How do I know if I’m bad at sex?

How do I know if I’m bad at sex or kissing? Or anything? I don’t even want to have sex or kiss people because I’m so insecure about it.

i would also like some sex tips if you’re feeling generous, nothing is off limits.

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  • Okay time out first of all do you have passion inside of you do you have love inside of you do you care about things people animals life if you I believe you have all those so I believe that you would be a good lover having sex or f****** or screwing or making love it comes from the inside is how you care this is one of the main reasons why when you make love or have sex with somebody that you care about them you care about them a lot and you better hope to take care about you a lot because otherwise they're just going to walk away from you they're going to use you then they're going to spread rumors about you because they were so terrible in bed they lasted 2 minutes got up got dressed and you're laying there WTF just happened you're finished already that's how 98% of all guys are so if you care if you like yourself if you have passion you will be good no matter what you do in life we all every single one of us on this planet has asked ourselves the same question when first starting out you will come to find out when it's time for you to find out when you're ready and it's the right person for you you will find that everything will be beautiful everything will be good when you're around people that you like when you are around people that you love what feeling do you get rushing through your body you're going to get that same feeling you're going to make it slow motion and tender and caring you're going to look deep into that person's eyes believe me you're going to be good do not even worry about it because it takes two people to do it when two Energies that's two people because we are made from energy two energies become one it is the most beautiful feeling in the world that's the only thing you have to worry about that and make sure this guy wears a condom he does not wear a condom you do not have sex do you understand me sorry I thought I was a dad again but do not let any guy talk you into anything that you don't want to do cuz they will try those are the guys that you don't want to have sex with because they're only being selfish and thinking of themselves you're not going to be that way you care you feel things you understand things you would be good don't worry about it but don't do it until you're ready

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  • As a woman, there are LARGELY only two areas where you have to do the work and have some technique, and that is BJs and "girl-on-top" positions - and often the guy will still do the work if you are on top. Both of these things will improve with practice, but riding also requires a fairly high level of fitness to go for very long, so you might be able to improve that way too. Because of the angles involved, you have to move your entire body weight up and down, using your legs, either on your feet or on your knees, and that's a workout. Doing relevant leg exercises will make that easier.

    Most of the time, the GUY is doing the work, and HIS technique and stamina is what is important, and most guys have some concerns about being found inadequate just as you feel - except this is a HUGE part of the male ego, so if he is found inadequate in this area, his whole ego can be destroyed, and he can feel totally worthless. In that way, he's risking more than you are.

    But the MOST important thing for you to realize is that 80-90% of what determines if you are "good at sex" to the guy is your ATTITUDE about it. If you are ENTHUSIASTIC about having sex with your man, and are willing to do things and try things enthusiastically, that's such a MASSIVE part of your guy perceiving you as "good in bed" that you can't even imagine.

    Unless you are with a complete narcissist (and, to be fair, narcissists tend to be very attractive, and so many girls do in fact choose them), then your guy WANTS to please you, and he WANTS to feel desired and accepted by you, so you being sexually enthusiastic for him goes a long way with him. If you can "let go" and let him pleasure you, and not hold back but let yourself go when the pleasure hits you, then it's almost impossible that he'll think you're anything but great in bed.

    And, to be frank, if you end up with his load of cum in you or on you at the end, you did just fine.

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  • I think everyone has a different style and way of pleasuring so i wouldn't say anyone is "bad" at sex because to one person you may not be sexually compatible with but to another guy you may be the best he's ever had. I believe it comes down to loving and embracing your sexuality and not being afraid yourself then assuming or worrying you're horrible at something. Different experiences too come with reflecting and knowing what you like and someone else like also if there's spark during the sex. I think it takes the right person.

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  • Stay a virgin. You will be glad you did in 5-7 years

    • Well I’m not and I don’t have regrets. Low body count though.

    • Alright. Me too. One hand.

  • Don't use your teeth.

  • I do not think anyone is bad at sex but we all can learn how to be better. Have you had a lot of sex and partners? Why do you think you are bad at it? If the guys orgasm when they have sex with you then they are enjoying it... what are your thoughts?

    • My ex boyfriend never wanted to have sex with me. He also would tell me I look like shit. It just made me so insecure about having sex.

    • Your ex sounds like an ass... I'm glad he is your ex and not a current one. He was not worthy of you. Put your chin up and move on... there are some good guys out there... be patient.

    • Thank you. ❤️

  • What a great question. I've kissed women who were amazing. I've also kissed ones that weren't so good. I feel like the difference was more in their attitude than their technique. The good ones seemed hungry for me. They were passionate and unrestrained. I think the same attitude extends to flirting, foreplay, sex; anything sensual.

    Wondering if something happened to make you insecure... DM if you'd like to chat.

  • You're not bad at sex. Perhaps you need more experience but then we all do. PM me and I can share what's worked for me and my partners.

  • It depends... according to your mood. If you feel like doing it as if you are fullfilling a task, so your boyfriend can have a good time then I can reassure you it won't be awesome and he can feel/sense it... yes that's causing the boredom.

    Sex is driven by emotions/emotional... a feeling... a sense of pleasure... a sense of willingness... a sense of unlimited imaginations and phantasy. Head/mind is turned off. And not an. exe data on your brain to run the programm so everyone could have fun.

    Don't force it.

  • Yes. Some women can be bad at sex and be just terrible lays. Other women will blow your mind.

    You’re safe though. No man will ever tell you that you’re bad in bed because some pussy is better than no pussy. That’s basically a relationship ending thing to say.

  • You have sex, then ask them how it was, and if they are critical of x thing, you do it differently the second time, and you repeat this until you are in tune with what they want

    Meanwhile, they are doing the same for you.

    Don't get offended if they don't like something or think it wasn't good, that info is useful, and gives a reason to try out new stuff.

  • Its hard to know if you're good or bad. It may sound cliche but you'd have to do it a number of times before you find out. The other way is to ask your partner. Ask what he likes, doesn't like, and what you might need to work on.

    • Well my ex boyfriend never wanted to have sex with me. I always had to initiate it.

    • I guess even if you are bad at it then so what? Everybody is at some point.

  • If you just lay there and don't do anything that doesn't help. You need to physically get into it with movements, add in some moaning and throw in some dirty talk. Communication is very important. Also, say his name a lot when you're doing it. Pump up his ego and talk up his D. This gets him excited and more willing to be unselfish and do things to you that you like.

  • If you just lay there like a log during sex and you don't have any passion then you might be bad at sex. You can dm me and I'll try to help you to be better at it. You would have to explain what your actions are during sex. Then I can give you advice

  • Hi there, to be honest no one is born knowing if they are good or great or bad at anything,, I will say this first off. You need to learn how to please yourself before you can please others,, sex like anything is a learning as you go kinda thing,, the more you enjoy pleasuring your body you will be able to give some of that to others. If you put your mind body and soul into something it works out more then it does not. good luck and I hope this helps a little or a lot.. but its me being honest and learning from experience its true you will find out one day.. have fun be safe and enjoy all live and love and sex have to offer as for kissing you need a partner first lol.

  • You could always ask.

  • Find a friend you trust and give things a try with him. let him know why you're doing it, he'll probably enjoy it, and you'll get kind constructive criticism.

    And my biggest tip is, don't be fake. If you're faking anything from enjoyment to enthusiasm to orgasms, it will make it less enjoyable for your partner and you.

  • You need to do it more often or else you can't improve

  • I wouldn't mind answering questions but I would think you'd like it to be kinda personal since you are anonymous.

  • First off. You don’t need someone that doesn’t have any kind words to say about you.
    Then find someone that is willing to go slow and enjoy your beautiful body. Seems that most people are in such a rush to finish that you miss the closeness of the act.
    Good luck!

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