How do I give her a safe first blow job experience?

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My girlfriend (24y. o.) has never given a blow job, and she had no plans to give one due to it being "bleeh".
I was fine with that, I have not even mentioned it. However, to mu great surprise, she's changed her mind and says she wants to try give me one. tomorrow.

I've recieved blow jobs before, but only from more experienced girls and I really want her to feel safe and have an enjoyable experience.
Anyone know what I can do to help her except the obvious "have good hygiene"?

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Dargil Master
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Know exactly what you need and coach her.
A good blow job has two elements: Bobbing and sucking at the head (glans) and hand stroking the shaft. But here's the deal when you are closing in on orgasm, the head needs less attention and the shaft needs more. Have her "nurse" on the head but furiously stroke the shaft.
Do not hold her head even if you want to, to avoid her choking and gagging.
Let her know when you are about to cum and pre-prepare her to roll her tongue up so you don't shoot down her throat and scare her.
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- Asker
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  Knowing what you need isn't always easy🤔 I don't really know myself.
- Dargil
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  All right. I'll post my Blowjob 101 boilerplate. This is what you need. Tell her you found it on the net. You did. Most girls do not know how to give an effective blowjob. They have to resort to trial and error because guys can't verbalize what they want. Over time, I have received quite a few and, as important, watched AV clips that ended in visible evidence of ejaculation. What struck me is how much alike they all were. So I laid out a successful routine. *What happens in the foreplay stage varies from guy to guy; teasing, play, etc. Many girls have certain teases that are good for starting arousal. I favor a nipples to knees erotic massage. The goal is to get us hard and flowing precum, but not too near to orgasm, so the "tank" has time to fill. While there's always some on hand, arousal induces emergency production of semen so volume will be bigger and orgasm contractions will be stronger. With little or no drama, here's what always seems to work. *A blow job is not romantic, interactive sex, it is one-way sexual therapy. You make it all about him. The best blow job is a combination of hand and oral. The head wants bobbing, sucking and licking, slick, soft and smooth. The shaft wants vigorous hand stroking. Conversely, vigorous stroking overwhelms the head, and the shaft doesn't respond as well to a mouth as it does to a hand. So a good blowjob is "suck and stroke". In the early stage, they can be synchronized, with your hand just below your mouth, bobbing and stroking in unison. Go to next post
- Dargil
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  *Once you start, never stop or slow down. Build steady tension to the finish. It is OK to level off to "edge" him for a short while, to make him last longer, so long as you don't lose ground. When he starts to buck and breathe deep, he is approaching orgasm. Go aggressive. Increase the intensity of sucking and bobbing to where you can sustain that for a few minutes and break away hand stroking to go as fast as you can with a moderate grip. *He wants to cum in your mouth while you suck and stroke. Be prepared for it and don't skip a beat. When he starts to ejaculate, stop bobbing and straight-suck only. Keep hand stroking, but at a slower pace, to coax out the last squirts. If you have a gag reflex at ejaculation, curl your tongue up to deflect the stream. Go to next post. *Stay "locked on" (sucking without motion) until he unplugs. It feels good to drain out and shrink away under vacuum. Also a little brief, occasional "suckling", like a baby on a pacifier, is a good tease while we drain. It will make him jump, but he will like it. *Be careful not to scratch or bite. It can put the fire out, particularly true with braces. *Deep throating and "face fucking" are useless porn antics. Your mouth and tongue will give a better sensation that your throat ever could. He may instinctively try to drive deep when he cums. It's nothing personal. It's biology. You can avoid choking by gripping his penis firmly in front of your mouth so he can't drive it in too deeply. Go to next post
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- Dargil
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  *Swallowing is up to you as it gives no pleasure but may give him an ego boost. I actually like her to spit the load into her palm so we see how we did.
  
  *There is nothing that will make a man feel more loved than a skilled blow job, where he can be indulged without feeling self conscious. Developing this skill can help cement your relationship and make it less likely he will cheat. A blowjob is "girl power".
  
  *One more thing, This Meme is funny but absolutely true.
- Asker
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  Yeah, this could work, but in my case this is about both of us, not just me. Or mainly her, really. I want her to have a good first time, of course that probably will be enhanced if I have a good time.
Anonymous
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In the shower maybe
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- Asker
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  That's actually not a bad idea, but sadly not an option for tomorrow. I guess I could ask her to postpone it.

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Anonymous
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Just let her know that she isn’t forced to do anything and that if she needs to stop then that’s fine, and just guide her and help her to understand what feels good for you.
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rraaee Xper 4
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Let her know what feels good/encourage her, don't just grab her head and hold it down/shove it in (unless she's cool with that) and do something that she enjoys.
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- swettannie
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  basicaly, comunication is the key

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purplepoppy Master
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Unless you've a 12 inch dick and grab her ears before skull fucking the shit out of her I would say BJS are safe enough anyway.
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- Asker
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  Even I wouldn't enjoy doing that...
In_Trance Master
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you're lame. just fkn do it.
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