Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health How do I cope when my boyfriend tries to manipulate me for nudes?
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I'm 17, turning 18 in a week. I had a large argument with my boyfriend, who is 19, about the fact that I don't send him nudes. His last girlfriends did it, frankly I don't give a shit, but he tries to use statistics about how many people do itand this kind of threatening behavior to make me send nudes. He claims it's because we don't hang out in person (we do once a week, I have a difficult living situation). He says that it's an aspect of our relationship that he craves, to see my "beautiful body". Personally I don't want to send nudes, I have before and it was the lowest shit I've done. I told him that for one, it's f*cking illegal because I'm 17, for two I have self respect. He doesn't care apparently. I'm scared to break up with him because when he gets mad, he gets mad-mad. He's killed my confidence over an effing Warzone game, loses his shit when I don't text back fast enough. And he lives down the street from me. I don't know what he would do. He already says if I broke up with him, he would come to my house and berate me. I don't want to do it. Maybe I'm just not a good girlfriend. But I need help.
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What Girls & Guys Said
3 40Tell him to get over it or fuck off, make clear that it's an ultimatum and stick to your own morals.
Holly toxic much? This guy will hurt you more aays than you can understand.
Never ever ever send nudes. No matter who it is. And find a new boyfriend.
Frankly, if that's the cause of an argument between you two, it's time to move on.
Leave him.
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Make him your ex boyfriend
Well if he wants nudes then he should come and see you naked. I have no idea why spme people are still that I'm need of nudes like diamonds. I guess he wants to masturbate.
Breakup with him just right now. He'll irritate you at best... nothing else... then he'll stop within 15 days... just ignore him.
If you’re not comfortable with sending nudes then you shouldn’t and he should respect it. Besides that he sounds like an asshole and you just need to pull the trigger and break up with him
He has already told and shown you why he should be an ex
Sounds like someone to distance yourself real quick-like... he's trouble
Leave him if its forced bc it won't end well for you
No one should be intimated. He’s a monster for doing what his doing. If he loved you he would respect your choices. If it’s affecting you in negative ways it’s an unhealthy relationship.
Tell him to fuck off
Wow... you are still with him after writing all this? Get some more confidence and see your own beauty... leave that fucked up situation before someone gets hurt.
Tell him you won’t send child porn and him soliciting you for it is not only gross but illegal
The nudes aside (which he should fully respect how you feel no matter what if he really cared about you), he's abusive! Verbally at least and threatens you! Do you really want to be with him and someone like that (will likely get worse over time)? I would talk to friends, family, make them all aware of how he is, his threats, and your plans to break up with him and do it ASAP. You'll tell your friends/family for not only their support, but to watch out for you and if he comes around and follows through on any of these threats. Even go to the police if you think it's that severe. This guy doesn't sound good at all.
It might be all talk, often is, but just have your basis covered.
This guy raises a lot of red flags. If he prefers what his last girlfriend did tell him to go back to her.
He’s being unreasonable. I would break up with him if that’s what you want