How do I know if im good at giving blowjobs or of im bad at it?

The guy im currently dating came the first time i gave him a blowjob. The second time he started to jerk himself off im my mouth near the end of the blowjob. Does that mean what i was doing wasn't good enough?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • The first time, he most likely came from novelty and excitement. The second time, the BJ failed because your skill set. I am not being cruel. Most girls do not know how to give an effective blowjob. You have to resort to trial and error because, in my opinion, guys can't verbalize what they want. Over time, I have received quite a few and, as important, watched AV that were not long and ended in visible evidence of ejaculation. What struck me is how uniform they were. So I took the time to summarize the successful routine. I've posted this here before.
    *What happens in the foreplay stage varies from guy to guy; teasing, play, etc. I favor a nipples to knees erotic massage. The goal is to get him hard and flowing precum but not near to orgasm so his "tank" has time to fill. But there are some guidelines for the main event that I think are absolute.
    *A blow job is not romantic, interactive sex, it is one-way sexual therapy. You make it all about him.
    *The best blow job is a combination of hand and oral. The head wants bobbing and sucking, slick, soft and smooth and the shaft wants vigorous hand stroking.
    *Once you start, never stop or slow down. Build steady tension to the finish. When he starts to buck and breathe deep, go aggressive. Increase sucking and bobbing only as far as you can sustain for several minutes. Break away hand stroking and go as fast as you can.
    *He wants to cum in your mouth. Be prepared for it and don't skip a beat. When he starts to ejaculate, stop bobbing, suck only, but keep stroking a little more slowly to the last squirt.
    *Stay "locked on" (sucking without motion) until he unplugs. It feels good to drain out and shrink away under vacuum.
    *Be careful not to scratch or bite. It can put the fire out.
    *Deep throating is a useless porn antic. Your mouth and tongue will give a better sensation that your throat.
    *There is nothing that will make a man feel more loved than a skilled blow job where he can be indulged without feeling self conscious.

    • Thank you for the advice. I had previosly dated a guy for over a year who never wanted oral, so im rusty. With the guy im currently dating, the second time i went down on him we were in the shower. His cat jumped all of the sudden halfway in the shower aswell, so that took us both a bit out of the moment. Migjt also have something to do with it

    • The best BJ is not on impulse. It is physical therapy. Take him to the bed and serve him like a therapist.

  • A big reason that the male orgasm happens (best) from head is when there is a very steady rhythm stimulating the tip. "Deep throating" is not such a big deal because all that does is simulate the experience of being in the warm wet snug vagina. During intercourse, it is the tip being touched and stimulated that causes excitement and orgasm.

    Keep in mind, all the best BJs are also a bit of a hand job as well so don't be afraid to give your mouth a break.

    And don't forget the balls! They get lonely and are STARVING for female attention. So, sometimes use your fingers or hand such as cupping or teasing testicles or the penis.

    Google "Fellucia Blow" and STUDY those videos. Those women are experts at fellatio and genuinely love it. The sensuous BJ really is best both for the guy and for the woman. Watch and notice how easily they do it yet aren't choking or getting sick. And watch how they switch between mouth and fingers.

    Also, look into videos for:

    A) lingam massage (tantric massage for the male genitalia)
    B) yoni massage (tantric massage for the female genitalia - he should return the favor).

    That said, consider studying good hand-job videos. All you then have to do is imagine doing what the woman is doing with her hands and fingers, but instead replace with lips, tongue, and mouth.
    I'd upload a video, but it is not safe for G@G. PM if you want the links to two such videos.

Most Helpful Girls

  • If a boy is getting a BJ, he isn't going to complain, because a girl is sucking his penis, that is a win win situation. As for why he pull out of your mouth to jerk off, he likely wanted to watch his cum, splash your face as opposed to it being in your mouth where he couldn't see it.

    • He didn't pull out though. I still had him in my mouth while he started to jerk

  • Nah some guys have a difficult time coming. If you’re worried you’re not good, watch videos or read about it.

    Also pay attention to how he reacts while you go down on him. Learn what he likes and do that more

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  • He probably just wanted to finish

  • Maybe he just wanted to be adventurous it's only like you rubbing your clit when get ducked

    • I never rub myself during sex, since i dont like to matrubate

    • It was just an analysis of what it would be similar to

  • Ask him what he likes you to do when you suck him

    • Also. Find someone you feel comfortable practicing on. You know cozy. There going to be honest and gentle with you. You should never have a bad experience with oral. What I mean is. Your partner should never make you feel bad about anything sexual you do. Also. I have not got all the names down yet but it sounds like that one gal wants to help you out. Turns me on. Honestly. I think you two should use me as your training doll. I'm older. Good looking. Very clean and I love receiving blowjobs and am good at delegating what I like. Most me like actually

  • I doubt it! Girls really CAN'T be bad at blowjobs... I think he invited his hand into the mix to heighten the pleasure...

  • A lot of guys seem to have issues getting off during blowjobs I don't know if it's because of a girl skill or just because that's the way blow jobs are. Sometimes you just got to put yourself over the edge you said you don't masturbate but a lot of girls do that during sex. They will rub their clit to get off quicker.

    • I think mastrubation is super awkward, even though i can make myself cum from it. I prefer to cum from stimualtion from my partner or through penetration

    • Well I suggest trying it once while he's fucking you and if you don't like it you don't like it but it may enhance your orgasm when you do it. And since you said you know how to come from masturbation you should know how to rub it the right way.

  • talk to him. it's the best way to knoww

  • Try it on 10 guys, ask if it was good, and see how many thought it was nice?
    I don't know

  • No, that means he was trying to fuck your mouth. When he does that, clamp your lips tight around his cock, just like pussy lips, and he will shoot a load in your mouth.

  • If he cums, you did a good job.

  • I could tell you. Lol

  • you will know when he cums in your mouth lol

  • You should just ask

  • If he does that again, just move his hand and do fast deep strokes. He's close to cumming

  • Play and lick the balls swallow

    • He is not into ball stuff

    • I like it when you can see cleavage while she’s doing it

    • What does that have to do with my question?

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  • If he comes you’ve got it

  • Suck as many cocks as you can. You'll get good at it.

    • Lol is that what you do?