How do I get over the fear of fingering myself?

I've never fingered myself. am too scared to. any ways to make it easier? :(

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  • Go step by step...
    1. Start watching your vagina in mirror and being naked and observing yourself each body part...
    2. When you are comfortable with that then start putting your hand on your vagina... Cover it completely with your hand...
    3. Then start rubbing it... It will give you pleasure...
    4. Then start stimulating your clitoris... do it as long you get used to it... and you can have orgasam with clitoris stimulation...
    5. Then move to outer part of valva... That is outer and inner Lebia... play with it...
    6. Then use some lub before inserting your finger in...
    7. First try it with something smaller in width... but put condom on it before putting it inside you so that you will not have any infection...
    8. Then when you are comfortable move to finger... First start with one finger... Only press it against your vagina... no need to get it inside... slowly proceed... if it hurts the stop use some lub and start again...
    9. Slowly go deeper as you are comfortable...
    10. As you will get pro... you will start using more fingers by yourself... Its the first time that is hard... from second time you will feel pretty confident and relax...

    All this steps you don't need to do at one time... you can take your time and proceed... it could take couple of days to couple of months... do not rush into it... enjoy the journey... no need to it daily also... do it when you feel to do it or when you need to do it...

    • If you don't want answers from men... then be specific about gender to ask questions before posting it... don't waste our time...

Most Helpful Guy

  • Fear is always a very bad adviser, and still, what is there to be feared about fingering, set aside the harm done by taboos, silly hypocritical and pseudo religious educations?

    When you're alone in your room, just slide your hand down your pants between your legs and feel the gentle caress of your fingers along your vulva and clitoris. You will quickly know there's nothing to fear and most probably have a nice surprise. It's always healthy to explore and learn more about our body's features.

Most Helpful Girl

  • What's to be scared of?

    How old are you?

    Are your parents very religious, or have they taught you it's morally wrong? (It's not.)

    It's not something you have to overthink. It comes naturally, during puberty or thereabouts, when the hormones really start kicking in. All you do is just play and experiment. You can't do any harm. Just don't get caught, and keep others out of it for now. Don't get yourself in any trouble with guys. Don't send pictures, don't ask for help. Just have fun and learn and explore your body.

    • Gonna sound embarrassing, but I'm 20 and no, I not part of the religious crap. I'm just genuinely scared that might might hurt myself by doing it wrong.

    • It's not possible to hurt yourself, don't worry about that at all. Just use your hands, nothing more. (Forget electronic devices for now. Start simple.) Usually it's during the first sex that a female's hymen breaks. Occasionally it gets broken before, like riding horses or bikes. It takes something pretty abrasive to do that. It doesn't happen during masturbation (as far as I've ever heard.) So there's absolutely nothing to fear. You just rub, focus mostly on the clit (look up illustrations of exactly where it is if you want to), and keep going until it gets better and better, like climbing a hill in intensity, and then it finally breaks (like riding or rolling down a hill, lol) and wa-la. You know when you've had an orgasm when it feels reaaaally good, and then your body suddenly goes calm and still and you feel happy and relaxed. It takes practice. Some women are in their 30s or older and still haven't had one. So don't get upset if you are confused or don't know. Guys experiment much more. They always figure their equipment out. Girls are a bit more complicated or confusing, but it's an enjoyable part of the human experience (and relieves tension and stress) so I do recommend you experiment and play. It's not really up to men to give women orgasms. First, the girl must figure out her body, what works, what she likes, and then later you teach the guys.

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  • I probably shouldn't even answer this question because I have no idea I would say just take your time go slow be gentle in order for you to find out you have to experience it so go very slow motion and experience it you have to at least try to understand it you have to at least experience to understand it and then go from there

    • Yeah talking to another girl would probably be a lot better for you the only thing that I can tell you is the experiences that I've had with girls and also understanding the gentleness of it

  • Probably because you know lust is wrong. God wants you to repent.

    • Sorry man, but that point of view seems rather silly and a pillar of obscurantism. Discovering one's own body can never be wrong. There's nothing to repent about that.

    • @mstbooblover then go post your own answer. Stop trying to change mine

    • Actually I did post my own answer... Just scroll a bit down the page ;0)

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  • Just fantasize about something and let it happen

  • Go slowly and only do what u feel comtble slowly over time work up your confidence

  • Watch a porn video where a woman is pleasuring herself with her fingers, and try to duplicate what she's doing... to yourself.

  • Your pussy isn’t that scary it’s not gonna Grow teeth and bite your fingers off I think you need to Quit watching Horror movies for a bit.

    • No females have shared an opinion because like I said Your pussy isn’t that scary and Females would agree with me so Quit watching the horror movies your pussy isn’t gonna grow teeth and bite your fingers off.

  • Watch others do it (e. g. porn) to see that it is perfectly normal, then start slowly with yourself when you are very relaxed.

  • Ya just gotta go for it, and let your fingers to some exploring.

  • Being gentle is key even for us guys who like to stroke it, Gentleness is key.

  • there is nothing to be afraid of. Nothing will happen unless you force it. but if you don't want to do it anyway you know

  • Just do it, it won’t hurt

  • Cut your nails before and try with one finger first dont force more than one for the first time. PM or follow me if you have any doubts

  • Send me a message I would like to help you

  • Are you Virgin or what?

    • I am yes

    • You can't able to put your fingers in then, why you want to lost your virginity with your fingers instead of dick?

    • How is fingering myself "losing my virginity"? lol i'm not experiencing vaginal penetration

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  • use lube coconut oil or something

    • ofc if you are not allergic :D

  • Love how it’s all guys answering this. Like we have any fucking clue.

    • Indeed very interesting only guys answered. I guess guys know instinctively masturbation to be just natural, and having myself been married for 38 years I can tell you I know about female masturbation. Girls seem more shy and very reluctant to talk openly about that topic. That's why a guy with some experience can prove helpful.

  • Why are you afraid?

    • I've never done it before so it might hurt and i'm afraid i might cut myself with my finger nails

    • Trim your finger nails and file them smooth. Then start of slow focusing more on your clitoris and labia until you are wet.