How do I convince my lesbian daughter to have a preference for men?

My daughter (19F) had recently came out to me (36F) about her sexuality, and I couldn't be any more disappointed in her than I currently am. She tries her very hardest to dress as a man would. I didn't raise her be this way. I raised her to be a dainty, feminine LADY. She refuses to listen to me when I tell her that she needs to get right with the Lord, and pretends that she doesn't believe in Him any longer. Her lifestyle is leading her down the pathway to Hell. What should I do?
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  • Just leaver her alone, and be happy for her/with her.

  • You don't.. The way it works is, you live your life and you let her live hers. Even if it makes you unhappy.

  • Let me start with saying that I respect you choice in belief, yet to answer your question Only the first sentence is important. The simple answer is NO!!!

    DO NOT IN ANY CIRCOMSTANCE EVER IN YOU LIFE FORCE A COICE ON SOMEONE CONCERNING THEIR SEXUAL PREFERENCE.

    While I do not have children myself, I have seen the effect of parents forcing or attempting to force their opinion on this subject onto their child. suffice to say they ended up falling out and it took several years for the daughter to reconnect with her mother. The sad part was her future had already taken the hit from the situation, and was more or less done for.

    Suffice to say If you choose to force your daughter to as you say "be right by the lord" the risk of losing her trust is near absolute.

    • Had a few typo's here and there but should be readable.😋

  • You could introduce her to women that are just as disappointing as the men in her life. Then if she is still gay then you'll know it's not circumstances, its just how she is.

  • I am not like so many others where who see things black/white. If she changes it won't be because you convinced her. You can pray for her. You can support her. But never desert her. You are her mother. Just try to do the best you can. Be honest with her about your disappointment and your emotions. Tell her about how you wanted your little girl. How you had hopes for grandchildren, and a family for her. Tell her the truth. . if that is your truth.

    But if you try to change her, you will drive her away. And that will be far worse than simply discovering she is gay. I had someone close to me come out of the closet. He was like a nephew to me. We hung out, went to the movies, the circus, museums, all through his childhood. But he ended up being gay. And I was just torn. But I love him. I can't do anything but accept it. Maybe one day, he may change. Maybe not.

    • Haha you were torn? Why? What does it change in your life? It's his life, took him a lot of courage to come out. You are just you. He is still the same person, just with different attractions. Man some of you humans do not like to educate your selves..

  • You're either a troll, or a terrible mother.

    • I vote troll.

    • @Dinklex3 I hope so Lmao.

    • I think troll too

  • How can one pretend to not believe tho? Either you do or you don't.

  • Why would you want the daughter you love to change to be something she isn't and be unhappy for the rest of her life just so you'd be happy with her. Sexual preference and orientation isn't a choice, and it must have taken a lot to come out to you and be honest with you and you want to throw that back in her face. Just so you know, there is nothing you can or should do about it, other than be supportive like a good mother should be.
    Based on the fact that you are a bigot it probably would have been best for her to have not come out to you and lied to you for the remainder of your days.

    • 100% agree

  • I’m afraid you can’t raise any child to be any sexuality. She’s wired that way. It’s like how you and I can never ever be attracted to a woman sexually. Same way she can never be attracted to a man. Us straight women feel physically sick thinking about having sex with a woman and she feels the same when she thinks about sex with men. That’s her wiring. She can’t be converted just the same as you and I cannot be converted. We love men, she loves women.

  • You cannot, and how you raised her has nothing to do with her sexual orientation or her disbelief. What should you do? Love her as she is -- a gay atheist.. There is no power on Earth that can change either of those things. Neither her sexual orientation nor her lack of faith is a choice. She can no more decide to be straight than you can decide to be gay, and she can no more decide to believe in God than you could decide to believe in leprechauns.

    • Psssst... Bigfoot is real!

  • I didn't read the part in the bible were Jesus shamed those for been gay and promised them hell. Oh that's cause it don't exist and Jesus wouldn't care at all if one person was gay or not and that wouldn't be a reason to go to hell.

  • You can't force your daughter to be attracted to men. She's 19 and can make her own decisions. You also can't force your religion on her

  • First thing you need to do is get a connect for some top grade Olympic ambrosia because, because you need the powers of the gods in order to change your daughter instantly from what she is and to what she isn't and if you weren't born again then you have to acquire the powers of the gods somehow so if we can get the ambrosia to you then you can start rewriting reality and change the valence of the universal constant and start acting like some annoying cue character screwing around with heads of stuff fleet captains and poking fun at their embarrassment when he makes sure that the first thing they see when they wake up in the morning is his adoring face tell them how good they were because a good mind f*** is just his thing, as it is the gods and for you if you really want to do this because convincing your daughter to have a preference for something that she is incapable of having a preference for will require you to either change your body or mind reality in the or the balance of the universal constant and all I ask is that when you start messing around with the universal constant and with your daughter's identity matrix personality and all that stuff that you also edit reality to edit out the part where you ever came up with the idea to do this and to suggest your daughter that she's not perfect as she is and that you wouldn't change a thing bye actually trying to change something that shouldn't be changed and that there's nothing wrong with and all that stuff so once you acquire those God Powers if you could just please edit out the whole part where this thought ever came into your head so that you don't do this really really offensive thing that's going to put a wedge right between you and your offspring and make everyone speak to you again then that would be cool so good luck.

  • You can't tell her or change her, anymore than I can tell or change my gay brother

  • You only gave her life to ENSLAVE HER?
    That's the problem with people who 'think' they should have children.
    She never asked to be born, it was YOU who had sex and gave birth to her to this cruel world without her consent.
    A child have a life of her own. One day she'll never bother to look back if you dare to control her in any way.

  • You don't. Leave her be.

  • Yep if you have them in public school this is going to happen. Sounds like you've even lost her respect. Times are changing and the old ways are dead for better or worse.

    • Anyways I can only imagine how she feels as a guy who prefers women of other races which y father didn't like We like what we like band it's our lives. Deal with it and step aside.

  • Grow the fuck up

  • The more you disapprove the deeper she’s gonna dig in plus if that’s her choice it’s her life my daughter tried pulling this on me years ago but she was just trying to get a rise out of me I just told her whatever and asked her if this was the big news she had and moved on their sexual preferences is their business it’s our business just to try and raise healthy responsible and moral adults and love whoever they are their successes and failures are theirs not ours

  • That's all the work of the Devil.

    I loved God from childhood but a time came I started masturbating, watching porn and when I do, I enjoyed anal stuff. Soon it was fornication and paying a girl for sex and loving shemale porn.

    God never left me. God saved me. Today I'm clean from all of those filthy lust.

    My counsel is love her and pray for her. The choice is hers but those two things: prayer and love, has turned rebels to God even in impossible situations.

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