How do I make love to someone? what do guys like to hear?

It’s a bit awkward when I’m on top, I don’t know what to say or do. This time I’m having sex with this new guy and I don’t want to just say things like like it’s feels so good & have him thinking it’s just about sex you know. I’m going to kiss him some times and lick his ear so far lol.
How do I make love to someone? what do guys like to hear?
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If it feels good I’m going to express that it does. Guys just think it’s al about sex and their dick size so i want to add a little bit of romantic things to say to him too but it’s whatever
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  • Well you really don't need to say anything. You really don't.

    I think you're doing something awful to yourself if you are saying anything planned.

    First, you're putting a huge unnecessary pressure on yourself. I mean... it sucks if you can't think of the proper thing to say in the moment under normal circumstances. You don't have to worry about that during sex. You get a break from having to say anything.

    Now, aside from that... from the male perspective... I'll tell you flat-out... guys don't want to hear anything that isn't a genuine, spontaneous and an unconscious response. If you are saying it because you think you should say it... you really shouldn't say anything at all. I'm serious about that. That true (nearly) universally.

    But I re-read your question, and... it struck me as kind of an... odd way that you seem to look at sex.

    So, while... you're right that "it's not just about the sex" insofar as there is a whole lot more that goes into sex (decent sex anyway) than like actual penetration... I am on the same page there...

    There was something that struck me as really really wrongheaded "... him thinking it’s just about sex you know."

    It could just be the wording you happened to use and might mean nothing but...

    the idea that the guy shouldn't be thinking it's just about the sex is... just... a... weird way to look at that.


    I think what you're basically actually saying is that you want sex with this guy to incorporate other elements of physical intimacy and affect (kissing etc etc). Again... cool. I agree... that's all well and good...

    But the idea that you... in any way... don't want him thinking it's just about the sex... is twisted.

    You DO want him thinking it's just about the sex. You want him to lose himself in nothing but the sex. But kissing, biting his earlobe and all that good stuff... well that's just PART of the sex. It's not like... something separate and outside of sex... I don't know if I'm making any sense. I know what I mean though... I swear.

    • Good answer. When she said not making it about sex it made me think she wants to read him like a bed time story or something while she’s on top lol or whispering in his ear that she is going to make him a nice meal afterward lol

    • I think it’s strange If it’s planned too i just want to compliment him a little I don't know because guys usually make sex or their dick size a big deal so When I’m complimenting his sex moves and dick i don’t want to sound like a whore basically just pointing out the objectives and not connecting more other than what’s sexually happening in the moment.

    • Girl trust me, he wants you to be his little whore during sex. 😭 not meaning that in an objectifying way, just saying.

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  • Ok yes lots of 4 play at first, then you get on top of him , sit down on him slow, very touching your pussy to his cock, as if your giving short little butterfly kisses, then slowly sit all the way on to it do not penetrate, put your hands on his shoulders or his chest, in slow motion slide your hips forward and back, forward and back, and when I say slow motion I'm in slow motion, each time pushing down harder until your pussy is straddling each side of his cock can you slide it forward and back in slow motion until you have him soaking wet slide all the way forward he said this time have his cock in front of you as if it's yours slide your pussy all the way up against it but his cock is erected in the air, I'll start stroking it with your legs spread as you face him, this is where you can get really kinky, has you're stroking it you could tell him too bad his girlfriend wasn't there so you can fuck her with your cock. But we'll leave that look for another time start sliding your pussy up and down is God go all the way to the head of it and then back down his balls keeping his cock soaking wet in between your pussy lips until you can't take it anymore it's like all the way up on top of it slowly let it penetrate you side your legs back up on your knees as you stuff the head of his cock inside you only took out the quarter of the way and then back up teasing and seducing. You stuff it inside,, until once again you can't take it anymore and then stuff it all the way deep hopefully he'll grab ahold of your hips and he won't let you move rolling you over onto your back and then it's his turn and if he knows what he's doing this is where the fun fun starts

    • Sorry just read the rest of the question damn , oh well yeah I guess I could add it a lot more to that if I would read the whole thing at the same time well maybe next time

Most Helpful Girls

  • I usually kiss my boyfriends neck on top, I tell him how great it feels, how I’ve been wanting it all week/day , how big his dick is, how my pussy is so wet for him, I bite his ear and lick on his ear. I guide his hands to my ass/boobs, I even suck on his fingers. Works everytime. Guys want to hear that they are doing a great job in bed so anything along the lines of praising his sex will get him. When I want him to cum I say “cum for me babe, babe please cum for me , cum inside my wet pussy” lol stuff like that , sorry graphic

    • No I love this answer, I just need to b chill and express myself and be in the moment it’s not just about sex

    • That’s hot

    • I also none stop kiss him. Lol I love intense kissing

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  • Some guys don't like it when you lick their ears.
    Tell him how much you want his cock. That you crave it, can't stop thinking about it, you get excited just mentioning it.

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  • i can give you detailed point by point guide on what to do to seem spontaneous and lively in bed, but its honestly different person to person, IF you like being on top then you should learn how to be good on top and how to thrust/rock your hips enough to make him orgasm and you need to learn how to be comfortable and how to kiss your boyfriend and do all kind of things while making him stimulated to cum

    but if you enjoy him being on top, then its actually easier, you just need to learn how be relaxed enough that he can feel you're arousal by your moves (hugging close, sudden need for very intense kisses, etc)

    also just a tip from me : if you want him to feel more close and intimate, let him inside you (with a condom of course unless you want to) it feels MUCH better and personal to cum inside a girl than to pull out and com on you

  • You don't have to say anything. Communicate with your body.

  • Let the guy take the lead

  • Do what feels natural. Do not over think it. Most of all enjoy yourself.

  • Feel free to dm if you want to discuss

  • Guys like to hear how you feel and detailed descriptions. If his dick feels good then tell him. If you are horny and wet let him know. If you want him to go deeper tell him. Also we like heavy breathing and moans so let your body take over.

    • Also when you are on top, tease him. Slide your lips over his cock but don’t put him in just yet. Or rub your boobs against his face and then sit up. You are more in control so if you are happy and bringing energy he will be turned on!

    • Cool I’ll keep it in mind. i want to flirt with him though not Just in a sexual way.

    • In the moment when you are on top of him being dirty and teasing is best. But during foreplay, after play.. even the next morning you can be romantic and say nice things he will enjoy hearing

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  • Move your hips up and down (make sure the dick is inside you first ) keep on moving it until he is done we like to hear moaning and if it feels good

  • Why do you feel the urge to say something?

  • we like to hear u moan. dts the biggest turn on

  • Just enjoy from sex, don't think anything..

  • While you are feeling awkward while on top, he's feeling fantastic, because you are riding him. He loves it! When on top, all you need to do is slide up and down on his shaft, and let your tits bounce up and down. What you say is secondary. You can tell him things like you love his cock in you, that you love riding him, you're so big and hard, feel my tits, etc. And lean forward some of the time, so your tits are right in his face.

  • Just say stuff like “you feel so good inside me,” or “I feel you so deep inside me,” or “you fill me up so good.” And then when you can tell he is getting close, hoarsely whisper in his ear “Cum inside me baby!”
    Trust me...

  • Awkward when ur on top because his dick is too big or what?

    • No like i just don’t know how to react lol I can handle his I didn't say I didn't.

    • Ahh ok. I know some girls have problems handling the guys when they’re on top riding. Have u had sex before?

    • Yes.

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