How do I get my guy friends to stop touching/groping me in school?

[Anonymous]

Every time I'm in school my guy friends would "hug" me and while doing that they would pull down my shirt or squeeze my boobs, or they would smack my ass or rub my pussy. It's so discusting & no one ever sees it. I tell them to stop but they act like they did nothing wrong they would just say, "all i did was hug you". I tried telling adults but they don't do anything and it's really getting annoying. One of them even tried to rape in the stair case but that was a past school i use to attend and I'm afraid that it might happen again at this one. Someone please help.

[MrOracle]

The following is NOT a "judgement" of you, but rather an explanation of perceptions.

These guys do this stuff, and continue to do it, because YOU LET THEM. Now, obviously you didn't ask for it, but the first time they did it, you didn't IMMEDIATELY, LOUDLY, VIOLENTLY react and stand up for yourself. At the very least, you should have raised your voice and pushed them away, but a slap/stomp/kick/punch wouldn't have been out of line either.

The fact that you failed to react, or react sufficiently, taught these guys that you were a "good victim" and that they could get away with it, and keep getting away with it.

Someone with a normal level of self-worth would have reacted immediately, and make a big deal out it the very first time, and chances are, they would have been labeled "not someone to mess around with" and things would have stopped.

Again, this is NOT a judgement - I made similar mistakes myself when I was in 5-8th grade, and let myself get picked on without really fighting back. It wasn't until I started fighting back, violently, that I was finally respected. It took a long time for me to realize that the school and the "rules" weren't going to save me, that it was up to MYSELF to do so. That was a lesson I learned the hard way, but I learned it well.

Bullies are good at finding people who are "good victims", who will let the bully get away with it again and again and not fight back. Learn to fight back against such transgressions IMMEDIATELY and LOUDLY the very first time they happen, and you'll find they happen FAR less often.

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

Call the cops right now. That'll show those little fuckers. It's not a joke... shit's going to hit the fan the second you open your mouth.

How old are you anyway? Your profile says you're over 18 but you sound like you're in high school?

PS. Those assholes aren't your friends.

[Gazala]

What. the. hell?

[Phoenix1991]

option one- the next time they try something stupid like that, punch them in the balls as hard as you can.

option 2- Revisit option 1.

[ironeddie]

Every one of these incidents is sexual assault. You have to go to the police. Even if you just want the police to talk to them. But the police may charge them regardless.

You are likely not the only one they are doing this to. These jerks have to learn that they can not do whatever they want.
There are consequences to some actions

[UlsterScot]

But she doesn't want to raise a stink and not even lose them as friends.. She just wants to modify behavior. A stomp on the foot or knee in the nuts will do that.

[ironeddie]

Then it's going to get VERY messy. How many times do you think a guy will put up with a stomp or knee, before the "hugging" escalates?

[UlsterScot]

In school? They won't. And if they did, they would become simple assault.. As it is, its hard for me to enforce because they could allege she invites the attention. An aggressive negative response proves she didn't.

[ironeddie]

And when she assaults the guys. She MIGHT also be charged. If she does nothing because she doesn't want to raise a stink or lose the friendship. It will continue and chances are get worse. Lord help her if she should ever be at a party. And her "friends" happen to be there too.

[Red_Arrow]

I guess the biggest question I have is why do you consider guys that repeatedly sexually molest you to be friends?

[Dionysos]

Next time, say stop and mean it. If he does it again stick your thumb in his eye, run away, call 911 and press charges for sexual assault.

[shacodraco]

Talk to your dean/principal about it. Or if you have an older brother have him threaten to kick their ass. I would be so pissed if you were my sister and that was happening to you.

[UlsterScot]

Wear solid shoes and stomp on their foot when they do it.

[celect]

report them.

[extraordinaryidiot]

This is sexual abuse. Report to the police immediately.

[Asker]

Yea i know

[kendo6573]

Absolutely right. They can't be allowed to get away with that

[ThisAndThat]

It's easy to get them to stop. All you would have to do is file charges on them. Problem solved.

[legalboxers]

report his ass to the teacher, then deck him

[curiouseinstein123]

They are not your friends period!!!
No means no make new friends you don't need guy friends anyway be independent trust yourself.