydrated enough, your semen is too thick, and women mention it being an issue when swallowing, because it becomes a choking hazard because it gets stuck in their throat.
Also lots of women say what you eat effects it's taste, as do any drugs.
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serious_miss419Xper 7
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Why be so entitled. Move along.
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Asker
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Why be so entitled and post an insult to my question? No, you move along.
Zenit93Xper 5
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You just do it lol.
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jahaimsMaster
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With words
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ShamalienGuru
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Negotiate. Everyone has a price
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maximumpowerExplorer
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as with the 30-40 pounds, severely diminished sex drive and sudden dislike of everything you do/are - that's the difference between a girlfriend and a wife. that's why i got rid of mine. happiest i've been in 25 years.
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OddBeMeMaster
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Perhaps make her feel special in other ways. Dishes, going down on her, etc.
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tbradleyXper 3
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some women change after getting married just ask her i mean not to sound rude but if you was man enough to marry her then you should be able to ask her anything good lucky and hope it all works out for you
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Anonymous
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It's part of what she used to trap you and hey it worked so she stopped because she had won
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Anonymous
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Ask her why she stopped, try to understand her reasons before you tell about your desires.
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