How do I handle wife’s family teasing me on my foot fetish?

[Anonymous]

My wife’s told her sister that I have a foot fetish.

Now at her family events her sister and her mom both keep teasing me making it really awkward. Her mom will take her socks off and tell me to control myself as she does this. Her sister put her feet on my feet under the table forcing me to pull away. Her mom even put tried putting her barefoot on my face while watching tv. I push her foot off and then she shoved it back in accidentally cutting my bottom lip.
Instead of sorry she said it’s okay you can kiss my toes if it makes you feel better.

my wife says to just ignore them. The issue is that it is so awkward at these gatherings. They say it’s fun because they know I like there feet but think it’s funny because my wife obviously would not let me indulge

[OlderAndWiser]

Next time it happens, I would tell mom and sister that what they think is a joke is not funny to you and if they want their daughter's marriage to last, they should kindly STFU and stop their nonsense. Then I would turn to my wife and say, "It was INCREDIBLY stupid of you to reveal the secrets of our bedroom to anyone else and it was a violation of my trust in you. If you want our marriage to last, you WILL solve this problem since you created it." Then I would get up, walk out, call a Lyft, and go home.

What they are doing is conspiring to humiliate you and, if you do not address this, you will be disrespected again in the future.

A good marriage requires mutual lust, love, trust, and respect. At the moment, the trust and respect are missing.

[Asker]

Yeah we’ve been fighting a lot since for two reasons: 1. She insists that sisters tell each other everything and that I’m trying to get in between them by being upset at her for being open with her sister. This is pissing me off further since I find it illogical 2. She gives me these warnings before seeing her family. I’m not allowed to perv on them despite them purposely trying to put their feet all over me any time they have an opportunity to do so. And then the other warning is that I’m not allowed to start a confrontation with them. She says it will blow over in a few weeks or months. 3. Third thing is my father in law getting mad since his wife and daughter are sexually harassing me and I can tell he’s getting pissed low key but they just keep doing what they’re doing.

[OlderAndWiser]

This sounds like the beginning of the end. She is treating her sister as more important than you and refusin to accept responsibilty for causing the mess. I don't see a way for this to resolve short of divorce.

[AyaMya]

I'm so sorry, but it was actually cruel of your wife to out a fetish like that. She should have known better and thought about how it would affect you.

It's quite well known that fetish and kink already have a bad wrap and are stigmatised, she should have known better.

Feeling entirely comfortable and trusting with your SO is so important in both the foundation of your relationship and your sex life.

Perhaps you could galk to your wife to tell them to stop bringing it up? Getbher to tell them its uncomfortable and gross that theyre doing that. Or in worst case scenario, tell her to tell them she was only joking and made it up.

[Asker]

Oh they won’t stop. The more you show them it bothers you the more aggressive they get with it. It’ll either blow over for the most part in the next few weeks or months otherwise I’ll reaching my breaking point and just tell them off. Trying to avoid that second option so staying patient. But yeah it sucks because my wife told them something personal. Feet is a bit of an awkward one. It’s my only fetish in fact.. except for maybe the fantasy of hooking up with a girl I don’t know at all but I think a lot of people maybe fantasize about spontaneous sex with a stranger no strings attached never see them again? Or maybe I really am just weird LOL

[AyaMya]

Ahhh, crap... hopefully if you take your route and don't react to it at all, it will die off soon enough. I can assure you, there are worse fetishes to have and some can be entirely relationship destroying, not necessarily because of what they are but the way people react to them. A foot fetish is relatively normal in my eyes and not to be shamed. So many people have foot fetishes and having sex with a stranger is not even really a kink! One night stands exist so prevalently for a reason. And hey! I have a mask kink because I like the anonymity, deep down I know it's my husband but in playtime means a different anonymous persona! You should be able to express those freely behind closed doors with your wife without having the worry of her potentially telling people about it and being shamed. You're not weird, trust me!

[Asker]

Thank you I really appreciate your reply and your time. Yeah a foot fetish isn’t all that bad I don’t think either.. plus it’s one where they have to be super clean , nice skin, painted clean nails and not smell at all. I just enjoy the curves of nice feet on pretty girls As for the mask thing , that actually sounds so awesome … would help indulge in my stranger fantasy. Get lost in a world where it feels like it’s someone I don’t know.. just raw sex no emotional attachment. I really like this idea. Although I think I’m done bringing up any new ideas for quite a while to her LOL

[AyaMya]

Of course, you're welcome! I don't like to see fetish or kink shaming, it can be so damaging to the kinkster. And that's far tamer than some of the foot fetishism I've seen as well. I think a LOT of guys like to see a nice pedicured and well taken care of pair of feet tbh. Yeah, maybe don't bring it up just yet 🫠 but mask kinks are very hot! For now, your wife has broken your trust a little tbh and I think there's some trust building that needs to be done before bringing anything else into your relationship. But hopefully this has showed her a little about how bad things can be. And maybe she'll be a little more careful in the future with any luck!

[Quackthulu2]

Suck on her mom’s toes to establish dominance.

[JordanianNumetal]

Why did you tell them in the first place?

[Anonymous]

Meh maybe just enjoy their feet and that is that