How do I move towards sexual territory in a relationship? Will things fall into place naturally? Or are there certain indications that I should know?

[Jack9949]

What’s up everybody!

I been dating this girl for a few months and we been vibing daily but I honestly kinda wanna bring some new excitement to the table. How can I progress things forward?

I mentioned the idea a couple months back of getting sexual with eachother but she kinda didn’t feel ready for it at the time. So I respected her boundaries.

So I been keeping my mouth quite since but will she give me some sort of indication when she feels ready? I mean how long might this possibly take?

I’ve dated other girls in the past who were very blunt about it and developed a sexual interest much earlier on.

Some flat out just asked me to show my penis after a few dates and I honestly felt pretty happy about that.

But the one I’m currently dating has apparently had sex with prior boyfriends so I’m unaware of how far in the future that I might have to wait.

But is there a general rule of thumb I should know about?

I mean it seems as though every girl is different when it comes to timing.

But do they all express themselves in the same way when they feel ready?

[kyleelyn199723]

Sounds like she’s trying to be different than her other relationships as they may have not worked due to giving it up “too early”. The only thing I can say is ask why she feels how she feels about the sex thing. You have a right to be curious.

[Jack9949]

Yeah but I really do love her though and I consider the relationship itself more important than the sex.

[kyleelyn199723]

I agree but you have needs as well and I think questioning her agenda behind it is reasonable. Doesn’t mean you have to push her to have sex. You hold sex to a certain level of importance and I think that is also important to make a relationship work. You are a very respectable guy though to wait 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

[Jack9949]

I really don’t want to force her into an idea she isn’t comfortable with though. It was foolish of me to have brought it up so soon.

[kyleelyn199723]

I personally don’t think it’s ever too soon. You like her (maybe even love her) and are attracted to her. It’s pretty reasonable on why you would want sex. It’s natural. Maybe wait one more month and then see what’s up with it.

[Jack9949]

I gotcha. I think a month wouldn’t be a bad idea

[Anonymous]

Depends on the girl. She may not be ready until she feels like she is fully comfortable and secure in the relationship to move to that next step. It took me 8 months into dating my boyfriend to finally do something even remotely sexual.

[Jack9949]

Yikes. So long as you loved him adequately.

[Opinion Owner]

Aha he was grateful we waited and took things slowly. It worked out for both of us. Some guys are too impatient.

[Jack9949]

Nah yeah I totally agree.

[BakedBeanieBabie]

By talking to her about having sex and seeing where she stands in a non-pressuring, casual way.

[Jack9949]

Totally cool. But concerning the girl I’m currently with. Even the very idea pissed her off

[BakedBeanieBabie]

I guess you two aren't having sex then. If it makes her upset then that's a clear sign she's not into it.

[Jack9949]

Yeah. I just left it alone after that happened

[Jack9949]

If she ever cares to get it. She knows I’m still open.

[poneglyphs]

I have no idea also but tips would be nice too :)

[Jack9949]

Yooo stay tuned brother. We might get some good answers! 👍

[poneglyphs]

kk, dude

[Jack9949]

I come from a strict religious family so I’m startin to tread new waters

[Anonymous]

Depends on her body coount. If it's more than 5 and that's through relationships , then she's probably taking it real slow or she doesn't like you sexually