How do I discuss having a threesome with the woman I'm dating?

[Date_a_Snob]

[CA4444]

Very tricky… I’d say talk about fantasies in general and say that you have this one. Don’t get overly excited… ask her if she would be tempted by it too. Chose your moment, when you are both horny. And if she is she is the one who could find the girl or you could chose together (I suppose it’s a threesome with another girl). Just so you know she may not take it well

[Date_a_Snob]

It's hard not to get excited by the thought of a threesome. Discussing it when we are both horny is not a bad idea. I'm not bisexual so it would be MFF. I would love her to choose the other women. I do understand she might not take it well.

[CA4444]

Yeah it’s kind of a turn off tbh when asked

[Date_a_Snob]

So I should say nothing?

[CA4444]

If she wants a serious relationship with you it will hurt her, I would think your not serious about me and may want to leave

[Date_a_Snob]

I do love her and want a serious relationship with her... It's just that things in the bedroom have become boring.

[Date_a_Snob]

Boring isn't the right word... Routine would be a better word

[CA4444]

Well you can say that to her 😄

[Date_a_Snob]

You don't think she will be offended by me saying I think our sex life is boring?

[Date_a_Snob]

If a threesome is a bad idea. What about bondage?

[CA4444]

Bondage is much better in my opinion hahaha, much closer to womens fantasies (threesome can be a fantasy too but not many women will be into it unless she is bi sexual)

[Date_a_Snob]

Woman fantasize about bondage?

[CA4444]

Yeah sure. Women are wired for exclusive relationships, in one sentence they want a strong exclusive sexual and loving relationship with a dominant male. Being submissive in this kind of relationship is the ultimate sexual fantasy for women, in my opinion ofc 😄. You heard about 50 shades of grey

[Date_a_Snob]

I've heard about it but never seen it. I understand - strong exclusive sexual and loving relationship with a dominant male. I want to be that guy for her. We did discuss trying bondage; she didn't want to do it last night but suggested we try tonight after work

[CA4444]

Yeah you can try different stuff at different times, usually women don’t know what they want sexually until they experience it and like it. Like being tied up may not sound nice initially, more like scary actually but a little thrill is good

[Date_a_Snob]

What do you suggest I try during bondage?

[Date_a_Snob]

What do you think she would like? I feel like asking her might make me seem less dominant.

[CA4444]

yeah I find it hot personally if the guy doesn’t ask… you can inform her instead maybe and tell her to tell you if there anything she doesn’t like. I think taht’d be good but I’m no expert lol 😅 I guess people use safe words in that space. And then you can be selfish too it’s hot too 😅 so you can try what you like…

[Date_a_Snob]

I'm okay with being a little bit selfish

[Anonymous]

When you are fucking her say do you have a guy friend you can have join us sometime?

[Date_a_Snob]

I'm not bisexual. I would want it to be MFF.

[Opinion Owner]

What if she's not bisexual and wants MMF?

[Date_a_Snob]

I hadn't considered that. Aren't most women bisexual or at least open to the idea?