How do I get my boyfriend to go raw again?

[Anonymous]

I really would rather go raw. I hate condoms so freaking much but he is super scared to go raw in me again because he's afraid he will cum inside of me.

I don't think he would and think he has good pull out game but he doesn't think so. He says if he were to do it again he might not be able to pull out but the condoms are getting in the way of me truly feeling satisfied.

How do I tell him this without hurting his feelings? That I think it feels so much better without condoms and that it satisfies me when we go without condoms.

[ohsheeT]

Well one of you get on the pill and you could do it everyday at least he's being smart and he knows that he's not ready to have a kid somebody has to be because it's something like 80% 80 to one without protection using the pull out you're going to get pregnant it's just a matter of time so do it right either he gets on some kind of protection or you get on protection and go for it three times a day

[Asker]

Yeah he's not going to do the pull out method again. He's dead set on using condoms. So I guess I will have to find the best ones out there like I think Skyn will do the trick. We've been using Trojan so far.

[ohsheeT]

Yeah there's a couple good brands but I know what you mean that for me that was always the best way it was raw but the girls that I dated they were on the pill and I mean when you're making love having sex fucking for me I want to do it all about the girl and I want to be relaxed I don't want to be thinking about making a baby from the moment I start to the moment it ends I want to be into it and make it all about her to drive her wild and when you are worried about getting to go pregnant you can't really do that

[Asker]

Yeah that's true. I guess condoms would be the best thing since I am not on the pill and don't plan on being on the pill since he said he still wouldn't go raw even I was on the pill. He's that scared of getting me pregnant but I don't blame him. I don't want a kid right now either.

[ohsheeT]

See and that's exactly how you should be handled it I mean right now in this day and time with the uncertainty of where this planet is headed where we are headed is the people there's no way in this world you can bring a child into it and do what you need to do and keep that child safe at all times I think you are very very smart girl and I say good job because there are just so many girls out there that want that guy so bad that they would have sex unprotected and then they would be pregnant you sound like you have it together and that's cool I like that

[msc545]

Maybe an IUD?

[Asker]

Nope no form of bc when he's not going to do it anyways. I'd rather just use condoms at this point.

[ohsheeT]

Well the first thing your using is your head and that is the best thing you can use just keep being smart. And same with your boyfriend. Because 80 out of 100. Are not that smart they lie to the girl they them what they want to hear. And not matter what pull out way to late. And some don't even pull out until they are finished Cummings. The girl gets pregnant and then the guy will he's not even having sex with her or will lie to her and say he's been fixed and then they break up she's on her own to raise a child you guys should both be proud of yourselves I don't even know you and I am you guys would be getting into us for other young adults your age that's a good work and get what you're going for in life that's the smart thing you can do always use your head

[Mansearching]

If he's that dead set, then you can't. If you love him then you are just going to let him wear a condom. Sometimes you have to sacrifice for the person/people you love.

I go without but girlfriend is fixed. She might get fixed even more. Tubes are tied now but she may have a partial hysterectomy. Just have uterus removed and keep ovaries so doesn't have to take estrogen pills.

[Asker]

I suppose you're right. I will just have to do it with condoms because I love him.

[Mansearching]

Gonna have to have him do more oral and more foreplay before sticking it in.

[Lliam]

Every girlfriend I was ever with was on the pill. We always went raw. I estimate that I've came inside women well over 5000 times with never a pregnancy scare.

[Asker]

Wish you could tell him that. He's too scared to even do that.

[OlderAndWiser]

Have you considered other forms of birth control?

[Asker]

No. Just condoms. He wouldn't go raw in me even if I did go on bc so it's pointless.

[OlderAndWiser]

So he will go raw when it is something other than PIV?

[Asker]

No he won't go raw at all unless it's giving a blowjob

[OlderAndWiser]

Is he a bit paranoid?

[Asker]

Yes he is

[Asker]

He doesn't even want to get high with me because he's afraid of going raw while high.

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you see this relationship moving towards long term commitment, possible marriage?

[slatyb]

Why don't you just get on some form of contraction? An IUD is set and forget.

[Asker]

Because he still wouldn't go raw even if I did go on bc

[bowenw]

You many want to consider going on the pill or some other form of BC besides condoms so the risk of pregnancy is very low. Also discuss with him how you would deal with a pregnancy.

[Asker]

Ok I guess I could do that but I see no point in going on the pill or some other form of bc when he still won't go raw with me if I was on it.

[bowenw]

I understand. Does he know for certain he will never want kids? If so, he could consider having a vasectomy.

[Asker]

I think he wants kids just not now.

[bowenw]

It seems no matter what solution you offer him he will never agree to going raw. I think you either have to accept him using a condom, ask him to satisfy you in a different way, or find a new boyfriend.

[Asker]

I guess I have to accept him using a condom then.

[bowenw]

Maybe experiment with different brands and styles to try to find some that feel better to you than others.

[Asker]

I tried the raw thin ones and those didn't even feel that good to me. Not like the real thing.

[bowenw]

I'm sorry to hear about all the trouble you're having with this. Would it help if you and him sat down with your doctor who could explain how low the risk of getting pregnant is if you went on the pill?

[Asker]

No he's dead set on using condoms.

[bowenw]

I looks like you are stuck with his choice. Hopefully he is not the same way with everything in the relationship where he has to have his own way.

[Asker]

Yeah hopefully not

[bowenw]

I wish you all the best. You are welcome to PM me anytime.

[Asker]

Thanks!

[Kabluie]

It's an easier sell to go raw if you are on birth control.

[Asker]

Not from this guy. He is just that scared.

[Kabluie]

i do think birth control makes a difference for many since can just let loose and cum, but you could be right too there are some guys that are pussy about raw because of no long-term experience of doing it.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Tell him you don't like condoms and maybe ta

[ImalwaysrightOK]

*talk to a doctor about an IUD

[Asker]

He said he wouldn't do it even if I did do bc

[ImalwaysrightOK]

He sounds overly scared. If you use BC there's virtually no chance unless he's not doing it for some other reason.

[Asker]

I don't know what other reason it could be other than he's scared he'll get me preggers even with bc. That's what be said anyways.

[anmolsaxena]

Tell him you want him to cum inside you and do it without condoms. Tell him straight he won't say no lol

[Asker]

He has said no. That's the problem.

[anmolsaxena]

If he doesn't want to then let me fuck you raw?😂😂

[Asker]

Lol...

[KatherineJ]

Are you wanting to be a mom?

[Asker]

Not at the moment.

[KatherineJ]

Well, in that case… Please use a condom until you are ready to be a mom.

[tfan1]

Definitely IUD.

[Asker]

He won't do it even if I do bc

[tfan1]

Hmm try with a polypropylene style condom. It’s thin plastic and hugs the penis better in my experience anyway

[Asker]

Ok thanks!

[tfan1]

You’re welcome and good luck 👍🙂

[DextroShade]

Get on birth control

[dudeinohio]

The pull out method is the least reliable and least comfortable for a guy. Its natural to have sex to completion, instead of stopping at the best part.

If you don't want condoms, get on birth control.

[Asker]

I didn't know that. We will just have to continue to just use condoms because he doesn't want to go raw even with bc.

[Juxtapose]

Get on the pill.

[Alex8736]

let him give you anal and he will 100% go raw

[peterrezeeek]

for me i hate condoms too.. i like to feel the wetness

[LEGENDARY4200]

Tell him as much and isn't that the point to cum in that pussy. Just let him try it... you can play just the tip. Once he gets a feel of that sweet sweet raw pussy he'll inevitably slip his whole cock in again and again and he'll probably be pounding away at you and cum deep inside before he even knows what happened lol then you can have it raw all the time just like your pussy deserves

[Asker]

Yeah he already put his foot down on it. He's so scared he doesn't even want to have sex while stoned because he's afraid he'll forget to put the condom on.

[LEGENDARY4200]

Hmmm, don't hurt to just ask him to try it. There's spermicidial lube and come on, that's when sex is the best. Might have to trick him, lol he'll enjoy it

[Asker]

How would I trick him?

[LEGENDARY4200]

Do you really want to know?

[Asker]

Yes I do lol

[LEGENDARY4200]

Alright I'll do what I can to help. How do you guys normally have sex? What positions? Any head or anything like that going on? where do you have sex? How long dose it last? and so on any details you have will help

[LEGENDARY4200]

You guys use lube?

[Asker]

Usually I'll give him head first and then it will go into missionary sex first and that doesn't last very long maybe 5-8 mins (he's not that experienced and neither am I) and then later it will either be doggy or cowgirl

[Asker]

No need to use lube. I get really wet really quickly

[Asker]

When it's my place it's either in the living room or in my bedroom. When it's his place, it's his bedroom because he has a lot of roommates where I just have one.

[LEGENDARY4200]

And use condom each time? What about for the head?

[LEGENDARY4200]

Glad to hear you get really wet lol like dripping?

[Asker]

There was two times we went without a condom. Once doing missionary at my place and once when I did cowgirl at his place. Ever since though it's been nothing but condoms used. No condoms used for the head.

[LEGENDARY4200]

Ok, how big is he? If you don't mind me asking lol

[Asker]

How is this going to help me get him to not use condoms?

[LEGENDARY4200]

You need to get him to try it doggy that's where the money's at

[Asker]

He won't go without a condom doing any position

[LEGENDARY4200]

Running sinarios through my head

[Asker]

Ok...

[LEGENDARY4200]

Is there any chance you can get wet enough to get the condom to slip? or grip it with your pussy?

[LEGENDARY4200]

Or bump up the condom size so it will slip or come off easier?

[Asker]

I'm not sure. I doubt it.

[Asker]

He would notice that lol I don't think that would work either.

[LEGENDARY4200]

Hmm hang on

[LEGENDARY4200]

I figured, but i have to throw it out there lol

[LEGENDARY4200]

And getting him baked won't work?

[Asker]

That's what I want to do but he doesn't want to get high because he knows that he will go raw if he does.

[Asker]

And I don't have a weed guy unfortunately lol

[LEGENDARY4200]

Sponge cake? Brownies?

[LEGENDARY4200]

Well then we gotta get him fucked up lol so he dose go raw so you can enjoy it lol

[Asker]

Yeah I would have done that but he's not with doing that. He doesn't want to get high with me.

[LEGENDARY4200]

Well, there are all types of edibles

[LEGENDARY4200]

Drunk?

[Asker]

Yeah I don't want to get him high without him knowing. That's kind of like rape lol

[Asker]

He holds his liquor well. I would get drunk before he would. He doesn't get drunk easily.

[LEGENDARY4200]

I guess lol. Well how bad do you want it. Cuz we gotta get creative

[Asker]

I want it bad lol but not enough to get him high without his consent.

[LEGENDARY4200]

Ever just try climbing on tpp of him?

[LEGENDARY4200]

I hear you just throwing stuff out there

[Asker]

Yes... that was the time we did it raw. But he won't allow me to do that again.

[LEGENDARY4200]

You can try it again get him all worked up and catch him in the moment. It worked before maybe it'll work again so you can have your creampie

[Asker]

Maybe. I'll give it a try.

[LEGENDARY4200]

can't hurt lol. You'll have to let me know. Make sure you really put that pussy on him go all out ride him or whatever till his heads about ready to blow like it's the last time throw some new tricks in there maybe some positions and just because he cums doesn't mean you get to stop keep on rocking his world show him what he's been missing lol and milk him dry

[Asker]

Lol okay I will!

[LEGENDARY4200]

Good luck lol

[msc545]

We have a name for people who use the pull-out method of birth control - they are called "parents".

[Anonymous]

There's no way of acting like a bitch without hurting the feeling of a guy. He's more mature than you, please respect him

[Anonymous]

I had the opposite problem. Before I was on birth control, none of my boyfriends ever wanted to use condoms. It was always the pull out method. Sounds like yours is just super cautious. You might not convince him to go bare but you’re right, it’s much better that way.