How do I know what makes me feel good sexually?

I recently started having sex sofh my boyfriend apart from that I don't have any other sexyal experience. It hasn't been great but not horrible, just okay) but I don't know how I can help him find the way I like 'it' when I don't know what I like. How can I figure out what works for me? (Not bashing on him, I love him very much)

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  • There’s not too much to it. If you both are new to it, as you get more experience you’ll understand how to enjoy it more.
    My recommendations
    1. Do not skip foreplay, (most people view it as stuff you do before sex, and if theyre horny theyll skip it.) this is where you will get the most experience and learn what is enjoyable plus sex is exhausting, so this will help get the most enjoyment out of it, which will let you guys go longer (if needed) . youd be surprised how much pleasure you2 can get from your hands/mouths
    2. Experiment, try new things. Lots of people enjoy choking, butt stuff, using toys, bondage etc. but you won't know what u like until you try

    Some quick tips in the mean time.

    Have him put some pressure just above the 🐱 below your bellybutton.(cowgirl is usually where you can get the most pressure)
    For missionary same spot but a little thumb wiggle in the clitty kitty area may also help a lot.

    Menthol cough drops for head, (its like icy hot, but safe for the your and his areas)

    Hope this helps.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Google different kinds of positions and then look up porn of those positions. My personal favorite is reverse cowgirl. Find a few that make your pussy the wettest and then try them out with your boyfriend.

    Google blowjob techniques and pussy eating techniques and watch porn of those things and try them with him.

    Then try googling different types of porn and see if there are any fetishes or kinks that get you wet. And then can you guess it? try those with him.

    Some stuff to look up would be like, rough sex, threesome, anal, outdoorsman different stuff like that. See if there's anything that excites you

    Chances are if you get really turned on watching something, you'll get off actually doing it.

    Good luck

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  • Better a question for girls. But having an orgasm should tell you. Short of that, quickly getting very wet from intimacy should tell you.

  • that can take a bit to figure out, and some experimentation.
    Talk about it, try different things.
    I had one girlfriend that could only have an orgasm when she was on top.
    We did all sorts of stuff but finished that way.
    Everyone is different, so try new stuff and hopefully your eyes will soon be rolling back in your head, and you won't be able to talk in a complete sentence.

  • You simply have to try experiment and try different things until you find things you like. Read books and websites about it and watch porn for inspiration, keeping in mind porn is mostly for entertainment and not intended to be educational. Please feel free to DM if you wish.

  • Trial and error is what someone else meant to say. Lol. Spelling.
    And I for one would say, condoms, lube, safe sex, doctor approved birth control for her, and condoms for him, check if you're not latex or rubber allergic or lube ingredients allergic, and or birth control allergic.
    And enjoy the time of your 20s, banging away, learning new things all the time, even from the internet or the medical profession

  • Trail and error.

  • take your time, it'll come naturally.

  • Experiment it's just trial an error to some extent

  • try the possible things.

  • He makes you feel really good.

    • Have tried talking to him about this?

    • I have not, I feel embarass talking about it

    • Well, try to look past that, and don’t be afraid to ask him what makes him feel good.