How do I make sure that the next person I share my body with (have sex with), share a lot of intimate memories with, etc? Will fall in love with?

[Anonymous]

me and want to marry me and be a father to any children we share? ? !

[shanshu]

You don't, it's all about taking chances on dates and who you decide to " share your body with.

You just have to see if the date leads to a relationship and go from there.

You could just go on dates and with old sex and see which guy hold on longest but some guys do like the chase.

Maybe check out those big dating sites like "elite" and maybe the company site can match you with someone you want.

[Anonymous]

Be a high value woman, and don't sleep around with low value men.

Why have modern women lost sight of these simple principles?

[AsaKyo]

That's pretty difficult in today's world, ma'am

[Asker]

Why? Why have a lot of people's moral's gone down? I don't understand?

[OlderAndWiser]

Don't have sex early in the relationship.

[sw1916]

You cannot ever make sure of that.

[Berethor]

36-45? you really stretching it, you should got married much sooner, now it can be too late.

[Paul_in_Indy]

If you do it in that order, you can almost guarantee he will not.

[Asker]

Why? What incentive does he have to stay if he's NEVER experienced or TASTED being with me in those types of scenarios? ! Is he just supposed to TRUST his damn immagination? ! Ugh..

[Paul_in_Indy]

If you want him to fall in love with you, I strongly recommend that you focus on the relationship before the physicality.

[Asker]

You mean like a PLATONIC friendship... lol. Guys never know what they want!

[Paul_in_Indy]

You are still conflating sex with love. Trust me, trying to attract and attach a guy with sex will not result in romance. Guys are happy to accept a Platonic relationship including sex. A romantic relationship, however should progress from love to sex.

[slatyb]

You can’t. There are no guarantees. Sex is just sex. Don’t think of sex as something for you to give to a man. Instead think of it as something two people do together.

Your choice is to have sex early in a new relationship, knowing that most relationships don’t last, or, to abstain until it feels like he’s going to stick.

[Asker]

But why though? ! Why do people CHOOSE to degrade one of the most INTIMATE activities you can do with another person like that! It has the potential to create a forever SOUL TIE if you let it! The act also can produce new life if given the chance and the couple was young and healthy and all that jazz! So I don't understand how people can be so immoral. Prostitution is also immoral under the eyes of God! Plus, the CHEMICALS that go through your bloodstream must mean something! I am not about to WASTE my youth and potential to make children on some no good asshole/scumbag but I took that risk! I am sure there are guys that WANT a marriage and family, I just know it! Otherwise, there wouldn't be so many people going down the aisle since like the 1800's! You know what I mean! Don't CHEAPEN connection like that! Whether physical or emotional! It's just not right!

[slatyb]

Why what? Why is not important. You have to deal with the people who are here, not people as you would like them to be. "I am not about to WASTE my youth and potential to make children on some no good asshole/scumbag" Who suggested that? It's your choice to have sex or to abstain. If you decide that you will abstain until marriage, it will reduce the population of men willing to date you. Most people prefer participation to abstention. For at least the last 80 years about 90% of Americans had sex before marriage. I expect it's about the same in the rest of the developed world.

[Asker]

Then that's okay, I'd rather not participate in that stuff. You can't just tell me to DEAL with ass holes just because they exist! That's stupid. I have the right to PROTECT myself and avoid problematic people/jerks like that! I know there are still good people that exist you know. And they don't have to be priests and nuns either but those are just one examples of people that have made a vow of chastity, often times when they are still quite young. I do like that stuff but there are CONSEQUENCES to every action you know, especially that stuff. By what you wrote, you're just telling me to keep doing the same thing over again and hope for something different. My dad said that was insanity. I don't mind not being married if they cannot even be PATIENT and KIND enough to respect me and the things I want in a relationship. No thanks, I'd rather not be hurt!

[Asker]

At least again. Not sexually to where I have a chance at getting attatched to having his D ick inside me and his RUNNING away! Makes no sense. Even if, especially if, I ever get pregnant.. People need to GROW UP sometime and be responsible and not HURT people!

[BarryLiverstone]

By waiting to have intercourse until there are mutual feelings?

[MikeInHawaii]

Stop putting the cart before the horse. Fall in love and get married first.

[MountAverage]

You can't, obviously.

[Twalli]

Wait on having sex

[Anonymous]

'the next person I share my body with'

That has already diminished your chances. But if you stop seeing sex as casual from now, there may be a better chance. In short, until you can truly love yourself, no one else will (the cliche is true).

[Asker]

1. When I chose to share myself with my ex, it was definitely not because I didn't love myself. I was horny lol and he was too and well... 2. Read the comment that I wrote for @paul_in_indy.

[Opinion Owner]

Given the gravity of sex, is doing it just because we felt horny a good enough reason to create a potential soul tie and a new family?

[Asker]

1. I didn't mean to. I was 31 (him 40) and condoms and birth control pills were just too easily available. 2. Yes, my mistake, but I was also wishing deep down he'd fall for someone like me for some reason.