How do I initiate sex with my husband?

[lizchill]

[Sangita93]

I am surprised very much because of your age and social culture of land where you are. It is generally believed that Indian girls from traditional families are shy and do not speak out anything about sex with anybody – including their husbands. Western girls are much bold and start enjoying sex – many times before getting matured for it. If you are feeling disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and / or divorce, first talk clearly with your husband and – if possible elders of your both the families or close friends – they are usually excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.

There is something comforting about having your husband be the one to initiate, when he initiates love making it gives you the confidence that he is in the mood and makes you feel desired. It may cause you to feel awkward or uncomfortable when you are the one who wants to broach the subject. However, Women initiating sex works wonders. Making moves to initiate and enjoy sex with your husband should not be anything you should be embarrassed or hesitant about, he will feel desired.

If you want to make the first move but not sure where to begin, do not be nervous. You do not have to be especially forward or do anything outside of your comfort zone to get his attention. Initiating sex is all about creating a buildup, and men are visual creatures. be spontaneous and start by offering him a massage or snuggle on the couch while you watch television. He will get the hint.

Many couples initiate sex by sending erotic texts and photos, sending your – personal naked photos is not always safe or private. Use suggestive photos of animals. Typing out your desires in clear words is also a great way to get his attention. I never said them dirty talks – they are love word. A simple line saying that you are waiting for him to get in bedroom (or bathroom for taking a shower together) followed up by a silly yet suggestive wink will send the message loud and clear.

If you are shy about initiating sex but still want your man to know you are into the idea, you can set up a naughty code-word in advance or as a puzzle for him. This sense of naughty mystery creates intimacy and boosts excitement between you and your husband. This way, he knows exactly what you want.

To be blunt: when it comes to initiating physical relations with husbands, subtlety is not your friend. Start by kissing him or sitting on his lap. Get close together while watching a movie and move your hand along the key parts of his body.

One way to make him wild, Instead of sticking to the old standby of making love before bedtime, try passionately kissing him in the morning before work, popping in on him in the shower, or making a move when you are out in the car. The spontaneity of this action will help make the moment feel heightened since it is out of the ordinary for you both. This will help you both to let loose and really shed your inhibitions.

[BlueScorpio]

Where something sexy, have a whole bunch of candles lit with sexy music playing in the background. Meet at the door with lingerie on, that will catch him off guard and take him by surprise. He will love it ❤️

[StickyFloorRicky]

Depends on how fat you are. The bigger you are, the more direct you are going to have to be. But I have to warn you, if you are NOT appealing to him in any kind of sexual way, it will be difficult for you in the extreme to get him into sex. He HAS to find you attractive in some kind of way.

If I were to give you advice? Skimpy clothes for a few days. Favorite food or dinner the day before sex. And the day of sex (if you're fat), corner him against a counter or wall, squat down and take him into your mouth. (If sexually appealing to him) wear a light short summer dress, sans underwear, and give him an "accidental" peek. If you can still excite him, he will pounce on you.

- Luck to you! -

[BJP21]

Turn a porn on, wear something provocative (every guy is different in this reguardles of how dumb it may sound), remember we guys love visual things, and help him get hard if he isn't already, speak of dirty sexual things as you give him a hand job, then give him oral after removing your clothes and his... etc

[MrOracle]

Most girls I've been with have a look - kind of "sex, pleeeese?" - that's always been more than enough to communicate their desires. But sometimes they'd just get their boobs out - there's no mistaking that.

[MrCommodore]

Be indirect, get his mind going by being sexy near him, but not with him.

[Red_Arrow]

Tell your other partner to tell your husband that you want sex with him.

[summiter]

Just get naked and tell him what you want to do to his body. How is your sex life with him?

[rachel776]

i would think just yell sex time! at the top of the stairs 🤷‍♀️

[Gracieg]

This is the most dumbest question I've ever heard sorry but someone had to say it.

[USLegionary]

Intiate?
Whip out your tits. Bend over to pick something up. Let him catch you in the shower. Let him walk into your bedroom masturbating with a sex toy.

[A_Bell]

I just grab his arm and pull him to me and say "let's fuck"

Or turn over in bed, and tap him on the shoulder and say the same thing

Also text messages.

[AviatorTom]

You slowly walk past him, turn, and say "Meet me in the bedroom", then slowly walk to the bedroom without looking back at him.

[Agape93]

Almost 40... and married.. how do you not know how to initiate sex?

[StickyFloorRicky]

Are you married? 🤨

[Agape93]

Hell no lol

[andreasderjuengere]

Be straight forward about it

[Agagagagaga]

Silly.

[stratford]

There are so many ways depending on the setting.

What kind of guy is your husband?

[Nik1hil]

At night sleep distance to him!..

In morning just when he wakes up, start with rubbing his chest or something and then start the BJ and switch to riding when he is hard..

And its that easy

[Massageman]

Pretty much any way you want.

Flirt. Send sexy pix. Whisper during dessert- about your SECOND dessert. Have special "days"- mud day, food day, turn-around day, cowboy day, tickle day, etc. Play strip poker, strip Monopoly, strip checkers, strip- well, you get the idea.

[StickyFloorRicky]

"... mud day..."? 🤔

[Massageman]

@StickyFloorRicky using a liquefied clay - instead of oil- for a type of mud massage/body masque.

[AsaKyo]

"Hey honey, you're lookin' pretty sexy~ Why don't you and I take a trip to the dream boat~? *wink wonk* I promise you won't be disappointed~"

[_Just_A_girl_]

Games
Or be blunt

[Keepitreal007]

Roll over and start rubbing his penis and balls until he’s hard. Then suck his penis until he’s super horny. Then sit on his cock and ride him hard and fast.

[Stevefiveo]

Dress in lingerie. He will get the hint.

[Snedger____]

Seduce.