How do I get rid of my urges for sexual intimacy?
It's so frustrating that I want to be kissed and touched but I know I'm going to die alone. I'm just so tired of being sexually frustrated.
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13 58About the only drug that has shown ANY hope at killing sex urges is a "GnRH agonist". This will help curb the pituitary from making hormones in the body.
I would think this should be considered ONLY in dire circumstances.
Another possibility is that you have Persistent genital arousal disorder (PGAD).
A joint meeting of yourself, your medical doctor and a counselor is in order.
Get a male sex robot.
They'll be here soon if they're not already in your local shops.
I hope they have customization options. The ones I've seen online aren't even cute
Calling BS. A robot won’t provide intamacy.
@Jackson8650 no but it's better than nothing
Sure.
Have you thought about, I don't know, lowering your standards?
There's someone for everyone.
When did I ever say that I had standards? This post isn't about dating
You think you'll die alone. You're telling me there is no guy out there for you, not even one in a wheelchair?
Probably not, but I'm not going to look, so by default, yes, I will die alone
A dildo will help.
How?
How? Look at an ugly guy or girl. i mean hideous. or take a cold shower.
What do cold showers do
I think your problem is not sexual urges but being single. Why are you not letting anyone in your life.
Sexual urges are the problem
Did u try masturbating
Of course, it doesn't feel good. That's why I'm so sexually frustrated
Try using dildos or vibrators. It should work u out.
I want physical touch
U don't want boyfriend or husband Then who do u want to be touched by?
A guy but it's too much work to find someone
U mean if that guy is a stranger you are ready for it.
What?
For kissing n getting touched?
What about it?
You're female, meaning you can find a guy. It isn't hard. He may not be Prince Eric or whatever, but many guys will have sex with practically any female.
I don't want casual sex
... There's no such thing as "casual sex." There is sex and there is not-sex. That's all. And why are you talking about sexual frustration then if you don't want to have sex? I'm not understanding.
I was seeing if there were any ideas for how I could get rid of it, like pills or something
You have the option of either 1) stop thinking about it, which won't work unless you occupy yourself immensely with doing other things, or 2) having sex.
Ok, I'll go with option 1
Good luck.
I still think pills would a better option though
Masturbation is the loneliest way of loving someone
What's your point
That's how lonely guys tend to cope is what I'm saying. I agree actually with an earlier opinion. Take up a new sport or hobby that might get you mingling with other available people.
I don't think that's what he meant. I think he meant that it would just be another way to release pent up energy
I agree, but I think the social benefit would be good and help solve your issue naturally 😊
I would workout alone though
Why is that? A new sport or hobby kinda forces you to meet people and learn new things.
I'm not very social. I prefer to just hang out with myself
What if someone approached you though?
I would talk to them but I wouldn't try to be friends with them
Do you want physical intimacy? Just curious as it sounds like you are challenged by your introverted nature.
Isn't that the same thing as sexual intimacy?
Yes, the same 😁
Then yes, I want it
Got to get brave then and go get it. You're actually lucky, women have the upper hand when it comes to decisions about sex.
That's just too much work. No one likes me
I find ya likeable 😁
No you don't. It's impossible. I'm just going to take some pills
That sounds like a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I'm sorry I can't help more.
Well it's not really temporary if it happens all the time.
I understand how you feel I haven't had sex in over a year
Don't be stupid... you're how old? You're not going without sex the rest of your life unless you're completely hideous and disgusting. Is that the case?
Yes, that is case
I don't believe you.
And why is that?
Hideous is rarely the case... and you can always alter your appearance. Send me a pic... message me for my e mail. I'll bet you're FAR from hideous.
I'm one of those rare cases. I don't know why people don't believe it when a person says they're ugly. I think they would know
message me for my e mail and send a pic. I just don't believe you.
No thanks. It's fine if you don't believe me, it doesn't matter
I don't.
So you think I'm lying then
YOU might think you're hideous, others won't. And there's hundreds of ways to make yourself look better.
Doesn't matter, I don't care enough to try. This post isn't about finding someone anyway
Very well then. The only way I know of to rid yourself of sexual urges is "mind and spirit over desire". You must transmute your base thoughts into higher energy. Hmmm... did that help? Oh, and stop masturbating.
Masturbation for one.
Do you have any suggestions that might actually work?
Look, Humans are social creatures, and like all animals, the drive to mate and breed are very strong and baked into our genes. So unless you are one of those folks who for some reason doesn't feel that urge, it's there. Some psychotropic medications affect it, almost like it has something to do with brain-chemistry! Other than that, burning the energy, and relieving the sexual tension - working out, masturbating that kind of thing. And don't focus on the issue - that will bring it to the fore of your attention and encourage dwelling on it, not helpful.
Any woman can get laid any time she wants.
I don't want to get "laid" I want intimacy, to be intimate with someone that I care about that cares about me
Stop thinking about it.
We all have our own fate
What's that supposed to mean
You want a new partner
Like I said, I'm going to die alone
Maybe not
It's all depends on your fate
That is my fate
You just need to find a nice thick huge cock to pound you for hours! (;
I don't know
Why don’t you know? 😂
I don't know if that's the solution
Anti depressants shuts that shit right off.
Have you tried masturbation?
Yes.
I know it's not the same as with a man , but how is that going?
I don't know what it's like to be with anyone but it doesn't help since it doesn't feel good
Masturbation doesn't feel good? Why?
I don't know the reason. Maybe my body knows it's me doing it and that's the problem
I don't think so. You're not relaxed enough. Have you tried doing it while watching an erotic movie or romantic one. Or reading an erotic book. Or porn if you think it might work.
I've tried all that. It doesn't do anything for me
Find yourself a man and you know from there...
That's too much work
No it's not. Men are simple. As long as you give a man food and pussy he'll be yours forever.
I don't know how to make someone like me
Read on the internet about how you can make yourself wanted by men. There are loads of suggestions.
That's just too much work, I'd rather get a sex doll
Good. Get a sex doll them.
I guess I'll be 57 when I actually have enough money to spend on one 😂
So basically nothing works for you?
What do you mean
No friends no boyfriend no sex doll no masturbation
I didn't say no to the sex doll. I'm just saying that it'll be awhile until I can afford to buy one, if I had the money now, I would buy one
I got that. But when the time comes you're probably going to spend it on something else that you'll find more important at that age. So still... No sex doll
No sex doll then, at least not yet
So what is your plan? What are doing with your life? What's next now?
My plan regarding what?
Life
Um, why?
Curiosity
I don't have any plans
You just go with the flow like? Don't you have a a career progression plan? A life plan? Husband? Children? Stuff like this.
I just go with the flow & no to everything else
Ok then. Good luck to you
Work out. Get into contact sports
Why would you die alone? Is it a religious commandment or something?
No, I'm going to die alone because it's rare for me to be attracted to someone and no one has ever been attracted to me
Well... I'm attracted to you 😘 So, you're half way there 😉
Like I said, no one has ever been attracted to me so I'm going to die alone
I know I don't know you and have no idea what you look like. But there's no way there could he anything that bad about you. I'm willing to bet anything on that. Now me on the other hand... Even if I pay women to find me attractive, they still can't do it. So, that part I won't argue with. The only way you can be a turn off is if 1. You completely have no sense of hygene. 2. You have a sadistic cruelty to all forms of life. 3. You wish harm and desolation upon other people. If you possess none of those three, then it doesn't matter what deformity you have, or blemish, or weight, or color, or disorder, etc... You ARE absolutely f*cking stunning. And hotter than hell in August... And I mean it... Don't make me repeat myself... 😘
I really can't stand when people lie. Please keep your absurdities to yourself
Lie about what? I even gave you a detailed explanation about the way I think and the principles I live by. I've dated a bunch of women that I was judged for, including by my own family, and I was only 15 then. You may chose what you want to believe. But, you can't call me a liar. Like i said before, I am and always was damn ugly (like... Scary ugly, and fat). That might have something to do with my principles, i don't know. But, I did not lie to you about anything. If you want, maybe we, can exchange pictures and see who feels what and how.
I just don't like when people feed me nonsense about my looks. I know what I look like.
I didn't feed you nonsense about your looks. I told how how I'm gonna feel about your looks because of "me" and certain things about me. Because, that's how looks are perceived. How you look to yourself, isn't how you will look to someone else. I would be more than happy to exchange pics. It wouldn't be the first time someone vomited at the sight of me. I'm used to it
See, I don't see a reason to exchange pics. You say you're ugly, I believe you. I say I'm ugly, you should believe me.
My god, you're so frustrating. And, it's really turning me on. You anger me to the point of wanting to have hard sex with you up against the wall with my hand over your mouth while I bite you all over and grunting loudly in your ear
Masturbation?
It doesn't feel good
Have you tried a vibrator?
No, I don't have the money for that
Are you sure some of them are pretty cheap low as £20 highly recommend you try lovehoney.
I literally cannot afford to spend a $1 on anything that's not bills, food, or gas.
Oh I see well in that case you could try some drastic things like a rechargeable toothbrush, clean cucumber or maybe even a shower head.
But I don't just want a sensation in one area. I want to be touched, kiss, feel his naked body on mine.
I mean you can try yourself with your own hands. I get what your saying I mean this is how guys feel 24/7 because women like to play hard to get a lot. But well your best chance is probably going to a bar getting a friend with benefit.
I don't want casual sex. I want intimacy, but I know it's not going to happen. That's why I was seeing if anyone had any ideas
You can get intimacy if you know the person. Never say never.
I don't think that will ever happen
It won't if you make no effort to talk to a guy.
You're right. I'm not going to make any effort to talk to anyone but that doesn't matter