How do I get my boyfriend to stop wanting anal?

Lately he's been asking for it. Im a med student, so I find it completely unsanitary. 1) its unnatural and painful and 2) gross. How do I get him to stop asking me for it? Why do guys want it?
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  • What if you end up liking it? What if he ends up not caring for it? I believe that, in a relationship, there should be no boundaries between two lovers: you're for each other to explore. Is there anything you're curious to explore with him that you think he might not like? what about a compromise? About the pain, what if the two of you used tools / toys in order to get there gradually, in order for it not to be painful? About the medical stuff, I know it might be difficult, and I've been married to an RN who, at one point saw fecal matter all the time, but you (both of you) need to figure out a way to make things work between you two before you end up in a sexless relationship, you break up, or one of you end up cheating (which isn't the same thing as poly-amory or an open relationship).

  • Tell him no, that you find it disgusting and a huge turnoff. be honest how you feel about it, but don't make him feel bad for wanting it. its a kink and he needs to accept that it's not your kink.

    • I've said that, but every now and then he tries to guilt trip me.

    • tell him you'll take it in the ass if he does it first

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  • Just tell him that your answer is no and it's not going to change. Ask him to respect that if he respect you. That should be an end to it. It if isn't then he's starting to get into rapey territory. He should understand when there is a line in the sand.

  • I personally like it for the taboo feeling. But if it's unnatural, why do people have sensitive nerves there that feel pleasure?

  • Just tell him that you don't want to do that.

    I realize that's the obvious answer, but if he continues to ask, even after that, then sit him down and tell him that it's disrespectful of him to persist.

    If he values you as a person, and as a girlfriend, then he needs to respect that anal isn't something you'd prefer to do.

    Asking, after you've already told him "no" just shows that he's being selfish, by only considering his desires.

  • Text him, "If you come over now, we'll do anal all night ;)"
    When he comes in, you'll be on the bed with a strap-on on and a whip.

    Otherwise its a simple matter of respect for your partner. If he tries to make you feel guilty about saying no, then you shouldn't feel guilty about kicking him to the curb if necessary.

  • Let him do it once and fake (?) agonizing pain.

  • You tell himok but only if you can strap on a big dildo and fuck him in the ass first

  • Its kinky. Its dominance. Its, I did all her holes. But you dont want it. OK. You said so and he didn't care. So tell him if he doesn't respect that decision he can leave.

  • Tell him Quid pro quo.

  • I believe anal is absolutely disgusting!!! It's worse than a girl sucking on a guy's penis. Just tell him that you only want vaginal sex and vaginal sex only.

  • I don't know why guys like it when vagina feels better. It damages the anal sphincter muscle and can lead to bowel incontinence. Its the easiest way to transmit HIV to the "catcher" as there are microscopic tears. Google ANAL FISTULA to see what can happen with regular anal.

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